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What do you love about your sons?

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Justputitdown · 08/03/2023 19:50

Just to balance out all the posters who are disappointed with the sex of their babies (and 99% of the time it's having a boy).

I say this as someone who was disappointed about finding out I was having a boy.

But I was totally wrong (obviously).

He is the funniest, chattiest, most affectionate thing and I feel like going to wake him up right now to kiss him.

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Jemimapuddleduk · 08/03/2023 20:24

My ds is 8 and is autistic with learning difficulties, he will most likely never live independently. Life isn’t always easy but he teaches me to be mindful everyday. He sees beauty in nature everywhere and makes me stop to look at the beautiful mauve sunsets, cheeky red Robin on the bird feeder, the golden full moon and twinkling stars or to count the spring flowers with him. He’s a little love and has taught me a lot about life and makes me slow down a bit.

Shodan · 08/03/2023 20:26

Being disappointed about the sex of your baby is a good litmus test to answer the question, "Am I a shit person?". Yes, yes you are.

Bollocks.

fairylies · 08/03/2023 20:28

He has the cutest cheeks and he is very affectionate although every time he hugs me, he elbows my nose or eyebrow accidentally but still he gives the best hugs.

Chocolatefreak · 08/03/2023 20:28

My son, 14, has always been easy to love. As a child he was quiet and cuddly but is now becoming a lot more sociable. I'm pleased to see his confidence and leadership grow. He's also kind, thoughtful and very importantly for me, is not materialistic - he does spend some time on his ipad but much prefers being outside in the woods with his inventive bunch of friends - they build shelters and forage for food etc. I hope he maintains his respect and love of nature as he gets older.

CouldIHaveThatInEnglishPlease · 08/03/2023 20:28

They are so easy going! If there’s a problem they will just come and talk to us about it, they are so affectionate and funny. And puberty is 100 times easier!
mum/stepmum of 2 girls and 3 boys here.

Mummydoctor · 08/03/2023 20:29

I am a mum of two boys (now 11 and 13 yrs) and I love them both so damn much!!!

They have always been very affectionate, loving and cuddly. I love the way they have played as young children (noisy, funny, very active, lots of activities outdoors). I love supporting them with their sport (competitive swimming), love that they love food and will eat pretty much anything I make for them, they both love being at home and much prefer chilling with us at home rather than out with friends.

They are bright, committed and academic, sporty and genuinely nice kids. I often get compliments on their behaviour and it makes me so proud to be their mum. 😊

drumandthebass · 08/03/2023 20:30

This thread is making me really tearful reading the lovely things . I have 2 DS, 18 and 16 and they are the best. Both affectionate, thoughtful, loving, smart, funny, sensible and more.

They love their dad and me so much and can't believe they love spending so much time with us.

I could carry on but I won't. DH and me regularly say we can't believe what wonderful boys we have and how lucky we are.

justmyluck1234 · 08/03/2023 20:30

I have two little boys one just over a year old and one due within the next few months.

I honestly could not be happier.. the bond I have with my boy is incredible. He's so cheeky and definitely a mummy's boy. I just keep thinking how I'm going to have this same bond with this new little one when he arrives and the bond they will both share as well. 💙

WhatAmIDoingWrong123 · 08/03/2023 20:31

Mumoftwoboysaged4and5 · 08/03/2023 19:58

I bloody love mine! I could chat to them all day, they make me laugh and are so much fun to be around. My six year old is just getting to the stage where I have to ask for hugs rather than them being freely given, but he still writes me letters to tell me he loves me (or that I’ve annoyed him :D )

I was never hoping for a girl though as I knew a house full of boys would be more chill. No strops and they don’t need to fill every empty space with talking. You can still have a good conversation though!

What’s lovely about boys doesn’t need to be some generalised idea you’ve got about what’s bad about girls.

I have a girl, I wouldn’t swap her for a ‘chill’ boy for anything, thank you very much. Why’s that? She’s mine. Just like your boys are yours, doesn’t matter whether or not they’re male or female.

Barleysugar86 · 08/03/2023 20:32

How kind he is to his sister and the other young children in the family. How excited he is to see me and give me a big hug. His curiousity in asking questions about the world and is strong sense of fairness.

Angrywife · 08/03/2023 20:33

Mine are in their 20s and they're my best friends.
I love spending time with them. We sit and chat, seperately and all together. I often have days out with them individually or together.
For his 18th birthday my eldest requested a trip to London with me, we had an amazing time.
For my birthday last year, my middle one took me out for the day shopping and for a meal.
They always give me a hug and a kiss and tell me they love me before they leave me, be that in the house and they're going out, or in the street and we're parting ways.
They're very very protective of me too.
Never once have any of them told me they hate me, not even as teenagers, and we've never had hormone fuelled arguments, no door slamming, storming upstairs, etc.
Always wanted a girl baby, got a few boys, would send a girl back now 😆 bloody love having sons

TowerRaven7 · 08/03/2023 20:33

Besides being a genuinely nice person I like to be around, there is no drama which I find priceless!

midnightblue12 · 08/03/2023 20:34

I love how loved my boys make me feel.
I love the bedtime cuddles and promised that we'll always be best friends.

The two greatest blessings I could have ever hoped for ♥️

AuntyMabelandPippin · 08/03/2023 20:35

I've four of them. They're just the best. Not close, but when needed, are a tight bunch who'd do anything for each other and us.

I'm so happy they've not moved far away since they've grown up. It might not last, but while they're here, it's lovely.

Meandfour · 08/03/2023 20:36

I adore my boys. They’re 5 & 3 and the best of friends yet complete opposites.
DS1 cups my face in his hands when he tells me he loves me. He is the sweetest child I’ve ever met; so kind and caring and thoughtful. He can build the most incredible structures from Lego; such an imagination. He amazes me every day with his creations.
DS2 is super happy and cheeky. Always smiling and makes me laugh every single day with his character. He’s a little wind up merchant and loves to perform. When I ask him how much he loves me, he replies I love you big much mummy!

AnnieMore · 08/03/2023 20:37

Mine are 23 and 19.

I love them so much.

I shouldn’t, but secretly I take huge pleasure in how extraordinarily good looking they both are. They both shrug off their beauty - couldn’t care less. Not a hint of vanity. And tall! Their dad is only 5’10. It shouldn’t matter, but we are quietly pleased they are both over 6’.

They are both funny and sarcastic. We laugh non stop when they’re home. Both interested in such a wide range of things. Always love a heated political or philosophical debate. And clever. I love how clever and independent they are.

They are both immensely kind and thoughtful. They buy us fantastic presents, write gorgeous things in cards and tell me they love me every time we speak. They love and appreciate their kind and lovely dad who has guided them so well.

They are both brilliant cooks, thanks to their dad.

Best of all, they have a great relationship with each other and huge circles of friends - from my friends’ kids they mixed with as babies, primary and secondary school mates, uni friends and now for the eldest, work/masters’ friends too.

I never get the daughters vs sons thing. Just enjoy what you get. They are usually fabulous.

waterlego · 08/03/2023 20:37

I have a mid-teen son (and an older teen daughter). My son is a lovely lad (though I am of course biased!) He doesn’t say much and especially doesn’t really talk about his feelings but he is a do-er. He shows his love for me by making me cups of tea unasked for or offering to make dinner. He’s observant and can see when I’m stressed or run down, and will offer to do some chores for me.

He is also generous with his money. Obviously he doesn’t have much, but if he goes to the sweet shop with his pocket money, he’ll come back with his own sweets and often something for me (and then tries to refuse when I go to give him the money).

I love how he just quietly gets on with things at school. He could definitely work a bit harder and daydream a bit less, but he doesn’t get drawn into school dramas or mischief or winding the teacher up etc. His teachers always have nice things to say about him as a person. That he is respectful and kind to others, and that he smiles a lot.

I also love how gentle he is. He is tall and getting strong now but I’ve never seen any signs of aggression in him at all. But he uses his size to athletic advantage. He absolutely loves sports- playing and watching- and although I have no real interest in the sports he’s into, I love that he has a passion for them.

He also loves to cook and that is probably the only shared interest we have! I love watching him try new things in the kitchen, and the pride he takes in making something delicious. He is the only one allowed to cook steaks in our house because he absolutely nails it every time. (Ditto pancakes).

He isn’t perfect, of course, and frustrates me at times, but overall I couldn’t be happier with how he’s turning out. I’m hopeful he will go on to be a good man. 💚

Fundays12 · 08/03/2023 20:39

All boys here

Ds1 is smart, amazing with Lego building, very interested in facts and Information so a power house of knowledge and loving. When he says I love you mum. I know he really means in with all his heart. He is the most quiet and deepest thinker off my boys but isn't so keen on hugs unless it suits him.

Ds2 is very funny, a proper chatterbox and bright.He is very affectionate and loves hugs but drives me batty as he is fussy about what he will wear style wise.

Ds3 is cheerful, loves too sing and dance and just a proper chatterbox. He loves hugs too.

All 3 are great in there own ways. Contrary to what people around us thought we were not trying for a girl when we had ds3 and though a couple of dhs family hoped we would have a girl for purely selfish reasons. We didn't care and ds3 completed our family

Val2021 · 08/03/2023 20:39

He’s super affectionate, cute as a button, hilariously funny and completely mischievous in the very best way!

bussteward · 08/03/2023 20:40

Mine is only 11 weeks but so far: his enjoyment of imitating sticky out tongues, his giggle, and when you kiss him he’ll poke his tongue out. Also his hairy little back like a monkey, and when he does a wee fountain in DP’s face during a nappy change. 🥰

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 08/03/2023 20:40

Two young DS (6 & 3) who are just beautiful souls. Very sensitive. One shy, one outgoing, both very loving. The oldest is scared of the dark so has asked for his little brother to sleep with him (they have their own rooms). So they are now both tucked up in bunk beds. They look out for each other and hearing them laugh together is often a little boost when im having a shite day abd reminder of why I'm, currently, working so hard!

WonderingWanda · 08/03/2023 20:41

My ds is really clever and he has such a good sense of humour, really quite mature for 13. He is and always has been so reliable and good natured. He is of course lazy and messy like most teenage boys.

Siriusmuggle · 08/03/2023 20:42

Mine’s 19. He sometimes drives me mad but he’s always been loving and cuddly and we’re pretty close. I love that I’m the person he wants to share his news with.

ourflagmeansdeath · 08/03/2023 20:43

My 19 year old is the loveliest thing, his personality has developed so much over the years. As a child he was the cheekiest thing and kept me off my feet but was so funny and extroverted. Now he's much more mature, polite and calmer and he makes me so proud every day. And throughout his entire life, he's been the most affectionate little boy no matter what, always hugging me and telling me he loves me. Boys are great no matter what anyone else says.

OttersMayHaveShiftedInTransit · 08/03/2023 20:43

Mine is in his first year at senior school. He is funny, affection, kind and clever. He makes a wicked cup of tea and gives fantastic hugs. He has an infectious laugh and a totally insatiable desire for knowledge. My dear sweet little lad is starting to turn into a big boy but not in a bad way - I'm loving getting little glimpses of the man he will be one day. I could live without the eye watering farts though!