10 kids? To judge it not to judge?

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Sekena · 13/03/2023 18:45

I don't have 10 kids lol BUT boyfriends Dad was one of 10 - boyfriend's dad was a 'rainbow' baby born after a stillbirth -although doubt if this term was used then. Boyfriend himself is one of 5 - and all the sibs get on.

On MN - you get for instance a lot of 'only child' threads and parents potential guilt for not providing siblings and the opinions on these quite rightly are overwhelmingly that onlies don't miss out and these only child stereotypes are nonsense - which I completely agree with - I firmly believe an only child can thrive and doesn't need siblings. However - I also believe that a child in a large family can also thrive - just like my boyfriend's dad did. However if I was to say I'd like 10 kids - would I be judged ? I haven't decided on this at all - I'm currently pregnant with my second - but honestly felt my DD thrived as an only so definitely didn't conceive to give Dd a sibling - am delighted for this child in its own right !

I'm currently open minded about family size and am a SAHM. But what are your opinions on families of 10 like my boyfriends Dad's - WIBU if this is what I wanted ?

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summerpoolandsun · 14/03/2023 19:30

Sorry, but I would judge, I can’t help but feel 3 is the max number that seems reasonable and like all kids could benefit, more than that and I just don’t see it would benefit anyone

Xoxoxoxoxoxox · 15/03/2023 10:21

My dad is from a family of 11 - he had a deprived childhood in the North East in the 1940’s but he went on to have a great life.
I think that here is sometimes too much focus on the childhood and not enough on what an individual managed to overcome and achieve in their life.

Personally two children was enough for me as urban life and high housing costs limit my space but it’s interesting to note that in the USA the birth rate is a bit higher as they have cheap housing and lots of room.

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 15/03/2023 12:09

SafferUpNorth · 14/03/2023 11:19

I would totally judge - 10 kids in this day and age is unjustifiable on every level. Environmentally damaging. Draining on public funds. Emotionally less than ideal for the children themselves. People with large families are simply selfish.

AS for the ideal number - well, I have one. Perfect for me. I'd say the max is two - for a couple to replace themselves (if they feel they need to). But guess what.... unless you're sure you're going to birth the next Einstein, the world doesn't need your offspring.

Absolutely. There is also a negative correlation with the level of education the mother has to the number of children she chooses to have. Being absolutely brutal, women with larger families seem particularly unlikely to birth the next Einstein 😬

Doesthepopeshitinthewoods · 15/03/2023 12:52

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 15/03/2023 12:09

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