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WIU not to give her another banana?

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isurvived3under2 · 11/03/2023 21:59

DD is nearly 5. Tonight she asked for a banana after dinner, which I said she could have. 5 minutes later she asked for another banana. I enquired what had happened to the first banana, she said she had changed her mind and had put it in the bin. But then she changed her mind again and indeed wanted a banana.

WIU to say no to a second banana, let her cry for 20 minutes and send her to bed with a 'rumbly tummy'?

OP posts:
N4ish · 11/03/2023 22:00

Yes, very unreasonable.

Paperexcelandpens · 11/03/2023 22:01

I would have done the same.

SarahAndQuack · 11/03/2023 22:02

I'd say no, sorry, the banana is gone. But if you genuinely think she is hungry, I'd offer two other suitably boring choices (if you're us, plain yoghurt or an apple) instead. While repeating the point that if you throw things in the bin, they're gone.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 11/03/2023 22:03

No to the banana but I’d offer something else if she really is hungry.

Justmeandthedog1 · 11/03/2023 22:03

That’s 5 year olds for you. I’d feel like you , I’ve got a bit of a thing about food waste. I’d have offered a piece of toast instead of a second banana, I think.

pishkashante · 11/03/2023 22:03

I would have taken her into the kitchen and got the banana out of the bin. The fruit inside would have been protected from the rubbish.

A good lesson to her on not wasting food.

SarahAndQuack · 11/03/2023 22:03

(But, YY, you will definitely be held to be unreasonable. Almost as bad as the time when you literally forced her to jump in a puddle and then she had wet socks for the whole five steps from there to the house. You monster, you.)

octoberfarm · 11/03/2023 22:05

I think it depends. If it was a one off lapse in judgement, I'd probably have had a stern word and then given her another. On the other hand, if it happens a lot, it would have been a no from me too. Although to be fair I might have caved and given her the most boring snack I could find to stop the hungry feeling.

Smartiepants79 · 11/03/2023 22:05

Of course you’re not being unreasonable. I would have said the same thing.
Is it likely she was actually hungry? Had she not had any tea? I’m sure she’ll survive til the morning.
Hopefully she’ll not do that again.

Original poster
isurvived3under2 · 11/03/2023 22:05

pishkashante · 11/03/2023 22:03

I would have taken her into the kitchen and got the banana out of the bin. The fruit inside would have been protected from the rubbish.

A good lesson to her on not wasting food.

She had actually peeled it and not touched it (potentially licked it?!) so it was exposed to the rubbish.

OP posts:
coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 11/03/2023 22:06

YANBU.

Verylongtime · 11/03/2023 22:10

YANBU.
I’d have got it out of the bin if she wanted to eat something. I would be cross for wasting food. If she didn’t want it, she could have left it on the plate. But throwing it in the bin is poor behaviour and I’d have had strong words.

R0ckets · 11/03/2023 22:12

Definitely not at all unreasonable. She can't have been that hungry and I would have also been not to impressed with her before asking for another banana as it was incredibly wasteful to just throw the whole thing away uneaten.

Pixiedust1234 · 11/03/2023 22:12

Don't offer any other food. She's old enough to understand that she shouldn't have done that. If you give in now she won't have learnt a valuable lesson about wasting food. At the very least she could have asked if you wanted it before putting it in the bin.

WinterMusings · 11/03/2023 22:12

Why did she put it in the bin & not on a plate on the side or something?

You did the right thing. Given she'd had dinner she couldn't have been that hungry! She's not going to starve overnight. If it had been longer since dinner I've had let her have a different, more boring, snack. Carrot sticks?!

Haraebo · 11/03/2023 22:17

Definitely not unreasonable!

I would offer something not very exciting if she is hungry before bed.

Daffodil18 · 11/03/2023 22:27

Wow some harsh parenting. She’s only 5 so she changed her mind. Don’t let her go to bed hungry.

BurbageBrook · 11/03/2023 22:29

Harsh IMO.

MoggyMittens23 · 11/03/2023 22:31

Not harsh at all IMO!

Floralnomad · 11/03/2023 22:33

In future give her anything she wants on a plate and tell her to save it for later . I wouldn’t have given her another banana out of principle but I’d have let her have something else

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 11/03/2023 22:33

I think I'd have said no to a banana if she binned the first. But I'd also never put a child to bed hungry. I'd have given porridge probably

Coffeellama · 11/03/2023 22:36

I’d have offered her something else, letting a 5 year old go to bed hungry to teach a lesson is mean. She changed her mind and made a mistake, so no she doesn’t get another banana, but also no she shouldn’t have to go to bed hungry.

MrsDoylesDoily · 11/03/2023 22:36

YANBU at all.

Was her stomach really rumbling or was that just what she was saying?

maddiemookins16mum · 11/03/2023 22:37

Hungry? She’d had dinner. Surely a cup of warm milk would have cured a rumbly tummy.

Coffeellama · 11/03/2023 22:37

Also does she normally eat nothing after tea? Like supper or evening snack?

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