Boyfriend thinks my puppy is his

[oonrug]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. I am 24 he is 23. We both live with our parents, but he practically lives at my house and hasn't gone home in months.

A few weeks ago I bought a puppy, he is gorgeous and I love him so much! However, my boyfriend is insisting that he is "his dog as well" I don't have an issue with this statement, but he has said that if anything happens and we split up, that the dog will be half of his and we would have to share custody of him.

I just find this bizarre as I paid for the dog (he wasn't cheap) I picked him up, I look after him (although he does his fair share). Just because I was with my boyfriend when I got the puppy, surely it doesn't automatically make him his dog?

I was just looking for some opinions on this, or aibu and looking too much in to it?

I've actually heard of this happening. A friend of mine lived with her boyfriend at her parents house. They were saving up to buy a house together and in the meantime they bought a dog. He walked out one day and took the dog with him. He moved in with someone he'd been having an affair with. She was absolutely devastated and her dad went round to see him and demanded he give the dog back, which he did thankfully after her dad guilt tripped him into it.

But then surely he would just ask worst case scenario if they broke up would he still get to see the dog? I find it really weird he's laying down the law when everyone knows if someone has bought something it belongs to them only, he's not even asked just said 'it's half mine'. Especially as he is still not contributing financially for him/her.

I just feel sorry for your parents. Did they get a say in first your boyfriend moving in and then a puppy?

Are you maybe taking the statement a bit more seriously than it was intended?

I ask because it seems a bit bizarre to me that a partner in a happy relationship would bring up the idea of splitting anything “if you separated” in a serious way unless you were explicitly negotiating ownership and responsibility. It just sounds much more like a throwaway comment meant to demonstrate how much he likes the dog than an actual claim of ownership.

We both live with our parents, but he practically lives at my house and hasn't gone home in months.

His claim on the pup is just to distract you from his real agenda; which is taking ownership of your parents and their home.

When you and BF split up, you'll be the one expected to move out (leaving the dog, of course) because he and your parents love each other so much. They are going to adopt him and leave every thing to him in their Wills.

If you're lucky, you'll get rehomed from OLD.

I do get what you all mean, if it was the other way around I would know that it was officially my boyfriends dog, no matter how much I loved it

Some crazy lomb-bombing from the puppy for OP's boyfriend to be so obsessively dependent after just a few weeks 🚩🤣

I don't. It's their fault for letting it happen and raising an entitled kid.

If this is the real deal like.

@PinkSyCo what a stupid question, of course they did.

@gamerchick entitled kid? How am I in any way entitled haha. I've graduated from uni, have a full time job (and worked since I was 16 may I add) I do not ask my parents for a penny and get along with them amazingly. Odd comment

If you are thinking of commenting something about my parents, my living arrangements, my financial situation, etc please go back and read my OP and keep it relevant. In the kindest way I don't care what you have to say about any of the above.

He's raising the possibility of breaking up with you... and advising you in advance that it wont be easy for you. You will lose more than just him, he's saying

This. He sounds like a cunt.

I'd have the conversation with him about puppy ownership in front of your parents tbh It's bizarre that he's acting like he has half ownership and that he's linking it to custody if you split up. If he's deliberately waving red flags then having an audience of your parents will rein it in. If he was just over excited and naive then he'll quickly apologise.

I also want to add, he hasn't said this in a malicious way. He just seems to think that if anything happened that we would share the dog, he hasn't said he's going to "take him off me" he has just said that we would have him 50/50.

Yesss and what would he do if you refused to share custody?

Op I know you don’t want to hear it but his idea that just because you are together that means he has joint ownership of anything you purchase is beyond strange.

OP: my boyfriend think he owns my adorable new puppy
Mumsnet: your boyfriend and this entire situation are full of red flags 🚩🚩🚩
OP: lalalalala I only want to hear about my adorable new puppy

What is with all the poison directed at the OP? Fucking lunatics abound on this site.

Get rid of bf, keep the dog. And train it to sniff out entitled, grabby cocklodgers from a mile.

You work full time and decided to get a puppy. Not you looking after it then. You live with your parents as a grown arse adult and move a very strange bloke who wants to own half of yours in, who seems to be there by stealth going on your OP.

I'm was surprised to read your age because you're not behaving like it.

Saving for your own place doesn't mean buying animals when you live with your parents, nor does it mean moving your boyfriend in.

OP I just came on to ask.....

What kind of puppy did you get and you haven't included the obligatory photo! On the litter tray threads we all pay the cat tax only fair you pay the dog tax 😉

@gamerchick I have a very flexible job where I work from home so yes I do look after it.

Not acting like it? In what way am I not acting like it? I am very mature actually and asked a simple question which is obviously too difficult for you to understand.

@Stravaig I'm taking all of the comments on board, I don't care about people saying my bf is a red flag it's probably true. What I don't agree with is people calling me entitled, commenting on my parents, my finances which is all irrelevant to what I asked!

Also when have I mentioned anything about hearing about my puppy like you just said? Your deluded

Who pissed in your mug?

The OP clearly has a great relationship with her folks, who want her to stay while she raises a deposit for her first home, they’re clearly animal lovers and they may all run along nicely. The boyfriend was welcomed and pays rent.

He may have funny ideas about dog ownership, but they’re obviously all very comfortable in their set up.

Might not have suited you or your family, but is there any need to be so unpleasant? 😆

@Doesthepopeshitinthewoods thank you! I've never seen so many miserable people jumping to conclusions in all my life x

There's always at least one poster looking for a fight on here . Just ignore them. They'll eventually go misunderstand/insult some other OP.

Peiple pride themselves on being cunts to OPs for any reason they see fit, @oonrug. Don’t worry about it. It is part of their ‘MN identity’. That’s why they never change names. It’s them, it’s not you.