DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

[Lolabear38]

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

@tunamayo81 I am genuinely intrigued to know why you believe feeding reheated food to children is "appalling". I'm properly curious. What's appalling about it.

Anyway, you are missing a trick because every sane person knows that many meals taste better reheated the next day. Lasagne being one of them.

And I cannot tell you how desperately I want lasagne now.

I'm (due to this thread) making it tonight, I'll save you some!

But I'm not doing garlic bread, it's salad with it.

@tunamayo81

eh?!

why is it appalling behaviour??

@tunamayo81

“When you are a family you don’t just get to decide you’re not going to cook and instead try and make a meal last for two meals when it’s clearly not enough and people are hungry. That’s not acceptable is it? Even when we are ill our child gets a fresh meal and we don’t reheat. In this instance I think they are both to blame for poor communication. Ultimately, Make a dinner every day (either him or her) that is filling enough so no-one needs another tea at 10pm. There’s your solution! We have a takeaway once a fortnight the rest of the week we cook. It’s totally doable.”

urgh who can be arsed cooking from scratch every night??
don’t you ever wanna go the gym after work or for a drink with colleagues or whatever?
it doesn’t do kids any harm at all to have a quick tea of ready made quiche and salad or beans or toast or whatever
I’d rather that and have a life to be honest

I'm making a massive lasagne tonight

Mines going to be more massive 😂

Yeah but @DizzyLizzyKizzy and @Fluffodils will it be massive enough? 😘

I'll be round at around 7 for my lasagne and salad ta!

It'll be the worlds biggest lasagne ever!

What a stupid thing to post! What's the matter with you? Of course there's absolutely nothing wrong with reheating food!! What world do you live in?

I wish I hadn’t wasted a minute of my life reading such a petty post.

@tunamayo81 another post of yours I’m confused by! How is it ‘appalling’ to reheat food? It was reheated to the required temperature to make it safe to eat, it was home made food made with fresh ingredients the day before being reheated.

I’m sure you know that if you’ve ever eaten out at a restaurant or pub there’s a good chance that at least some elements of your meal have been prepared in advance and reheated, presumably you’ve survived as have any children who have eaten the same meal.

Somehow you’ve also made it sound very demeaning that someone might not be able to afford to cook fresh meals every day, did you mean to do that?

To me, it’s not lazy at all to reheat leftover food. It makes sense, it’s not wasteful and it gives me more time in my day to reply to quite frankly bizarre comments on MN.

What are you going on about? 😂
Of course you can. If I want to make a shepherds pie for a day I'll make a regular size one, if I want to have it the second day too then I'll double it. Many, many, many families do similar 😂

Make a dinner every day (either him or her) that is filling enough so no-one needs another tea at 10pm.

It's normal to get hungry after a few hours, unless someone has different eating habits. That doesn't mean you didn't get enough dinner 😂
He also might not have even been hungry anyway, eating something doesn't mean someone was hungry, he could have just wanted to eat.

Not if I get there first.

I want to take my chances and bring some home to reheat too.

@YearsOfStagnation that's appalling , I hope you don't serve it to your poor children!

Way over the top reaction OP. Sorry get a grip

Leftovers are brilliant, @Lolabear38, and I agree there is nothing whatsoever wrong with reheated food! I used to cook a lot of our meals in the morning - things like bolognese, chilli, shepherd’s pie, cauliflower cheese, macaroni cheese, lasagne - there are lots of meals that can be cooked in advance and reheated in the evening. Some things, like casserole, are actually better the second day - the flavours mature.

I have been very lucky that they made it to adulthood. We even froze leftovers for them and reheated it several weeks later.

Dinner tonight is defrosted chicken casserole.

@tunamayo81 So when you said you were blessed with perspective and knew what real problems were, you meant the horrors of reheated food and non fresh meals that may or may not be limited in size? Because since saying that, you've described those things as "unacceptable", "appalling" and said "your poor family" to another poster.

So is that what your wisdom and perspective has taught you? Shouting at your partner over lasagne = fine, microwaves = not fine?

He ate his second portion a day early. That's on him.

You mean her DHs reaction, since he was the one that had any kind of reaction?

I think giving children reheated food is appalling behaviour.

We're fucked!

@YearsOfStagnation treating your children like that, I'm surprised SS weren't involved.

Just what have you been doing all day that you can't cook fresh food from scratch ?

How is it ‘appalling’ to reheat food? It was reheated to the required temperature to make it safe to eat, it was home made food made with fresh ingredients the day before being reheated.

Of course it isn't. Even in recipe books they will often say that some recipes taste even better the next day when they're reheated!