to expect something for Mothering Sunday?

[WindUpPenguin]

Currently pregnant with my first child, due in August. DH's siblings have been texting planning gifts for his mum for Mothers' Day. I said, "Oooh, you'll have to get me some chocolates or something this year too!" He looked at me like I had three heads and I felt a bit silly and spoilt for suggesting it. Is it weird to expect a token gift/card on Mothering Sunday when you're a mum-to-be?

I was in the same boat. Twins died in second trimester, pregnant with my '3rd' child by the time the next Mothers Day rolled around. My lovely family made just the right amount fuss to acknowledge that I was a mother without a babe in arms yet.
Would completely be on board with a 'pregnancy appreciation day' though, that's hard enough in itself! 😂

You're not a mother. Quite a precious idea I think.

YABU, out of interest were you planning on getting your DH a present on Father's day.

YABU

Isn’t Mother’s Day more about the child saying thanks to their mother? A token card bought by the other parent is fine, but, speaking as a mother who’s child isn’t old enough to even string a sentence together, I think it will be more appreciated when our child is old enough to help buy a card, say Happy Mother’s Day etc.

Bahahha no OP 😂

At least he already knows you have high expectations for Mothers Day next year though!

It never occurred to me that Mothers Day was aimed at me months before my children were born. I think you’re being rather silly.

@suki32 Yes 100% we need an appreciation for being pregnant day 🤣

My views on Mother’s Day definitely changed after I had my losses though - because I spent so long wondering if I was a mother or not because as you can tell from most of the comments most people do not think you should be allowed to celebrate unless you have a living child. Mother’s Day is a weird place to be after loss!

So it is nice to be acknowledged a little bit with a card from bump as I’ll be around 35 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby!

To say this straight after the post above yours is so horrible and insensitive. I hope you feel good about yourself.

@VioletZe you ARE a mother and always will be

The comments on this thread have got to me a bit too

Some tragic stories on this thread. Sending to everyone who has been in this painful situation.

I've lost four. They were my much-wanted children, and I am their mother.

While I disagree that you aren't yet a mother, I agree that expecting a present is a bit much this year. I was heavily pregnant last mother's day and it didn't even cross my mind to expect a card or present.

Please be a bit kinder to the OP who is very understandably excited about her baby.

I think it's ok to consider yourself a mother to a yet-to-be-born baby but also that convention for Mother's Day is mostly about mothers to babies that are already born.

You are not wrong. You are a mother. I am so sorry for your loss

You really don’t.

@BunnyPlate - I didn't read it. I added a post. I didn't read the others. It's a horrible thing to happen to anyone.

I see to recall getting a mum to be card many moons ago

It's called Mothering Sunday. Who are you mothering? Wait until you have had your dc to celebrate the day.

I think mothers day is to give mums some recognition for all the things they do for the kids, a chance to show some gratitude for all the drudge work that comes with being a parent, and a day off from all the mundane bits of being a mum etc. So to me, none of that applies when you're pregnant

There are some cruel comments here, both to the OP and to those who have lost babies.
Think a little before bouncing in with your sneers and laughter.

to all women who want to be pregnant, have had losses, are currently pregnant for the first time and who are blessed to have a child.

A bunch of flowers wouldn't hurt, to show appreciation of the mother you are so far.

Moonpig cards, so lots available.

Come back and post again when he gets you nothing next year OP and you’ll be sneered at “you’re not his mother, you’ll get something when your children are old enough to do it themselves!”

My personal view is that Mother’s Day needs bloody abolishing. It’s distressing for those without living kids and living mothers, for those with shit mothers, and judging by MN it’s also distressing for all the other mums who don’t get an adequate amount of gifts and fuss.

There are so many commercial appreciation days around pregnancy and babies and parents and kids that are essentially just benefitting sellers of tat. It all needs doing away with.

Please don’t be one of ‘those’ parents OP