My FIL lives quite far away. He used to live somewhat closer but moved away a couple of years ago to be closer to his aging dad. Now we only see his once a year rather than 3-4 times. My daughter took it pretty hard - she loves her grandpa. They're having a huge family get together this weekend and we were all invited, but I can't go due to starting a new job recently and not being able to get the time off. My husband decided that he would just go. No discussion, just "I'm going". He didn't even tell me when he was planning on leaving or coming home until today (he's leaving around 2am tonight).
Honestly, I don't even care that much about the details. What I'm annoyed about is that he won't tell my daughter where he's going, and didn't even entertain the idea of taking her. He said "she has school". Kids take time off of school quite often for vacations. Not really that big of a deal, and it would only be two days according to his timeline. She's also always wanted to fly. We never do because the cost of the tickets plus a rental car is just too expensive. I thought this would be a great opportunity for that because just the two of them would be reasonable, but he wouldn't discuss the trip at all.
He's convinced that I'm just jealous about not going (I'm not), and that I'm just looking for things to yell at him about. I am truly totally happy with staying home - I feel bad for my daughter, I feel bad lying to her, and I'm angry about the lack of communication. Am I being unreasonable to ask that he at least talk about taking her when she's been asking to see her grandpa for months and months (or even just about the trip in general)?