She climbed up to get the Weetabix

[Bingoisthebestnotbluey]

Dd is 4,5 and very headstrong. She had Weetabix for breakfast-3, which was excessive to me. Later on she asked for more Weetabix as a snack, I don’t want her to have more as she has stomach issues with constipation etc & tummy aches. I got her a snack of strawberries & yoghurt and said there were tangerines & apples too. She threw a huge fit screaming and shouting that she wanted to have Weetabix and trying to knock them out of the cupboard with the sweeping brush. I took them out and put them up really high and she was shouting again. When she’d calmed down, she ate the strawberries and yoghurt and said she just wanted Weetabix because she likes it and that I should let her have what she wants 🙄I explained again why she couldn’t have more Weetabix and we’re only having them for breakfast. She accepted it and it was over (I thought)
Just making dinner before and she said she was hungry, I got her a banana & tangerine and nipped to the loo. When I came out, she’d put her wooden step up to the cupboards, got the Weetabix out and was in the process of putting them in her bowl! Aibu to have lost it?

Honestly OP don't listen to some of these replies. Your 4.5 yr old understands what no is and if she didn't she should. Your dc are supposed to listen to you. No means no and having that keeps your dc safe. The posters saying they'd be proud of their dc doing that.. you wouldn't be proud if you told your dc not to run in the road and they decided to ignore you..

As someone said it could have been interpreted two ways, so interpret it in worst way and insult accordingly 👌🏻

I was just trying to demonstrate this is a normal 3/4 year old thing to do/attempt and empathise with the OP.

You threatened a 4 year old with no pocket money for trying to get Weetabix…? 😂😂😂

@ShimmeringShirts Read through all the posts…🙄

I don’t think you were harsh at all! You can’t be shouted at by a 4yr old telling you you have to do whatever they want 😂 I can’t believe some people would have said no to something a child wants (with good reason as you’ve already explained many times) and then when the 4 year old does it anyway just go along with it. How would that be parenting? I’m also confused about people saying a 4.5 year old doesn’t have impulse control or understanding of anything but immediate consequences, that is certainly not my experience with my 4 year old, much more relatable to my 2 year old!

I love the fact that so often on MN the line is that parents are too permissive, kids get away with too much, they’re too cheeky and parents need to parent.

Yet on this one the OP is in the wrong for parenting because it was Weetabix.

If I’ve said no to my 4 yo they’d be in trouble for defying it regardless of it being Weetabix or a family size box of heroes!

@YetMoreNewBeginnings Exactly!

Seems like loads of people on here would go against Dr's orders because they know best/but my child wants it 🙄🤣

And on similar threads we have constipation from weetabix coming up

No you aren't being unreasonable no matter what anyone else tells you. She obviously disobeyed you and also threw a tantrum - it isn't like your limiting her food, you're just doing what the doctor tells you. Trust me, you're in the right, she deserves losing a bit of pocket money.

Why don't you buy a box of these Pre packed ones and get some sticky labels and label up 7 at a time and hide the big box away for the 7 days of the week.

I wouldn't have posted this, but you asked... if hat had happened in our house I'd have got down on their level and had a calm conversation.

Something like "wow! You really wanted those Weetabix didn't you? Are you really hungry? (Ofder sympathy, acknowledge feelings). The thing is the doctor says you can only have two a day, so we're going to have to stick to that because it's my job to look after you and help you stay well. It seems like you're having a hard time resisting temptation right now though. But I can't let you eat them, and I can't risk you climbing up to get them and hurting yourself. So we're going to need to figure out a solution here aren't we? What do you think we could do". And then brainstorm ideas together. No idea is a bad idea, but gradually work towards something you think will work and she is on-board with.

So getting an alternative snack now, maybe creating a chart together that she can tick when she has had her two for that day so that if she asks again later she can check the chart and she's had them then "gosh you really want those Weetabix but you've already had your two today haven't you? You can look forward to having them again tomorrow. Now, would you like some X or Y instead?".

I appreciate it probably sounds entirely crazy if that's not your parenting style. It works for us as a family though. I find that the more I treat them with respect and involve them the easier they are. The book "How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen" really helped me.

People often say that the above just sounds like too much hassle, wouldn't work etc, but for me the alternative is much more hassle as this way the issues get resolved peacefully. Although I appreciate everyone is different.