Ok Ok .. the last part is possibly U....
I have an extensive collection of playmobil which has been boxed up for many years. I briefly got it out 10 years ago when my DSs were 7/8ish but after a particularly traumatising incident where they broke some I boxed it all back up and put it away and never got it back out. I say this to show that my attachment to it is frankly ridiculous.
My cousins daughter is 6. She is in many ways an mini version of me at that age and I adore her and obviously indulge her and am silly with her in ways her parents can't be. I (obviously) have been buying her Playmobil for birthdays and Xmas which she loves. My collection came up in a discussion at a birthday meal recently and cousins daughter asked if she could come over and play. I said it was boxed away and that was it.
Except it isn't. Cousin has asked about "getting some sets for her DC since I aren't using it". I've politely said various versions of no with excuses, but this morning I had this message,
Hey Q. Any more thoughts over the Playmobile? DC is beside herself with excitement ay the thought of having some of yours! We are out for Mothers Day this afternoon but I'll give you a bell later. xx
Clearly I need a stronger "No over my dead body" response but having moaned mentioned this to DM at lunch she thinks IABU to not "pass it down".
DB thinks I should just go buy a box off Facebook and hand that over which I am considering.
So AIBU to want to keep my Playmobil?
To not give up my Playmobil and cut cousins hands off if she tries to take it?
Qantaqa · 19/03/2023 13:15
Ok Ok .. the last part is possibly U....
Am I being unreasonable?
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Qantaqa · 19/03/2023 15:00
I'm currently thinking of sending a message along the lines of
"Ha. Good one. We all know that it will only be leaving over my cold dead body and even then I'll probably be back haunting whoever ends up with it! Sorry DC is going to be disappointed at not having mine but if you want to get some second hand off Ebay I'm more than happy to come over and play with it with her!
Blort · 19/03/2023 18:04
Yanbu at all but I'm confident thr quickest and easiest way to sort it out is to buy a couple of sets off Facebook. Or buy her a new set with a nice bow and tell her its to start her collection. You can always add to it every birthday/Christmas.
Oysterbabe · 19/03/2023 14:49
What are you keeping it for? What will you eventually do with it? DH hoards all kinds of shite and I've told him I'll hoof straight into a skip 5 minutes after he dies. I guess I don't understand the point. Toys like playmobil should be played with, enjoyed and passed on. It helps reduce the amount of plastic people buy.
thelongroad · 19/03/2023 15:36
This has got me really annoyed for you, OP.
It doesn't matter what the collection is. It really, really, really doesn't.
It's yours, and you don't have to let anyone else play with it, look at it, or do anything at all with it. And it's totally up to you what you do with it too - even if it's sitting in a box somewhere. That's absolutely fine. It's not "sad" - as a PP pointed out, most collections are not being used for the original purpose!
Somethingneedstochange78 · 19/03/2023 15:47
Why are you so keen to keep it in pristine condition? I loved seeing my own children nephews and neice playing with toy's that I used to play with. My daughter's favourite doll was one that used to be mine I cut her hair.😂😂😂 I don't see the point of hoarding toys never to have them played with again. Are you wanting to sell it all on for profit? Who will you pass it onto?
TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 19/03/2023 16:24
Woman says NO to CF.
Entire thread blows up with either unnecessary psychoanalysis, or urgings to ignore her own wishes & give the CF what she wants.
SleepingStandingUp · 19/03/2023 16:21
You're absolutely right that op doesn't need to do anything with them she doesn't want to do, but like pp if question if there's something deeper, just like I would a man storing all his toys away not for collectors items bit because he gets anxiety at the thought of someone touching them.
Most people keep stiff either for the kids to use or to sell at a profit, not because they come out in hives at the thought of them being touched.
Doesn't mean op has to explore that emotional reaction but that doesn't mean it's unrealistic to this the response is indicative of bigger issues
TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 19/03/2023 15:31
Or she can just be left in peace to deal with her own possessions in any way she chooses.
A man in a similar situation wouldn't have PP lining up to say he has to give away his beloved historic tool collection or train sets just because his cousin demanded it.
Or have his collector-instincts queried & dismissed.
Yet another thread demonstrating how some women live to police other women's choices & tell them to kowtow to CF's or be considered - the horror! - unconventional.
YouSoundLovely · 19/03/2023 15:19
X posts. Your anxiety at the thought of other people playing with it sounds quite extreme, and I think there's something else behind this, that it might help you to try and find out.
Qantaqa · 19/03/2023 19:50
Ha well its been solved as I cousin has clearly seen this post as I've had the following message ...
Hint taken. Still think you wouldn't notice a set or two if I snuck it out but I won't risk my hands ;) xx
Now off to find a lock for the Playmobil cupboard!
Whatisthisanyidea · 19/03/2023 15:26
What she cannot understand - what no-one can understand - is that I don't get any joy from watching other people play with it - I just get anxious and stressed
Well maybe look at it from cousins POV - her 6 year old is excited and the thought of playing with you - she may well be nagging her mum constantly to come over and play and cousin is just messaging from there - Maybe cousin has told 6 year old over and over that you don’t let anyone play and the 6 year old knows she’s special to you.
Weve all been there with kids nagging.
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