WIU not to give her another banana?

[isurvived3under2]

DD is nearly 5. Tonight she asked for a banana after dinner, which I said she could have. 5 minutes later she asked for another banana. I enquired what had happened to the first banana, she said she had changed her mind and had put it in the bin. But then she changed her mind again and indeed wanted a banana.

WIU to say no to a second banana, let her cry for 20 minutes and send her to bed with a 'rumbly tummy'?

Way too harsh IMO

I couldn’t let my child go to bed genuinely hungry, if they’re were dicking about or not, to prove a point. Only you can know if she was hungry.
Five year olds are daft, mine is.

i'd have given her another banana.

I'm really surprised at so many posters thinking she was actually sent to bed hungry. She had eaten a meal and been offered a snack she's hardly been starved before bedtime. If she was genuinely hungry she would have eaten the banana she had been given 20 minutes prior to complaining her tummy was rumbling.

That was her complaint. It wasn't rumbling. She'd just had a good dinner and pudding.

Nope, tea and bed.

I hate food waste and would not have been happy about it going in the bin but I was routinely starved as a child as 'punishment', sometimes for days.
I would never send a child to bed hungry.

Well I don't out my child to bed straight after dinner... So 🤷

That's what I thought because you wrapped the words rumbly tummy in apostrophes.

I think a lot of posters have missed that though and believed it.

My five year old doesn’t usually have supper, tea about 5 and bed at 7.
buuuut, he sometimes feels hungry. He’s not a robot. I don’t feel hungry at the same time 24/7, so why should he. I also think 5 years olds are dafties. Who might make a mistake about a banana. It might have been too yellow, too brown, too bend, ooh there’s some stickers, ooh there’s the playdoh and all of a sudden the banana you didn’t want sounds tasty again.

Why have you taught her to throw good food away in the first place?
If she changed her mind she could have wrapped it in cling film.

She's FIVE. I can't believe people are suggesting fishing a banana out of the bin or letting her go to bed hungry. Have you, as an adult, never changed your mind about wanting food? Give her a new bloody banana and stop acting like a dick. Children remember this kind of stuff.

Because she's 5

p.s. yanbu not to give her the second banana.

YABU. It’s only a banana. I would have given her another one; food waste doesn’t bother me 🤷‍♀️ I’ll just buy more.

She'd had dinner and pudding, she wasn't going to bed hungry. I would've done the same OP. It's so important that children learn bit to be so wasteful, there are so many people without enough to eat.
Surprised so many children have a snack before bed tbh! What time are they eating and going to bed?
DH has dinner 5-5:30 bath around six, in bed for a story and a cup of milk around 6:40, teeth brushed, lights out by seven.

I think going to bed maybe, slightly, hungry, is a good natural consequence for wasting food. I would’ve done the same.

Five is old enough to understand that we shouldn't waste good food.

no I would not have given another banana, that’s really wasteful and she could’ve at least offered it to someone else if she didn’t want it (I know, she’s 5 so probably didn’t think that far ahead). Depends how long since dinner wether or not I would’ve offered anything else, but then we have always eaten at 530/6 and mine have never had snacks before bed.

YANBU if she was really hungry she'd have eaten the banana the first time besides which she'd just had tea. It's slightly peturbing that so many people can't cope with the idea of a child feeling any thing but full.

@namechangetheworld she'd eaten dinner and pudding directly before the banana, she wasn't going to bed hungry.

Totally agree with you. I hate waste and my kids would get a telling off for chucking good food. The fact that she changed her mind suggests that her hunger was fairly borderline anyway so I wouldn’t stress about her ‘going to bed hungry’

My son has a snack every single night. It started off a cosy Weetabix in the hopes it would keep him asleep for longer maybe around the age of 18months. But ever since then it's an apple or oatcake or whatever and a drink as well, kept on his bedside table and now he's 3.5 it's just the routine. Tonight my husband only brought up a drink and when I was about to start the books DS said "wait! Where's my night-time snack?! I'd like some banana, an apple and an orange. Just a wee selection mummy"! (He got 3 slices of apple and 4 pieces of sliced banana)

Dinner at 6 usually and bed at 7.30 asleep by 8. He eats a good amount at dinner time but he's pretty set on his supper/snack too!

Natural consequences. Assuming Banana1 was not mouldy, if she had changed her mind she should have given it back to you to wrap in foil/eat yourself/set aside. Putting it in the bin is sheer wastefulness.

Obviously she wasn’t hungry. Hungry people don’t throw perfectly good food in the bin.

YANBU, you don’t teach kids not to waste food by letting them waste food. Even if she was still a bit hungry when she went to bed, she’s not gonna die of it.