DH lost his mind over this

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I was in the kitchen with my 3 year old making sandwiches. She was using an adult table knife to spread the cheese spread. My DH walked in and went mad because she wasn't using a plastic knife. I think he's completely over reacted. He's insisting that I've done something really bad by letting DD use a table knife. AIBU to have let her use a table knife at her age?

Yikes. He would have a coronary if he knew I let my 5yo use a sharp knife to cut cucumber. Its a judgement call that you can make.

Don't let your DH watch any Jamie Oliver programmes OP. There was an episode where he talked about how he has taught his children to use sharp knives safely and then his son chops a vegetable (he wasn't 3 though! Think he was around 10?).

As long as it wasn't the type of dinner knife with a pointy bit at the top I can't see a problem. I suspect his attitude and behaviour would be more detrimental to her than using a grown up piece of cutlery.

My DH can be a bit of a fusser and I wish I had told him to back off more when DS were little. He irritates the hell out of them now and they tell him themselves!

This all day long.

Men get hung up about strange things. My DS’s father - who was totally uninvolved, may have changed the odd nappy but that was about it - lost his mind when he discovered that I gave DS his bottle feed at room temperature.

THIS!!! 😂

He’s bonkers. Any other weird over reactions?

Your Dh is mental. Adult cutlery ie table knife is the same as kids cutlery just bigger. They aren't very sharp! Unless was a steak knife?!

When we cook on nursery, we often use knives to butter sandwiches or cut things like banana. They are metal and just like adult ones but slightly smaller.

My 15 month old has been using the butter knife to butter her bread for like 2 months now. It's blunt!

I'm not sure what a table knife is. All of our knifes are the same apart from the steak knifes and big chopping board knifes

YANBU
Ask him to do an experiment 4u
put his fingers flat on the table add table knife at an angle so you can add a towel then a weight similar to a 2l bottle of squash.....does it hurt...no
Now repeat with the plastic one.....I bet you won't let go of the weight fully when he changes his mind.

Butter knives r my preferred for toddlers plastic cutlery is often not safe at all (ask a prison officer)....it's sharper harsher with a tendency to snap.

Nope he’s wrong, and a bit worrying he is so risk adverse. He’ll pass that on to make kids anxious if he’s not careful.

She should be using metal cutlery by now.

by 3 my kids were using metal table knives to cut up soft veg like mushrooms when they helped me cook, and stirring stuff on stove with me standing behind holding too

by 4 I’d started to introduce a small sharp kitchen knife to cut softer veg like peppers …by 5 they were managing onions carrots etc

me or their dad were always beside them, and taught them to tuck fingers in and hold food down, and rock the knife.

i only remember 1 of them cutting themselves around 11, and that was small.

They were also using knives to whittle wood etc in beavers under supervision, along with firefighting. By scouts they were expected to be able to manage both knives and fires without immediate supervision.( adults around but not standing over them)

they now, aged twenties, use knives like a pro, and are much faster than me. They even bring their whetstones when visiting and lecture me about risks of not have Uber sharp knives 🤣🤣🤷🏼‍♀️

they need to learn how to use all blades inc knives, scissors, saws safely from an early age so it becomes habit to use safely. And razors when they get that age. They need to learn to hold adult knives, fork and spoons etc properly asap so they can eat in company and not shovel food in.