What do you love about your sons?

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Just to balance out all the posters who are disappointed with the sex of their babies (and 99% of the time it's having a boy).

I say this as someone who was disappointed about finding out I was having a boy.

But I was totally wrong (obviously).

He is the funniest, chattiest, most affectionate thing and I feel like going to wake him up right now to kiss him.

This.
Would be better if it were a thread about what you love about your DC? Why is it relevant if it's boy or girl, they are all unique and are not defined by their gender (I have 2 DS and 1 DD)

I think it was to counter the gender disappointment threads. Lots of wonderful things about having a son but you wouldn’t think it from reading other MN threads!

I always find it so interesting as any little boy I meet, I find to be very lovely, kind considerate and polite. And loves his mum! Very rarely have I met a boy I don’t like.

Whereas I could write a book about the horrible girls my DD goes to school with, about the girls I worked with who made my life hell when I worked with children and there just seems to be so many issues with girls all the time.

And then, you have men - SO MANY of whom are shit vile woman hating human beings. And it’s rare I find an adult woman I dislike. I love other women and have many female friends. I can barely tolerate most men.

I don’t think it’s a generational thing either and we are suddenly raising Nice Men after centuries of shithouse men being raised.

But I have often wondered - when does it change?! IYSWIM.

'lots of wonderful things about having a son...' - I just can't get my head around thinking like this - attributing their 'wonderfulness' to being a boy or girl - to my mind, the fact they are wonderful can't be linked to the fact they are either a boy or girl, but to who they are as an individual!

Oh FGS.

Also pots of wonderful things about having a daughter.

My point was: MN would have you believe having a son is some sort of affliction. Some of us want to talk about how it’s not.

No one is forcing you to be or stay on this thread.

I'm relatively new to this, so you'll have to forgive me if I haven't read all the girl-hating posts! Pleased to hear that no-one is forcing me to stay on here, and hopefully no-one forcing me to leave either. Just finding it interesting to see how others think about these things.

Do you expect them to dislike having boys? I don’t really know what you’re getting at TBH. People loving their sons is absolutely no reflection on how anyone should feel about having girls.

I wanted a girl. I have 2 sons.

DS1 (nearly 3) is incredibly clever. Not even 3 and he can count objects to 30, read a digital clock, and recognize the entire alphabet. He is funny, sweet, curious, dramatic, and determined. He does a hilarious sigh and slumps his shoulders when he doesn't get his way. It takes every ounce of control not to smile and laugh, even when he's being naughty. He loves Lightning McQueen and plays imaginary games with toy cars for 90% of his play time every day, then takes the cars to the bath and to bed at night. I am so proud of him.

DS2 is 4 months old. He is so smiley and giggles whenever he sees his brother. He is so active; rolling over, scooting backwards, and trying to crawl already. When he is excited by seeing a toy, his brother, his dad or the dog, he rocks back and forth furiously while being held and has the biggest grin on his face. Plus he has the most ridiculous head of hair, rolls on his knees, and massive blue eyes.

Yes, I wanted a girl. But I wouldn't trade my boys for anything.

Should have said 'boy' not 'girl'!

Mine is 12 and still loves a cuddle in my bed and is very generous with cuddles generally to me and his Dad. No kisses though since age 4!

TheObstinateHeadStrongGirl I work with children and the vast majority are fabulous human beings, boys and girls. I suspect where it might change with boys is the drip feed of entitlement. Still being brought up as subtly more important, from family dynamics shown here , to wider influences, the term Karen etc. When they realise despite being funny, kind, clever a woman might earn more than them or be more successful they resent it and the awful behaviour kicks in.

Always wanted a boy and luckily got one.

He’s sweet, funny, warm, kind, smart. I love the way boys do things. Find it fascinating how their little minds work. So different to how I think. Wouldn’t have ever said I’m a girl Mum. Happy to be both but never wanted a girl specifically

That’s probably more because of associations I have with girls: bitchiness growing up in a girls school etc, wouldn’t wish that on my daughter - all the drama. I’m having a girl now and I hope I she’ll grow up happier than I did in the school years 🤞Making a conscious effort to change the pattern

The point I was trying to make (obviously not very well!) is that it's great to celebrate and appreciate your children for who they are. Yes I'm all in favour of pointing out that it's not just girls who can have great qualities (have 2 sons of my own), but I don't think it's helpful to specifically attribute these qualities to them being a boy (or, in reverse, a girl). Comments like 'I love the way boys' minds work, so different to mine'.. 'no-one can appreciate the special bond with a son' etc. To me these kinds of comments don't seem a helpful way of thinking about things if we want to break down gender stereotypes.

His patience and resilience, his spontaneous hugs, his humour and how he loves so freely. My son is awesome

He has grown from an intelligent, capable, loving boy into an intelligent, capable loving man, husband and father
...and he still gives the best hugs!

I have 1 of each, I never wanted a boy, i always envisioned it being horrible

But it's not. Hes amazing, hes so loving and caring, hes so funny and sweet. Honestly, he melts me. If i was ever to have anymore I'd want another boy. Mine is ace

I did want a girl. But that soon changed once he was born and when I have a second I would love a boy. I'm not bothered about having a girl. If I do I would love her the same. But boys are great. I honestly would love another one.

My son is my best friend and the person I trust most in the world. Boys are brilliant.

@Shodan.. It sounds like you treat them like equals and let them have a say which is probably why they still want to be around you

Also:
the way I learn about how men are formed from him.

It's educative.

This is adorable 🥰

Exactly the same here !!

My boys are decent, kind and great company. I adore them.

I love how funny my oldest is, he never fails to have to crying with laughter. I even hear him in the shower now making himself laugh about something daft.