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To be gobsmacked at Kate Ferdinand complaining about not getting a Mother’s Day card from her then-boyfriend Rio’s children

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AngeloMysterioso · 17/03/2023 17:14

When she’d only been living with them six months, and moved in when they’d been together less than a year?! And their own actual mother had died of cancer?

I get that she was already taking a great deal of care of them and would have appreciated some acknowledgment of that, but this is just taking the piss.

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Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:06

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:02

Sorry, youve been supportive? But I thought she wasn't allowed to complain about her self made situation?

No, I don't think you do know how difficult it is actually, I don't think anyone does who hasn't actually done it. I don't think you can know.

I don't think anyone who criticises her hates step mother's, I think YOU hate them. It's obvious. You're doing a really shite job of hiding your hatred.

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I don’t know a single woman with step children who came out with anything like the guff Kate Ferdinand has and I know many who have had it much harder than her.
‘I think YOU hate them. It's obvious. You're doing a really shite job of hiding your hatred’ what have I have said that indicates I hate step mothers? Show me one thing that indicates that.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:07

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:06

I don’t know a single woman with step children who came out with anything like the guff Kate Ferdinand has and I know many who have had it much harder than her.
‘I think YOU hate them. It's obvious. You're doing a really shite job of hiding your hatred’ what have I have said that indicates I hate step mothers? Show me one thing that indicates that.

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But she's not said anything you think she's said. You're literally making it all up. You're twisting what she actually said for your bizarre agenda.

Every. Single. Last. Comment.

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:07

@eyerollcentral but for some of us we didn't know how hard it would be. Some of us weren't the other woman. Some of us went in genuinely loving the man and caring for the children. Some of us stayed put when things got tough. Are we then supposed to shut up and never complain? I'm a mum now and I'm allowed to complain 1000x a day about my own DC and no-one will ever bat an eyelid, they encourage offloading. But as a SM we can't express upset or frustration because 'just don't go out with a man with kids'. Unless you've been a SM you'll never know what it's like, ever. You've made up a lot of shit about Kate on this thread that she didn't say or do. That to me IS toxic.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:09

And no, I'm sure you don't. I didn't go round telling people how I really felt, especially unsympathetic people who don't believe people should ever struggle with anything they've "chosen"

I would have rather died than bare my soul to someone like you, that's probably the case with all these people you "know".

SandyLanes · 17/03/2023 20:09

It’s pretty well known they were together before his wife died. Then there was the tacky mothers day menu/card thing she produced one year…

To be gobsmacked at Kate Ferdinand complaining about not getting a Mother’s Day card from her then-boyfriend Rio’s children
Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:09

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:07

But she's not said anything you think she's said. You're literally making it all up. You're twisting what she actually said for your bizarre agenda.

Every. Single. Last. Comment.

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Saying you don’t have to be a step mother if you don’t want to be one and if you don’t want to be a step mother don’t go out with men with children isn’t hateful, it’s reality. There’s no agenda. It’s not my fault you are struggling with being a step mother, take it out on your partner, not me.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:10

SandyLanes · 17/03/2023 20:09

It’s pretty well known they were together before his wife died. Then there was the tacky mothers day menu/card thing she produced one year…

What exactly is wrong with celebrating ALL the women in our lives? Or is it reserved for those of us who pushed a baby out of our vagina?

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:11

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:09

Saying you don’t have to be a step mother if you don’t want to be one and if you don’t want to be a step mother don’t go out with men with children isn’t hateful, it’s reality. There’s no agenda. It’s not my fault you are struggling with being a step mother, take it out on your partner, not me.

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But she didn't say that, nor did I for that matter.

I'm not struggling with it at all anymore, thank you for your concern. And he's my husband.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:12

She's mentioned one specific event, that you've then spun into something completely different. That's literally what an agenda is, and it's disgusting.

VixenTodd · 17/03/2023 20:12

Ok, credit where it's due. She could've put in less effort with the kids but she is there for the money really. She moved from a tiny newbuild in Loughton to a mansion while the other TOWIE lot are still extending like hell to make their houses look like wag mansions too.

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:14

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:11

But she didn't say that, nor did I for that matter.

I'm not struggling with it at all anymore, thank you for your concern. And he's my husband.

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I didn’t say husband.
Kate F has not stopped about how much of a struggle it’s been to be a stepmother. The only reason I know about her existence is from articles in the DM moaning about it. How lovely for her step children to read.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:16

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:14

I didn’t say husband.
Kate F has not stopped about how much of a struggle it’s been to be a stepmother. The only reason I know about her existence is from articles in the DM moaning about it. How lovely for her step children to read.

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I know, you told me to take it out on my partner. I don't have one. I have a husband.

Because it literally fucking is sometimes. She is allowed to express that. Stop reading it if you find it so offensive!

I don't think it's damaging for her step children to know it can be hard. Being a parent can be hard. We don't hide that from our children. This is not different. Of course it's hard. It's hard for all of them.

You seem to think it's okay if it's hard for everyone else and everyone else can express that, but not the step mother. Oh no, they can't have feelings or find it hard.

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:17

Like I said. Hateful. Hateful hateful shitty attitude.

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:18

Because the DM would be entirely factual and not spin a thing to suit their agenda. Hopefully Kate's DSC will be more aware than you are of how the media works!

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:19

*Daily.Mail that is, replying to an earlier post from @eyerollcentral

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:21

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:16

I know, you told me to take it out on my partner. I don't have one. I have a husband.

Because it literally fucking is sometimes. She is allowed to express that. Stop reading it if you find it so offensive!

I don't think it's damaging for her step children to know it can be hard. Being a parent can be hard. We don't hide that from our children. This is not different. Of course it's hard. It's hard for all of them.

You seem to think it's okay if it's hard for everyone else and everyone else can express that, but not the step mother. Oh no, they can't have feelings or find it hard.

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Yeah, f those bereaved children, everyone has to know how hard it is for Kate. How would she feel if the children were podcasting about how hard it is to have her moved in so quickly and then displaced by another baby whilst they were still grieving their mother with the background of rumours their father was shagging her whilst their mother was dying? They have no right of reply. They are being made out to be really difficult, a struggle, a problem to be solved. They didn’t ask for any of this. She should have more consideration for the children. No one is saying she can’t complain, she is literally broadcasting it though.

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AngeloMysterioso · 17/03/2023 20:22

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 19:29

This thread is vile.

Are you a stepmum OP? I'm thinking not.

People on this thread spinning what was actually said to suit their agenda of SM bashing. Disgusting. You're all the reason most of us SM's want to run away from it all.

I’m not, but my best friend is, and she has a wonderful relationship with her stepson… who she didn’t even meet until she’d been with her DP for nearly two years. Being a step parent is a big fucking deal, and not something that should be blithely launched into. If I had ever been of a mind to start a relationship with someone who had children I’d certainly not have dreamt of assuming the role of live-in step mum after barely a year of dating. Especially when there is a bereavement of a wife and mother just a couple of years previously to consider.

Obviously they’ve made a success of it, and she clearly has a lovely bond with her stepchildren. But that doesn’t negate the fact that they went into it so quickly, and if it hadn’t worked out the damage it could have done to those children would have been awful. The whole thing must seems to have been so insensitively handled.

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Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:22

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:21

Yeah, f those bereaved children, everyone has to know how hard it is for Kate. How would she feel if the children were podcasting about how hard it is to have her moved in so quickly and then displaced by another baby whilst they were still grieving their mother with the background of rumours their father was shagging her whilst their mother was dying? They have no right of reply. They are being made out to be really difficult, a struggle, a problem to be solved. They didn’t ask for any of this. She should have more consideration for the children. No one is saying she can’t complain, she is literally broadcasting it though.

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More shite. They're not being made out as a problem to be solved whatsoever. Stop lying. Do you have a problem? Like a problem with compulsive lying?

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:24

Sure OP. You're best friend is a stepmum so you're now an expert on the subject and of course, would do it all differently if it were YOU. Bore off. I think you knew what you were doing when you started this thread and you've achieved it. Great work. Let's hope your best friend never needs to go to you for support.

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:24

Your*

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:26

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:18

Because the DM would be entirely factual and not spin a thing to suit their agenda. Hopefully Kate's DSC will be more aware than you are of how the media works!

I only go on to the DM to look at clothes celebs are wearing 🤷‍♀️ I still see the other headlines fgs. And what agenda? You don’t think she is delighted to get her mug in the paper? It’s how she makes her living. That’s so cynical about this too. True or not she has only came out with this about the Mother’s Day card to have something to say in a podcast and get more exposure which leads to more influencer deals. You are very naive if you think she is ‘speaking out’ in solidarity with struggling step mothers.

Lostmyway86 · 17/03/2023 20:27

I never said she was speaking out in solidarity of struggling stepmothers...where did I say that? You are literally continuously making stuff up!

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:28

For what it's worth, I did it all "right". Does that mean it all went swimmingly? No. I put my step child and even his mother first, for a very long time. I made a lot of sacrifices. I never once expressed how hard any of it was in front of my step child or to his mother. I did everything right. Does that mean there weren't struggles? Does that mean it wasn't hard? No. No it doesn't.

Its bollocks saying oh well it's so much better if you meet them after two years. It's not. It's luck. It could all go totally fucking tits up at any given minute I absolutely promise you. It is not an extract science. It is humans and it is feelings and it is families. How many blood relatives don't get along, eh?

Think on that.

TellySavalashairbrush · 17/03/2023 20:29

I’m shocked she is thought of so negatively. I’d heard the kids thought a lot of her and that despite being young herself, she’d done her best to support their children after their mothers death. Rio’s mum also died from cancer I believe , not that long after his wife. Love or hate celebrities, that’s a lot to go through for him and his children.

Eyerollcentral · 17/03/2023 20:29

Birdsbirdsbirds · 17/03/2023 20:22

More shite. They're not being made out as a problem to be solved whatsoever. Stop lying. Do you have a problem? Like a problem with compulsive lying?

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Well if she is going on about how hard it’s been to fit in to the family who is she talking about except the children? Wise up. Still no need for her to breach her step children’s privacy to use stories about their family life to line her own pockets.