DNephew should support baby

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Hi NC as outing.
My DH DB and his wife have just told DH that their DS (19 a couple of months ago) has told them he has a baby that's a few months old! He knew from early on in the pregnancy but insisted he wanted a dna test before getting involved as they weren't together. He didn't tell his DP until a few weeks ago. The babies mum went through pregnancy and gave birth with no support. Baby born and dna test done. It is DN's. He then told her he never wanted a baby and didn't want to be involved or to pay. She said fine, I'll have to do it on my own then but I do need some money for a cot - he gave her some not all. SIL told him to put some money in a bank account so if CMS come knocking he can prove he was willing to support. He has said £100 A YEAR!! Not even going to the baby or her mum. Then SIL got a document drawn up to say if she changes her mind about child maintenance in the future she has no right to ask him. The babies mum has rightly refused to sign it and has cut all contact. DN has a good full time job and lives at home with few outgoings.
Other family have all supported DN and said how proud they are of him and they'll support him no matter what. I just can't get on board with this and DH not happy but keeping quiet.

Apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

He continues to mock people for their none designer clothes and "shit" cars.

DBIL has strong opinions on people on benefits yet he is encouraging his DS to not contribute and the likelihood is the mum will now be on benefits for many years.

Doesn't this make the way you handle it easy? They sound such a revolting family, you just withdraw from all but the most necessary contact.

I hope she goes to CMS and gets what she is entitled to.

I understand it is hard for DN, he didn't want a baby, but he did nothing to stop one from happening and therefore should face the consequences. Lets hope that he learns a lesson from this.

I know of a case like this from several years ago, and when the boy got older and had more children, he contacted the first child that he had previously ignored.

That child , now an adult, wanted nothing to do with him and still doesn't.

I hope this gets picked up by the tabloids, I hope they all recognise themselves. And I hope the nephew and his revolting family realise we think they’re all cunts.

They are all disgusting and wicked 🤬😭

Yes...when they start earning, they need to pay child support.

Agree.

But it's not really a relevant argument in this case because this man is not aged 11-14.

Horrible horrible people! Parents worse even than son! How many times will he do this if his actions have no consequences? Do these arseholes not realise that this is their grandchild that they are turning their backs on?!

Problem is this happens every day, so it's not that interesting to the press. In fact, the only one they will vilify is the single mother who will now invariably need benefits, despite the fact she will be the only one who will actually be doing something to raise the child which has been jointly made. Far far more needs to be done to make men accept their financial responsibility here.