to expect something for Mothering Sunday?

[WindUpPenguin]

Currently pregnant with my first child, due in August. DH's siblings have been texting planning gifts for his mum for Mothers' Day. I said, "Oooh, you'll have to get me some chocolates or something this year too!" He looked at me like I had three heads and I felt a bit silly and spoilt for suggesting it. Is it weird to expect a token gift/card on Mothering Sunday when you're a mum-to-be?

She’s a mother-to-be. Mother’s Day is supposed to be appreciation of all the mothering.

Not that OP doesn’t deserve pampering and treats in general, pregnancy is it’s own hard thing!

She's due in August, so she's past 12 weeks mark.

I think that’s a bit far. We’re surrounded by overly emotional tat these days, knick knacks ‘from bump’, birthday cards from the dog etc. It’s sort of becoming normal to do it although I still think it’s weird.

YABU

You haven't even had your 20 week scan yet to know if baby is ok?! This is very premature!

Very weird

No I don't understand why he wld. I'd have looked at u like that too 😂 When baby is born and you are a mum then yes Ofcourse.

I’ll be nearly full term on Mother’s Day and it “should” of been my first Mother’s Day with my twins but they passed away in the womb in the first trimester. I haven’t patented a child - but I feel like my unborn sons mum (and I am his mum). My husband will probably get me a card and maybe some flowers.

Parented a child*

My baby came only a few days after Mother’s Day last year. I didn’t expect anything. Had he come a few days earlier I would have. Enjoy Mother’s Day when you have your baby with you.

Mothering Sunday is for mothers, not mothers to be. You’ve not done any of the hard work of being a mum yet, why do you feel you should be acknowledged for that?

DH got me a card, I was barely even showing. Its just cute, it's not from the baby it's from the father.

Thank you for being uncomfortable for 9 months and having to endure the pain of childbirth at the end to pass on my dna.
love from your husband ❤

I get you are excited but I can't believe you actually made that cheeky comment to his family. Sorry but that was really embarrassing and forward.

Yes it is odd. But seriously you should start as you mean to go on here, every Mother’s Day on mumsnet it is saturated with moaning miserable mums who are unhappy with their kids and DH efforts, so use your words now, and if Mother’s Day is important and you want him to go all out, then tell him NOW. Don’t wait a year and a bit and then be surprised you haven’t got anything after playing it cool, if you actually want a big fuss.

She didn’t, it says she said it to her DH.

I understand your feelings but I also get his WTF response - maybe a nice card but I wouldn't expect a huge fuss myself.

Mothers Day for me is really about cards - I love the cards my 3 get and the messages they write - maybe a bunch of daffs as well but no need for gifts

I agree with the others - your turn to celebrate is next year. Otherwise your first Mothers Day isn't even with your baby and next year that might even make you feel a little sad!

However, it would be a nice gesture for your husband to buy you a box of chocolates now "just because" rather than as a Mother's Day gift.

Yabu really; wait until next year when you’ve had your baby - plenty of mothers days in your future

My god there are some miserable people on here! My partner got me a card and a little teddy for me when I was pregnant as it was from the baby (bump), I did the same for him for fathers day! it was a cute gesture, there are loads of cards now that you can get for mother's Day from the bump, OP don't listen to all the negativity on here!

Yes, it's weird/silly/spoilt

You aren't a mother yet, so I would think it really odd you expected something.

Completely agree with this. Also, the first Mother’s Day is lovely when you have your little one, I don’t think it will feel very special when you’ve already had your first one without them there. I got a lovely card and coffee and croissant in bed, then my husband cooked a lovely dinner.

Bit like celebrating your 18th birthday the year before!

There’s so much commercialism around these things now (baby shower, gender reveal, push present), I think it kind of dilutes the bigger events.

As would be women who have frozen embryos?

I mean... If you look at it objectively, suggesting someone buys you a gift to celebrate any event actually takes away the whole point of gift giving. If he wanted to get you something he would. I wouldn't expect a mother's day gift as a mother to be so I vote yabu.