My mum is on her own since we lost Dad a few years ago.
We have asked if we go to Cornwall this year on holiday, would she like to come with us.
She said she would love to, and so we have gone ahead and booked a reasonably priced holiday cottage we think would suit.
She's never mentioned money, but then nor have we.
She is fully aware we are in the midst of a house renovation which has gone massively over budget, plus we had a recent unexpected vet bill and need to buy a new car this year. We have been concerned over Finances this year and she does know this.
She has never in my life helped me financially, even when I was on my own and struggled sometimes - and I never expected it (Although I probably would help my DD)
The balance of the holiday is now due. I want to ask her if she will pay something towards it. Its 3 of us, myself, DH and Mum.
Should I ask her to pay a third?
Is that unreasonable or fair?
Does she assume we are paying?
But then she's aware of our situation so it's annoying me she hasn't offered 🙄 she's not short of money.
AIBU?
To ask Mum to contribute to hol costs
JimmyKrankie · 19/03/2023 08:54
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLJudgeJ · 19/03/2023 10:57
As the 'mother' in this scenario I wouldn't dream of not offering my share! It's then up to the couple to decide whether to take it, if she doesn't offer then she's the one in the wrong, irrespective of there being any original discussion.
Pinkfluff76 · 19/03/2023 10:34
Of course she should pay her share. I also don’t see why you’re paying for all the petrol and most of the food. My mother would never expect this!!!! But then again she would’ve also helped me when I was struggling and she’s not wealthy.
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RampantIvy · 19/03/2023 08:56
Given the way you invited her it sounds like it was an invitation for a free holiday. You should have mentioned costs when you invited her.
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