What do you love about your sons?

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Just to balance out all the posters who are disappointed with the sex of their babies (and 99% of the time it's having a boy).

I say this as someone who was disappointed about finding out I was having a boy.

But I was totally wrong (obviously).

He is the funniest, chattiest, most affectionate thing and I feel like going to wake him up right now to kiss him.

Thanks for your responses everyone, they've been a joy to read.

Just to answer a couple of criticisms - I am not denigrating girls. I have a daughter and she is completely wonderful too.

This thread was simply in response to the fact that people frequently express gender disappointment for a boy (which does not make them shit people btw) and sons are perhaps less celebrated than daughters.

I've just finished watching The White Queen and the White Princess, covering the Wars of the Roses. All the characters endlessly wishing for sons, talking about pregnancies as if it will definitely be a boy, apologising for the birth of girls... And that's before old King Henry VIII started his demented quest for sons. To think how Catherine of Aragon and Anne Boleyn would have envied all of us on this thread!

I absolutely adore my son (15).

He was the cutest baby/toddler/child and although he has his teenage moments he's such a kind and caring soon to be man. He's great with my friends babies, loves dogs, very helpful - I'm single so he does (very unfeminist of me I know) things like getting stuff in/out the loft/shed, defrosts my car, brings the shopping in for me. He's fab (he also takes turns with dd doing the kitchen and hoovering so not just man jobs).

He's also got the same sense of humour as me/music tastes/even trainers! I really miss the younger him who sang me funny songs, held my hand and snuck in my bed at night - but almost grown up ds is good company when he's not having a strop

my son (a teenager) is kind, smart and caring.
He might not be thrilled at having to do the odd chore but he will happily bring me cups of tea or play scrabble with me when I am unwell and need company.
Will chat and sit with me in the evenings and always end the day with a hug before going to bed. Sons are great, so are daughters...

Only in the western world are perhaps girls deemed more desirable. In some countries being born a girl can mean a death sentence or a really shitty life. Abortions are common in may countries when the foetus is female.

I always wanted girls, and now I have three. It’s amazing but I really do wish I had a boy too (but I don’t want 4 kids so not an option)!

I have to say the reason I wanted girls was due to my relationship with my mum. We get on so well, spend so much time together, whereas my brother is a bit crap.

My eldest DD (18), is my best friend and I know how lucky I am with her, I hope our bond lasts a lifetime.

However I have seen some amazing relationships between Mums and Sons and it’s so heartwarming. Also as pp have said boys seem way less complicated than girls - navigating friendships and bitchiness and hormones is exhausting! Haha

He is my heartbeat and my husband's pride and joy. He is so loving and sweet and still thinks his mummy is the most wonderful person on earth.

My DS is an absolute joy.
My favourite thing at the moment is how he's learned from his dad how to be a complete gent.
I suffer from a spinal injury and DH is always checking I'm okay carrying things etc. I picked DS up from school yesterday and took his bag and he asked in all seriousness

'are you okay carrying that mummy?' I melted.

Also, I love how he genuinely believes he owns a pair of lucky underpants 😂

He's 8 ❤️

Everything everyone else has said. He can really make us laugh, is great fun to be around, loyal, loving, creative, independent, free spirited, chilled. I really hope he goes on to achieve great things as I think he’s wonderful 🥰. I love my DD just as much but wouldn’t change my son. X

My son is 22 now and an only child. He is confident, loving, chatty, personable, knows his own mind, polite and passionate about the things he loves. He's got a smile that lights up a room and smiles a lot 😁. He is happy on his own but also loves being with his large friendship group. Tells me he loves me every day and gives great hugs 🤗. We love him, obviously, but he is loved by his girlfriend of 4 years family too.
Apart from wishing he'd keep his room tidy 😩 I wouldn't change him for the world.

Too many things so I will pick 1 thing for each.

DS1 (teenager) I love his ability to resist peer pressure and remove himself from bad situations without fear of losing face.

DS2 (very nearly teenager) I love that even though he has a condition that results in a very noticeable physical difference he doesn't give a shit and has refused any options to help hide it. It is him and he is happy with himself as he is.

My son is 16 and he is feckin brilliant.

He is thoughtful, kind, much more organised than me, very quick witted, smart as hell and just all round awesome. My mum messaged me just this morning to say that I've brought him up well

Every single thing about them. They are joyous, glass half full, loving human beings who beam with light from morning to night. They are straight forward, physically on the move (constantly), chatting away endlessly and just so lovely in every way. They love us so intensely and they are always hugging us, telling us they love us etc. My dh and I say most nights how utterly proud we are of them both and the wonderful, kind hearted and resilient human beings they are. I don't know what I have done to deserve both of them, but they are the best thing I have ever done. I can't take any credit for them. I'm complex, neurotic, always stressed, glass half empty in outlook. Abit jaded, miserable even. Yet these two life loving full of beans boys have somehow been given to me as my offspring. I have genuinely no idea how!

This is so interesting. This was the reason I always prayed for boys. I have a dreadful and fraught relationship with my mum and I always feared that I would pass that on to my daughters. That I was damaged somehow and that I would damage them. I was terrified I wouldn't be able to parent them in a healthy way. Such an irrational fear, but felt so real for me at the time.

As a toddler young boy he was very funny, interested in everything and always on the go so never a dull moment. Teenage years yes bit like Kevin but so is his ds. But he's grown into an amazing kind, loyal young man who is very protective of his family and a joy to spend time with. My dd has also turned into a good friend. Love and am proud of them both.

He's very affectionate and emotionally expressive.

I have two boys, both teens now, and I wouldn't swap them for the world (even though they eat EVERYTHING and are incapable of changing the toilet roll)
One is so clever and quick-witted. We can have proper good debates about anything from music to politics to trainers.
The other is massively passionate about his hobbies, and although he has withdrawn cuddles (hopefully temporarily), he sneaks in a random kiss on the forehead and a fist bump to show he does still love me really.

I spend an inordinate amount of time freezing my bits off at the side of a rugby pitch and we have our share of rows but honestly, I wouldn't swap them for girls in a million years.

I feel the same - I prayed for boys and I too have a rubbish relationship with my mother. I got boys!

I have 1 girl and 2 boys. I was nervous about having boys but they are just amazing. Less drama than my daughter, very loving, go with the flow and always use their manners. I feel very lucky to be able to experience having a daughter and sons but as much as I love my daughter and as someone who never saw myself as having boys, I do find the boys easier.

Mine’s older than most people posting on MN. He’s my mate, we have days out together, talk for hours about all sorts of shit, we just get one another. I always wanted a daughter but I wouldn’t swap him for the world. He’s authentic and principled. A good man.

When my children were very young (girl then boy) I had a friend who had children (2 boys) of almost the exact same ages. She then went on to have a third and while pg said to me "I don't know what I'd do if this baby is a girl, I don't know how to deal with girls". That always struck me as a really dumb comment. She had another boy. Hope she's happy (no longer friends and I think that comment about a baby daughter somehow put me right off her).

Mine is 27 and exactly as you describe yours. I feel blessed that I've raised such an awesome human.

My son is 33 , and has children of his own. I can honestly say that we have never had a bad day, or a bad word between us. He is a lovely, quiet and humourous man, a great partner and dad. At least once in every week he sends me a text to say that he loves me. He is everything I could have wanted , I'm so lucky.

My 19 year old was a bit of a wild child when he was younger, always into mischief. So many calls from the school cause he was making silly noises that sounded like the bell going off. Never anything serious with him. Now he's a hard worker, goes to college, no interest in drinking, socialises with a lovely bunch. Is so laid back and the best part is he got my sarcasm humour. Heart of gold, he would do anything for anyone ar any time. Would regularly pop to his nannys to clean her windows or help with something.

My 22 year old daughter is a bleeding nightmare on a daily basis and has been since she was 16.

My 13 year old son is just hilarious all the time and very loving, always looking for cuddles.

I'm not sure about redressing the balance of gender disappointment. I have seen numerous threads exactly the same as this about boys and never one with every poster saying how wonderful girls are. Many posts compare how wonderful their boys are to negative stereotypes of girls: boys are more cuddly/ no drama / no bitchiness/ love be their Mum with no complications etc. A post about girls saying they are not violent/ dirty/ monosyllabic etc would be hugely criticised. I say this as a mother of boys and girls.