Potential lodger has been logging on website - is she going to be flakey

[Tricktracey]

I’ve got a spare room and she’s supposed to be moving in, in two weeks.

I’be noticed she logged into the website 9 hours ago and also a few times over the past week. I don’t check everyday but yesterday she logged in three days ago.

I haven’t taken a deposit…. but do you think she’s going to flake out?

^^lol

Can you message her and say you want to start paperwork and get her deposit for the room by a certain date or you will have to repost the room?

Instead of snooping, just ask for a deposit.

I'd find it a bit creepy and intrusive if the potential LL was watching how many times I log into a site.

Oh as a frequent renter, I get the worry though. Yeah just ask for a deposit. It's not too late now.

I’ve agreed verbally to not require it…. :/

Always take a deposit! A week's rent on agreement to secure the room and keep it as a damage deposit. Never agree to let your room without taking a deposit.

By not requiring a deposit, she has no obligation to you.

What do you think 99.9% of LLs ask for a deposit?

Why not what

Yes!

Honestly I hope she see's this thread and backs out anyway this is a major red flag. Not only are you now essentially cyber stalking the girl, you are trying to sway and dictate her thoughts and actions. You seem like the type of landlord to literally control the heating of the house, when people can use appliances, when they can go on nights out etc. You aren't ready to rent out unfortunately.

Bit overboard don’t you think!

I’m really bad with boundaries as well.

Just what every lodger wants to hear from their prospective landlord 🚩

You're bad with boundaries?

You don't say! You're not going to go all Misery on her if she moves in are you?

No I really don’t think it’s overboard, your behaviour that you’ve described on this thread is odd

How so?

No i just clearly should have asked for a deposit or else I wouldn’t be unsure if she is moving in. Boundary.

For her sake I hope she has found somewhere else. Your behaviour is utterly odd, especially the part where you are calling her flakey for logging into the same website you are logging into…..

rational people would see this as me being in a vulnerable position and perhaps thinking she’s not going to want to move in as she hasn’t committed with money etc. So if she hadn’t logged into the site since she viewed, it would be all good…. But now I have doubts.

mumsnet - omg dump him/get rid/you sound hard etc typical response

I hope she’s found somewhere else. You really sound creepy. Also, if you don’t even realise you
need to take a deposit, I don’t believe you’re an experienced landlord.

This sounds stalker-ish

Either they 'qualify' or not

There could be lots of reasons that have nothing to do with you

You are not being fair

She hasn’t “committed with money” because your agreement didn’t require that.

A vulnerable person?

LOL

No, you're giving off a very creepy obsessive vibe, and you're NOT the victim here.

Don't start slinging insults around because you're not getting the response you want

You fucked up. You should have asked for a deposit. That's not her fault.

For her sake I hope she finds somewhere else. Maybe with someone with boundaries.