To not give up my Playmobil and cut cousins hands off if she tries to take it?

[Qantaqa]

Ok Ok .. the last part is possibly U....

I have an extensive collection of playmobil which has been boxed up for many years. I briefly got it out 10 years ago when my DSs were 7/8ish but after a particularly traumatising incident where they broke some I boxed it all back up and put it away and never got it back out. I say this to show that my attachment to it is frankly ridiculous.

My cousins daughter is 6. She is in many ways an mini version of me at that age and I adore her and obviously indulge her and am silly with her in ways her parents can't be. I (obviously) have been buying her Playmobil for birthdays and Xmas which she loves. My collection came up in a discussion at a birthday meal recently and cousins daughter asked if she could come over and play. I said it was boxed away and that was it.

Except it isn't. Cousin has asked about "getting some sets for her DC since I aren't using it". I've politely said various versions of no with excuses, but this morning I had this message,

Hey Q. Any more thoughts over the Playmobile? DC is beside herself with excitement ay the thought of having some of yours! We are out for Mothers Day this afternoon but I'll give you a bell later. xx

Clearly I need a stronger "No over my dead body" response but having moaned mentioned this to DM at lunch she thinks IABU to not "pass it down".

DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.

So AIBU to want to keep my Playmobil?

[huffyhufferson]

Your cousin is a PITA! The playmobile sets are yours - you have saved & treasured them for years. It's up to you what you do with them. Please stay strong & stand your ground with your entitled, twat of a cousin.
For what it's worth, I treasure things from my childhood - nobody gets to touch them. E.g my teddy bear my grandmother bought me when I was born - I'm in my 60s now, I have a doll my dad brought me back from Germany when he was stationed there. I have other things but won't bore you! I think what I'm trying to say is that for me these items have huge sentimental value - they don't mean anything to anyone else.

[JudgeRudy]

@Qantaqa

Ok Ok .. the last part is possibly U....

I have an extensive collection of playmobil which has been boxed up for many years. I briefly got it out 10 years ago when my DSs were 7/8ish but after a particularly traumatising incident where they broke some I boxed it all back up and put it away and never got it back out. I say this to show that my attachment to it is frankly ridiculous.

My cousins daughter is 6. She is in many ways an mini version of me at that age and I adore her and obviously indulge her and am silly with her in ways her parents can't be. I (obviously) have been buying her Playmobil for birthdays and Xmas which she loves. My collection came up in a discussion at a birthday meal recently and cousins daughter asked if she could come over and play. I said it was boxed away and that was it.

Except it isn't. Cousin has asked about "getting some sets for her DC since I aren't using it". I've politely said various versions of no with excuses, but this morning I had this message,

Hey Q. Any more thoughts over the Playmobile? DC is beside herself with excitement ay the thought of having some of yours! We are out for Mothers Day this afternoon but I'll give you a bell later. xx

Clearly I need a stronger "No over my dead body" response but having moaned mentioned this to DM at lunch she thinks IABU to not "pass it down".

DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.

So AIBU to want to keep my Playmobil?

I'd be very blunt. I'd message her in such a way as to get 2 points across.Firstly - its not happening Secondly - cousin will be upset and its your fault.
Say l can't believe you've told cousin that when I distinctly said NO, it's not happening. Why would you do that to her. She's gonna be so hurt when you tell her you've made a big mistake.

[Rosscameasdoody]

Genuine question. Given that you made it clear you wouldn’t be giving any away and that play with it was out of the question because it was boxed and put away, who told DC there was a possibility that she would be ‘getting some of yours’ ? Because it clearly wasn’t you.

It may sound daft to some, but it obviously means a lot to you, so I wouldn’t reply to the text and I certainly wouldn’t be buying off FB as some sort of compromise - you buy it for birthdays and Xmas and that’s enough. When the subject comes up again, close it down firmly and explain that the set belongs to you, it has great sentimental value, you won’t be parting with any of it, and it stays boxed up. DC will be disappointed but that’s not on you - it’s on whoever got her hopes and expectations up, regardless of already being told ‘no’.

[RobertsRadio]

@VaseWaterFlowers

OMG there is so much of it! I shouldn't have looked. Here they have everything from Xerxes to cheerleaders.

www.playmobil.co.uk/novelties

Out of curiosity I clicked on the site and the one that tickled me is the Portable Toilet and workman, mind blown.

[NailsForBreakfastTacksForSnacks]

I went for a wander in TK Maxx last week and on a sale end was a single Playmobil figure of Scooby Doo. £1.99.
Obviously I bought it. It's on the shelf in the office. It made me laugh.

[RobertsRadio]

Forgot to do the link
www.playmobil.co.uk/portable-toilet/9844.html

[JudgeJ]

@Ishefuckingkiddingme

You’re being irrational but you’re allowed to be irrational, it’s yours. It’s not hers, she’s not entitled to you. You have no logical reason for not letting her play with it but you don’t need to justify yourself with logic. If I were you, I’d be honest and say you’re irrationally and illogically attached to it and don’t want to risk it getting broken.

What rubbish! No-one needs to have what others perceive as a 'logical' reason to not allow someone to use their property nor is it 'irrational' to feel attached to one's own property, whatever it is.

[JudgeJ]

@steff13

YANBU. It's silly to keep it boxed up, though. Why don't you display it?

Because then presumably to poor little upset 6 year old will be able to grab it and ruin it! The OP can do whatever she wants with her own property!

[steff13]

@JudgeJ

Because then presumably to poor little upset 6 year old will be able to grab it and ruin it! The OP can do whatever she wants with her own property!

Thanks for your response!

[JudgeJ]

@feelinglikeanewparent

DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.

Why do people do this? Pick the easier option.

Just say no. One word. Every time. It's not hard.

If DB is the grabby child's parent then maybe he can 'buy a box' to pacify the child, not the OP's responsibility at all.

[Whichwhatnow]

Haha OP, I get it. I'm still bitter about my parents giving my extensive Duplo collection away to littler cousins without asking me first when I was about 10. I had long moved onto Lego but had so many amazing memories of all that Duplo and truly loved it! My brother was the same when his huge Meccano collection was somehow lost when we moved house - he was in his 20s by then and not living at home but I think that's the only time I've seen my big bro cry 😂

Glad your cousin is being understanding!

[Myonlysunshine123]

I collect sylvanian families and I dont share, nothing wrong with it. No on respects other people's stuff. Its yours, you do not have to share

[Ishefuckingkiddingme]

@JudgeJ

What rubbish! No-one needs to have what others perceive as a 'logical' reason to not allow someone to use their property nor is it 'irrational' to feel attached to one's own property, whatever it is.

What I said: “you don’t need to justify yourself with logic”
What you said: “What rubbish! No-one needs to have what others perceive as a 'logical' reason to not allow someone to use their property”

Did you misread what I wrote because you’ve called it “rubbish” and then immediately agreed with me?

[Rufusroo]

Are you my long-lost sister? I too have a huge Playmobil collection, circus, zoos, Victorian mansion etc etc. I don’t even let my DGDs play with it - I’ve bought them their own. I love it. To be fair - mine is mostly out on display so that I can see it and play with it.

[graysquirrel]

Absolutely with you on this. I could rewrite this as me and my (collectable) Barbies.
Tbh though, doesn't matter what it is, it's your asset, you choose what to do with it.

[Mentalpiece]

It's your property to do with as you wish op.
Just say no, now stop annoying me about it. Then don't respond to anything else to do with it.
I have a large dolls house which was made for me by my grandfather, who was a carpenter. He even made all the furniture and the little wooden dolls for it and my grandmother made the curtains and cushions etc.
It resides on the sideboard in the dining room and now and again I give it a dusting ( and rearrange the furniture when no one is looking 😳 )
I wouldn't part with it for anything, nor do I allow anyone else to play with it.
Just say ' no, and don't annoy me by asking again because the answer will still be no '.

[SeeNoWeevilHearNoWeevil]

No way would I let her have any of it, I still have my original Sindy along with a really lovely jointed horse from the Netherlands that my Father brought back for me. It’s the Dutch version of Sindy, Fleur, and so much nicer than the UK one. They live in a converted Kallax in my wardrobe and her horse has handmade tack that took forever to do properly. Not a chance they will be handed over to any grandchildren even.

[toomuchlaundry]

@Whichwhatnow if your brother had left home surely it was his responsibility to look after his meccano if he wanted it keeping, especially if your parents were moving. Not fair on parents to have to keep moving and storing their adult children’s property.

When my parents were preparing to move for the first time after I had left home, they asked me to go through everything that was mine that was still in the loft and if I didn’t take it, it would have to go as they were starting the downsizing process, and they wouldn’t have space to store my stuff and theirs

[Whichwhatnow]

@toomuchlaundry

@Whichwhatnow if your brother had left home surely it was his responsibility to look after his meccano if he wanted it keeping, especially if your parents were moving. Not fair on parents to have to keep moving and storing their adult children’s property.

When my parents were preparing to move for the first time after I had left home, they asked me to go through everything that was mine that was still in the loft and if I didn’t take it, it would have to go as they were starting the downsizing process, and they wouldn’t have space to store my stuff and theirs

I didn't say he blamed them! Also he was living in a bus in another country at the time, not exactly ideal to take up v limited storage space with a massive box of Meccano 😆

[StaceySolomonSwash]

@SoMuchToBits

Here's my "Playmobil cupboard"!

I think I love you.

[VaseWaterFlowers]

@RobertsRadio I know. I saw the portable toilet. It's mad how much there is and the variety of stuff. I'm sure when I was little it was a few people a bit of furniture and a school bus and that's about it.

I can see if you got into seriously collecting it you'd be bankrupt in short order.

The portable toilet would be an amusing gift for someone who worked at festivals or on building sites I think.

The mind bogles as to how that came up in a product development meeting.

[SoMuchToBits]

We have a portaloo! As well as Norman the Foreman's portakabin. Very useful when you've had one or two Playmobil blue wines...

[VaseWaterFlowers]

@SoMuchToBits

OMG. I don't know what to say. I'm not sure if that's awesome or the other end of the scale. I don't know if I'm coming or going

Why would you buy a portakabin?