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What do you love about your sons?

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Justputitdown · 08/03/2023 19:50

Just to balance out all the posters who are disappointed with the sex of their babies (and 99% of the time it's having a boy).

I say this as someone who was disappointed about finding out I was having a boy.

But I was totally wrong (obviously).

He is the funniest, chattiest, most affectionate thing and I feel like going to wake him up right now to kiss him.

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UWhatNow · 08/03/2023 21:13

ElonsMusky · 08/03/2023 20:20

Being disappointed about the sex of your baby is a good litmus test to answer the question, "Am I a shit person?". Yes, yes you are.

Being unkind and lacking empathy also counts as being a shit person.

Silverbook · 08/03/2023 21:14

My DS is 4 and so snuggly, affectionate and loving. His war cry is " I want a tuddle (cuddle)" quickly followed "peeese".

HammerToFall · 08/03/2023 21:14

@bravotango my much awaited little boy is also 4 months and is the absolute apple of my eye. We waited 22 years for him and never never thought it would happen. He is the most loving little boy and definitely knows who his mama is. It makes it all the much sweeter when they've been so longed for doesn't it

Zanatdy · 08/03/2023 21:20

I have 2 lovely sons (and a daughter in that order)

Son 1 (29) very close, it was just him and me for a long time, had him at 16. He’s very creative, writes wondering stories / literature, has many of the same interests as me (eg true crime), we do lots of stuff together, we are going on a US road trip in October for his 30th bday, we’ve been to Iceland, New York, a Euro cruise and lots of other trips together. Not hugely driven but happy with a simple life, I love his courage to travel on his own if no-one else is available. He wants to see the world and learn about other cultures and I really admire (and slightly jealous) his drive to do that. He’s ticked off so many places.

Son no 2 (18) is so driven, he is the hardest studying person I’ve ever met. Got 97% on average score in his A levels last year, now at Uni. He’s good at most things, but is so modest. He’s very polite and kind hearted. Sometimes he looks at me and gives me this lovely smile and I feel so proud of him. He’s literally never given me a days trouble in his life (taking away the first sleepless year!). He’s also very mature and understanding. Grateful for what he is given; never expected.

ArmchairAnarchist2 · 08/03/2023 21:20

I do have a DD (our third DC) and hand on heart I'd have been equally happy if she was male and I certainly didn't have a third to try for a girl, as most seemed to assume.
I regularly have days out with my two DS and love spending time with them as adults (one is only just and still at home.) DS aged 28 comes for dinner once a week. I'm so proud of the partner he is to his fiancée, sharing equally in all things and treating her with love and respect. When you raise a man to be everything you would like all men to be there's no better feeling. DH and DS1 do a lot of DIY projects on DS's home. Watching father and son working together, problem solving is an unexpected thing of beauty.
We don't interfere but never feel excluded and being asked for advice and help shows me we got something right. Before he proposed he asked me to go ring shopping with him. He also rang as soon as he'd asked, full of excitement, even though it was 4am our time. That was a wonderful moment as a parent. Posters on MN make out that sons are never as close as daughters. I can't see it in the two we have.

Monstermoomoo · 08/03/2023 21:25

I wanted girls both times and have two boys. I was so worried about being disappointed the second time that we went for a sexing scan rather than being surprised at birth, but actually the second I found out it was another boy I felt a major sense of relief :) I mean, I only wanted girls because I find girl names easier to come up with and girl clothes cuter than boy stuff, so not the most serious reasons 😅

Both my boys are absolutely amazing. They're completely chalk and cheese. My youngest is such a bossy boots whereas I always felt my oldest should've been a younger sibling as he's more of a follower. They love each other a ridiculous amount and they're just awesome. A treat for them is when I let them share a bed on holiday as they just lie there giggling away and cuddling.

bravotango · 08/03/2023 21:27

@HammerToFall it really does - I absolutely adore him and still can't believe it was him kicking me for all those months after wishing for him for so long! Watching him change and grow each day is the biggest joy of my life Smile

LittleMG · 08/03/2023 21:32

Great post! I’ve got 2 kids both sons and they are brilliant and I absolutely adore them. No1 son (4) is totally gorgeous, super loving mummy’s boy and funny. No2 son (10months) has an air of innocence and purity and he’s actually extremely smart and a total monkey!
I love it when they are laughing together and usually at each others antics.

Zippidydoda · 08/03/2023 21:36

I love that my son is so interested in things….history, science,
politics. He’s only 8 but can have a good conversation about things. I love that he tries all sorts of food and is happy to try new foods…makes it a joy to go to dinner with him.

MagicMatilda · 08/03/2023 21:39

My 3 boys are hilarious, I adore them. They are so loving, affectionate and protective of me. Very happy boy mum!

JassyRadlett · 08/03/2023 21:40

I'm loving the posts from parents of older teens and adult sons in particular. We get fed such negativity about teenagers in general and adult sons and it's so lovely to see the counterpoint.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 08/03/2023 21:45

My son is amazing, it's been him and me since he was a baby and he's nearly a teen now. He is happy to sit and play games with me, watch tv, just spend time with me. He cuddles me all the time, tells me how much he loves me. He rarely gets stroppy and never at me if he does. He doesn't get embarrassed for his friends to hear him say he loves me. He's my absolute world and makes me so so proud.

Ivyonthewalls · 08/03/2023 21:48

We have two sons one 12 and one 9. They became best friends through lockdown. Both of them are so genuine and am very proud to call them mine/ours.

Valhalla17 · 08/03/2023 21:52

My ds is 12. I'm a lone parent and he hasn't set eyes on his "father" since he was about a year old. My ds and I are like peas in a pod. He is kind and loving....many teachers & parents at his primary school used to tell me all the time how lovely he was, how he had helped someone at school. There was a child in his class who had to often be in a wheelchair and my ds would help her with all sorts, helping with work and ensuring she could get to class equipment etc. He just treats everyone with kindness and so I'm really proud of him. He is also absolutely hilarious, does random things that make me laugh and comes out with the wittiest comments. I will be a grump after work and he will casually moonwalk across the kitchen....

Move22 · 08/03/2023 22:00

I lost a parent end of last year very suddenly; our middle son (22) was living at home during this time and was such an amazing support to me - held me when I was collapsing in tears, sort of brushed my arms downwards whilst hugging me tight and gently saying ‘calm, calm, calm’ I’m not even sure where he learned this? All my boys are amazing.

Lovely thread!

JassyRadlett · 08/03/2023 22:01

Move22 · 08/03/2023 22:00

I lost a parent end of last year very suddenly; our middle son (22) was living at home during this time and was such an amazing support to me - held me when I was collapsing in tears, sort of brushed my arms downwards whilst hugging me tight and gently saying ‘calm, calm, calm’ I’m not even sure where he learned this? All my boys are amazing.

Lovely thread!

I'm so sorry for your loss. But gosh what an amazing job you did raising that young man.

Undermyumberellaellaella · 08/03/2023 22:02

They are perfect ❤️

creekingmillenial · 08/03/2023 22:04

Kind, super loving, chatty and interesting. What’s not to like!

Move22 · 08/03/2023 22:04

‘Jassyradlett’ thank you so much!

EllaPaella · 08/03/2023 22:05

I have three beautiful sons 8,12 and 20.
They are thoughtful, funny, kind, insightful, intelligent, loving and respectful. Simply the best human beings.
I'm blesses to have them. Can't understand why people get disappointed over the sex of their babies.

Keeween · 08/03/2023 22:08

He’s only little (under two) but he’s an absolute fucking delight. He’s such a happy, funny, lively, brave little man and he makes me so unbelievably proud every single day. His laugh is a delight and he’s always laughing. He’s so chunky and cuddly and just so precious and solid to squeeze. He holds my hand every single chance he gets and gives the cutest kisses.

Yousee · 08/03/2023 22:12

My DS1 is 3 years old, and the sweetest, funniest, smartest, toughest little guy in the world. His laugh is uproarious, his banger hilarious, I could waffle on an on about how fabulous a little human he is... He loves glitter and princesses as much as mud and cars. No gender stereotyping allowed in this house!
DS2 would be 2 now, he was a stillborn lockdown baby so he feels like mine alone. He has raised tens of thousands of pounds for charity via the absolute perfection of his beautiful little face (and DHs bloody mindedness!). I'm so proud of my angel boy.
DS3 is 6 months and shaping up nicely. I adore every hair on his fuzzy wee head. His chubby smiles, the very important little chats we have... Can't wait to find out who he is.
I can't believe my luck to have my three boys!

Rainbowshit · 08/03/2023 22:20

My DS is 16 and I just love him so much.

He was just so beautiful as a baby and is turning into the most handsome young man.

He always been so affectionate and cuddly. I was made redundant when he was 2 and he comforted me as I cried.

His cuddles these days are a bit more elbows and knees, he's like a stick insect 😂 and he lifts me up as he's now taller than me. Making the most of them as he's growing up so fact and might not want to cuddle me for much longer.

I'm just so proud of him and how he's dealt with his medical condition. He's been so brave and stoical.

Time has just flown can't believe we may only have a couple more years of him living with us. Will be gutted when he moves out. 😭

VestaTilley · 08/03/2023 22:29

He’s the light of my life and hilarious to boot.

bamboonights · 08/03/2023 22:32

My son is by far the most affectionate out of my two. Dd isn't anything like the carbon copy of me I thought I'd have. I'm Tom a family of females so could never imagine having a boy. He's funny, takes me for drinks and meals, I love the craic with his mates and the football banter. Always hugs me and tells me he loves me. Dd struggles with all of that. Boys=JOY!