Dh going out when Dd is ill

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Dd, 4 has had a high temperature all day and been at home with me. The last time she had a high temp at night, she was almost hallucinating whilst half asleep and said the ceiling was falling in, she was terrified and it was hard to see her like that.
I’m in bed with her now in our bed and she’s asleep.
Dh has just messaged me (from downstairs so as not to wake her) and ask if he can pop to his friends
Aibu to be pissed off?

Quite the assumption there!
You must have missed the part where I made a clear distinction between the ability to cope and doing something miserable by yourself in order that your husband doesn't have to do it at all.
Comments sneering at women as 'unable to cope' are just designed to shame them into letting men off the hook.

So no one with a child who doesn't have significant medical needs can ever worry or want support from their partner? You don't want to shame anytime but that's basically what you imply. You're child has complex medical needs so you can decide the bar at which people are allowed to struggle?

DS is icky on o2 and tube feeds now, so I agree I have it easy, but if I was having a day where it didn't feel like that, either because of me or DS, I'd exist DH to step up

So op can go to HER job?

You're missing the point.
Yes, you have it harder. Op has to deal with her kid having hallucinating night terrors a few times a year and that's nothing like dealing with a child with a chronic illness.

But that doesn't mean she doesn't deserve basic consideration from her PARTNER. You don't need to offer to help. But the child's Dad should be stepping up if OP finds it hard.

Even if she's got a perfectly healthy day and it's just been hard, he should step up and do more if she needs it, and vice versa.

Presumably you're OK with her partner never doing anything because why shouldn't she have to do it all alone if other people's lives are harder?

A mum is struggling and worried about her child. You’re being really, really unpleasant and I think you should stop.

@SleepingStandingUp 👏 👏 👏

It isn't the temperature she struggles with, it's her kid having hallucinating night terrors. Even though you think that's pathetic, her partner, the kids dad, is meant to love her and care. Soem days I just need DH to take over with the three healthy kids just cos they're THERE and have been all day.