To not want to give up Narnia?

[dobermeister]

When DD was a toddler I created a Narnia in her room. Basically there was an adjoining room from her bedroom, I removed the door, put a wardrobe on either side, and made the other room into Narnia. It has snowy woodland painted on all the walls, a bookcase, cushions on the floor and is basically a “snug”. DD adores in still and is always in there.

DH now wants to get rid of Narnia and turn it into a storeroom for DDs stuff. This is totally unnecessary as we have 3 other spare bedrooms as well as a cellar.

DD wants to keep Narnia. DH thinks it’s babyish and a waste of space as her bedroom is already a big room.

His issue is that his kids don’t have stuff like this at their mum’s house but that’s not mine or DDs fault is it?!

What do you think?

I don't think I have ever regretted not having a spare room more.
What a wonderful idea. Of course you are not being unreasonable. Tell your husband he's a lazy killjoy from me.

OP your husband sounds like a miserable prick! Why did he split with his last wife? It’s posts like this that should make young women very cautious about marrying a man who couldn’t make it work with his first family - women don’t walk away from children’s fathers lightly! Take note younger women - don’t take on men that other women couldn’t put up with or men who walked from their children.

I think if space is not an issue it’s totally up to her whether she is too old or not for it.

Your poor daughter with someone like that for a father.

You chose poorly OP.

Protect that child from someone who clearly hasn't her best interests at heart.

Not surprised his other children rarely visit🙄

What's her age got to do with anything? I'm in my 30s and I'd love a Narnia to go read in. As long as the child uses it it doesn't matter how old she is.

I’m 70 this year and would absolutely love a Narnia. Would you like to adopt a granny @dobermeister?

Nt his English homework, apparently.

*not

(Oh - the irony! )

I know you’ve already had lots of comments but I have to say- the narnia room sounds absolutely magical and if your DD still loves it please, please do not back down on this. I don’t understand why your DH would want to take it away from her but you must not let him.
You seem like an amazing mum btw!

🤣🤣🤣

Of course you must keep it, it sounds amazing! Tell your DH he can store the stuff elsewhere.

Please can i move in? I would absolutely love a Narnia and im in my late 40's!

Indeed!

And funny how the miserable git couldn't be arsed to do a bit of decorating to make his older children feel happy and welcome, but can't wait to get cracking on some that will make his wife and young daughter distressed and rejected.

Fight on this hill OP.

FIGHT!!!!!

I for one, will also be prepared to fund a legal case if necessary.

Though it probably wouldn't be, as lawyers everywhere will be competing to fight it pro bono, as such an important precedent is involved. They'd do it for the kudos.

Reinstate Narnia? Your career at the bar is MADE, mate! The Woolsack has your name on it.

I think you’re outrageous as clearly the best option is to take over DD’s bedroom and make Narnia your own?

Why would he want to destroy something she so thoroughly enjoys? Stand your ground and keep it!

I’d change the husband rather than the room! 😀

PLEASE post some pictures, it sounds so wonderful!

#IStandWithDobermeister #TeamNarnia #LTB #YADNBU

Sounds fab, kick him out so I can move in please. I'm 51.

Keep it 😎

The Chronicles of Narnia are classics and classics are for all ages.

Let your DD, & only your DD, decide when she wants to re-paint Narnia for a study / chillax room. It sounds great x

I think I want to come live with you!

Narnia stays as long as DD wants it.
She might use it to study in. etc. It's her space and her choice.
Your husband is a spoil sport.

Does he need a shed?
Perhaps part of the storage shed could be cleared and he could have half of it as his "Narnia".
Husband is glowing green, I think.

This leads to a good point.

He was too lazy to do something for his children, but wants OP to actively change something she has done for her child, thereby making her do even more work!

I suspect he is a lazy arse, so just tell him you won't be changing it until DD wants it changed.

He certainly won't do anything about Narnia, which leaves him two options:

1. Sort his own kids' rooms out; or
2. Shut up

I’m 53 and I’m sitting here trying to work out when my DD will leave for university so I can turn her room into Narnia. Keep Narnia for as long as your DD wants it. What a joy and a pleasure to have such a special place of her own.

Absolutely.

It’s really not a nice realisation that your husband would much rather reduce you and your child’s happiness than step up and be a better father.

Definitely a hill to die on. Not least because the hill is not narnia, it’s everything narnia stands for in terms of your relationship with your child and what makes you both happy.

I would die on the hill where the issue is me refusing to allow my and my children’s life to be diminished because my husband and his ex aren’t willing to do the same things for their children. I will not have my family life reduced to that.

Nor would I take on responsibility for trying to compensate his children for their father’s lack of effort and interest. No way. I don’t exist to cover up and make excuses for him.