To report a parent

[Fandabydosey]

So this sounds judgy, but my anger comes from a place of concern. So a mum I know had a c section 6 days ago and she is back behind the wheel of a car driving her 3 year old about. I have offered to take her but she said the HV said she is fine to drive. She looks so pale and is clearly in pain. Should I report her. Would she be able to do an emergency stop without risking stitches bursting open. Not only is she risking herself but other riad users and her own children. Would you report or leave it. Surely its a safeguarding issue. She has a husband

You are very welcome hun. Some things have to be said out loud sometimes. I do hope this woman gets the help she needs. Wishing everyone well xxxxxx

What?a place of concern??
Stay out of it.

YABU and should mind your own business.

She cam barely walk. The husband is a wet lettuce and a pathetic excuse for a man. He is the sort of man who believes that women's work is in the kitchen

Then have a go st him, instead of making her life more difficult!

FFS, get a life!

Why are so many people on this site so keen to poke their noses into other people's lives?

Mind your own business.

Just read OP's last reply. OP, you obviously don't react well to criticism and seem to be struggling immensely with your mental health. Even more reason why you should not be judging other people's decisions. Please seek help and avoid the forum if you feel personally attacked and "better off not here" by the responses given.

I had a c section and drove after 3 days
I phoned my insurance to check and they said speak to consultant
The consultant said if I was able to do an emergency stop I was fine to drive and to try mimicking it before getting in car.
I could so phoned insurance back who said no problems, I could drive.
I couldn’t walk much without being in pain but driving was absolutely fine

@tenbob i am in the Uk and was given tramadol after both c sections

Are you talking about the OP poking herself into another person's business or some of the people like I, who find the OP a worrisome and creepy neighbour? If the latter, then welcome to the real world, if the prior, then I would suggest you make concerted efforts to fully understand the implications of this zoomer who is ready to sell out her soul to make another person who she doesn't know, worry more than necessary.

If you're gonna post, please try your best to link your comment to the OP or a specific comment.... failing that, you appear to be cyber paddling (as opposed to doggy paddling) your statement Doesn't give any anchor to it. Nite nite. (Tbh been on here just 5 days and I am seeing the very worst of what life gives us to deal with.) 🙄😴

Well if you are a nice person you could ask her how she is?? Say you'd noticed her driving and wondered if it's a struggle and whether you could help out at all by giving her and her toddler a lift etc .. Perhaps you could offer to pick some bits up from the shops for her...

I expect the last thing she needs right now is a busybody reporting her to DVLA.

It's highly likely that she isn't safe to drive so soon after surgery. However, this will be impossible to prove as the barometer will be "when you feel safe enough to perform an emergency stop without difficulty" from the medical professionals and "what the medics says" from the insurance company. The most you could probably do is have try to speak to the husband to ask him to help more.

Butt out.

Yeah, definitely not a 'place of concern' Be better OP

I drove a week after a c-section. I had to leave my baby in hospital so I drove back and forth to be with him as often as I could. I was perfectly capable of doing so.

I think everyone has more than made their point. OP realises that she overreacted, despite her concerns coming from a good place.

OP, if this thread has upset you to the extent of your message, please speak to your family, a friend or the Samaritans.

Everyone else - lay off.

I wonder what is actually motivating your 'concern' here? Maybe try having an honest look at the real reason for your behaviour. Do you genuinely think that trying to cause the mother of a new baby to be approached by the authorities and perhaps receive a fine or lose her licence is 'concern' or something entirely different and not particularly altruistic?

Insurance thing is a myth. I checked with mine as I wanted to drive a week after my c section and they said there was no reason I couldn't drive. Consultant told me I could drive when I felt ready.

I'm not convinced by the description of a C section as "major surgery". If it really was, then would you get booted out of hospital after 24 hours? And I am speaking as someone who has had one. Much quicker recovery than my non-C section.

I think the "major surgery" line is trotted out to try to keep women in their place.

The insurance thing is a total lie. I rang my insurance company after my first section and they said its abdominal surgery so you use your own common sense if you are physically fit to drive. Same as any surgery or medical procedure. There is no rule specifically for c sections. I drove almost straight away after my three c sections. Also remember cars are in many cases much easier to drive than even 30 years ago .

Honest to god, have you nothing else to do?

Also speaking from someone who has had one, I'd say having your guts cut open and sewn back again is major surgery!! I recovered pretty quickly too.

@Nimrod12 I was talking to OP. Not sure why you handpicked my reply when many others have said the same thing...