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Palmface · 22/03/2023 23:39

Just asked my dh for his opinion, which was: "the husband ate his portion already the night before and the wife shouldn't have even offered him anything the second night."

He did suggest that the op could have texted to tell him to sort himself out, so I have a little work to do at home still to balance out mental load and responsibilities..!

Grumpi · 22/03/2023 23:40

can’t believe he expected you and the kids to have smaller portions to make up for him having double portions the evening before!!!

Your DH sounds like a selfish prick to be honest. Who does that? What a weirdo, I can’t comprehend it.

how did he even EXPECT to have any? 8 portions / 4 people = 2 each. He had his 2, he knew he ate it. Who did he expect to give up their portion for him tonight? You?

what a prince amongst men.

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

Moser85 · 23/03/2023 01:11

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

It wasn't a tirade.

And she wasn't the food police. It was actually him, not her who acted like the food police.

She DID leave him enough dinner, she wasn't aware that he had eaten it. HE was the one who knew so why would she message him to tell him?

It was a bitch move to tuck into the next days dinner and expect OP and the kids to eat less.

He came home calling her selfish and moaning to her. Should she be grateful for that?

YerAWizardHarry01 · 23/03/2023 01:25

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

Other people's "actual problems" don't make OP unreasonable for being annoyed as her husbands unreasonable behaviour.

And if he died tomorrow, depending on my rage levels then if it were my H I imagine his headstone would read "lasagne thief".. just to make sure the point was nicely across

Shrewsdoodle · 23/03/2023 06:52

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

He's the one who didn't leave himself enough dinner. I'm sure if he's capable of holding down a job, he can make himself a sandwich. I'd be interested to know what the threshold is for "real problems" that means women don't have to just be grateful their partners have a job and eat their cooking 🤣. I'd argue "employed and eats the contents of the fridge" is a pretty low bar. The absence of such a man would make life easier if anything. I'm not saying OP's DH is such a man, just to be clear.

inamarina · 23/03/2023 07:04

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

I agree with this.

Mumof3andshattered · 23/03/2023 07:31

Lolabear38 · 21/03/2023 23:01

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

So your husband expected his wife and children to have a smaller portion so that he could have his usual portion...plus the extra he scoffed when you were all asleep? And then got angry when you didn't? That screams selfish, controlling, misogynistic... my other half would skip a meal so me and the kids could get a decent size portion (and occasionally does if he misjudges how much to cook)

Mumof3andshattered · 23/03/2023 07:46

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

You resentful that she has a husband?

LaDamaDeElche · 23/03/2023 07:47

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

People can't go through life thinking about what they do and say in case someone dies tomorrow. That's just weird. People get irritated over all sorts of small (in the grand scheme of things) issues. If you insist on using that bit of emotional manipulation, how would the DH feel for going off at his wife over such a trivial thing if she died tomorrow?

MeinKraft · 23/03/2023 07:51

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

If she died tomorrow I wonder how he would feel about calling her selfish for eating her own dinner and feeding her kids.

Duvetday19 · 23/03/2023 08:07

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Your post indicates you haven't really read the OP's.

SpudleyLass · 23/03/2023 09:21

Moser85 · 23/03/2023 01:11

It wasn't a tirade.

And she wasn't the food police. It was actually him, not her who acted like the food police.

She DID leave him enough dinner, she wasn't aware that he had eaten it. HE was the one who knew so why would she message him to tell him?

It was a bitch move to tuck into the next days dinner and expect OP and the kids to eat less.

He came home calling her selfish and moaning to her. Should she be grateful for that?

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She didn't ''not leave him enough dinner'' - he already had his share the previous night.

By rights, OP shouldn't have further reduced the portion of her and her children's dinners to give him even a smidgeon more of lasagna.

If my DH died tomorrow, a previous night's argument would be the last thing on my mind.

These men are big boys, they can make their own dinner.

If anybody went on a ridiculous tirade here, it was the OP's DH.

SpudleyLass · 23/03/2023 09:24

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

Sorry, quoted the wrong person @Moser85

She didn't ''not leave him enough dinner'' - he already had his share the previous night.

By rights, OP shouldn't have further reduced the portion of her and her children's dinners to give him even a smidgeon more of lasagna.

If my DH died tomorrow, a previous night's argument would be the last thing on my mind.

These men are big boys, they can make their own dinner.

If anybody went on a ridiculous tirade here, it was the OP's DH.

Its weird, isn't it, how if women complain about the 'smalll'' day to day stuff, they're being petty but when we complain about the bigger stuff i.e taking away boundaries, we're far right.

I'm beginning to think men people just don't like women talking.

Tralahlah · 23/03/2023 10:05

Mansplaining over food. It's a thing. Selfish, thoughtless and greedy. It's easy to trivialise but when it happens regularly and you are on a budget because food inflation etc, it is inconsiderate to say the least. Having to make/buy more and more is not always an option for eveyone. When you live with a greedy person it can end up creating food anxiety for the rest of the family as the ganit will trough anything and everything in sight....even things that they don't really like!

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 12:15

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

So then, who was supposed to sacrifice their dinner for The Man??? And how do you know that OP doesn’t make equal or significantly more financial contribution to the household?

I suppose you don’t think women should have the vote either… dinosaur!!

Tibbb · 23/03/2023 12:45

How is this thread still ongoing? 😂

WhatWouldJeevesDo · 23/03/2023 12:47

Tibbb · 23/03/2023 12:45

How is this thread still ongoing? 😂

It’s fascinating. I don’t want it to stop.

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 12:47

Probably because people continue to post??

fancydressjess · 23/03/2023 14:14

What a nob jockey!!!

How about, ", oh yeah, I ate mine last night, I'll make an omelette"..... Simple.
Maybe he was hangry.

Passthechocolatesplease · 23/03/2023 14:45

Tibbb · 23/03/2023 12:45

How is this thread still ongoing? 😂

Heaven knows …it’s the most famous slice of lasagne in history 🤭

DizzyLizzyKizzy · 23/03/2023 14:59

Tibbb · 23/03/2023 12:45

How is this thread still ongoing? 😂

and I've got the other ingredients to make a lasagna tonight, purely down to this thread!

🤣🤣

tunamayo81 · 23/03/2023 15:12

FrostyFifi · 22/03/2023 16:53

It’s almost seems like your husband has to ask permission/inform you if he eats food in his own home! I get it you’re tired etc but does it really warrant a threat?

He clearly can and does eat what he wants but why does that warrant him then moaning at OP and expecting the cooking fairy to produce a new meal? I'm sure she wouldn't have cared if he'd just sorted himself out with an alternative.

I’m inclined to stand by what i said. If my husband was hungry and wanted more food and ate the leftovers I would just make a different meal the next day instead and use the remaining lasagne for lunches or whatever. I wouldn't punish him for it… and I don’t even consider myself an overly nice wife. Also can’t an adult choose their own portion? I’d be fuming if in my 30s-40s someone was allocating my portions?

tunamayo81 · 23/03/2023 15:13

marmitetoastie · 23/03/2023 01:07

If he died tomorrow, how would you feel about posting this ridiculous tirade on here? So he went to work, to help pay for the lasagna. He likes your food and now you are the food police.

If you’re not going to leave him enough dinner, as normal, then text him & ask him to pick up a meal for himself on the way home. It’s just a bitch move to let someone come all the way home and set them up deliberately.

Jesus, you know some people in the world have actual problems, even worse than a working partner, a father of your joint children at home and food in the fridge.

Practice gratitude instead of resentment.

Exactly This!