That having sent photos to potential date ..

[shyjenny]

That he would comment on them?
Or at least say something??

I'm new to this dating game and did not post photos on my profile.

I got chatting to a man .. we're both 50... and we arranged a date for this weekend.
We've continued to exchanged messages and getting on as well as one can via WhatsApp since, but he hasn't acknowledged me sending them.

What are your thoughts on this?

I did upload photos but not of myself .

I think it’s very strange OP, that he wouldn’t even comment on you sending him photos. Surely that’s a normal thing to do, make at least some reference to them?

I think its off he never commented. But its also awkward to comment I suppose.

Being in close proximity would make me even less likely to swipe on a profile with no pics! What if it’s someone you know?

The fact he’s willing to meet with no idea what you look like, suggests it’s not too strange that he wouldn’t comment on your pics.

I assume he doesn't find you attractive.

It's odd not having photos on a dating site.....

Whose photos were you using?? Or do you mean to say you uploaded photos of e.g. your dog.

I agree he could have at least acknowledged the pictures, something like ‘nice photo ☺️‘ surely wouldn’t have been too hard/ awkward to say

Have you actually spoke to him on the phone or facetimed with him?

I get the impression, as ridiculous as this sounds as we're only texting , that he's not hugely bothered about looks or superficial stiff but would be more into the spark or connection.
That makes me sound like a tool now but he seems gentlemanly in his text manner if that makes sense .
Time will tell I guess.

I was chatting to a few men and about six exchanges in on average, the suggestion of the sexual side of things started to creep in in a subtle way so I blocked them immediately.

The norm would be having photos on your profile. You were lucky to arrange a date without them.

It's normal to say something when someone sends a photo so you're not wrong there. I always assumed the profiles without photos of their face were in a relationship. If you're still using the profile just put on some photos and you'll avoid this awkwardness of someone having to personally ask to see your face.

I do think it’s odd he didn’t say anything. He could just say, thanks for the photos, you look lovely! or something. I would take it to mean he wasn’t keen but you say you are sure of yourself and you both continued chatting so see how it goes.

everybody is bothered about looks. Everybody.

I haven't spoken to him but we did plan to speak later.
Do you think there's a need for that?

eHarmony is the only big site I know that allows members to proceed without any photos, local ones also. It's actually a huge pain and I would never swipe on anyone without photos, I've embarrassed myself by putting my photos up to the world and I expect them to do the same. But it's not uncommon on Harmony like other posters are making out.

Just go on the date (if he shows up). You don't need a constant back and forth before then.

A lot of men do like to chat on the phone first I've found, just reassuring themselves you are not a complete nutter. I prefer to just go on the date myself and make the best of it but again, it's not unusual. I don't think dating over 50 is quite as quick as perhaps if you are younger and a lot of people won't want to meet if you haven't phoned/video dated first.

Do you think that's it's rude that he didn't acknowledge them?

I'm really sorry, but I agree with this comment.

I think because of the context, in that he commented he doesn’t even know who you are, it would have been nice to have had an acknowledgment but it’s not necessarily rude. He very simply might not have known what to say and the fact that he has carried on speaking to you shows he is still keen.

Not rude as such just strange. I would probably reference them at some point in conversation like "well at least you know what I look like now so you won't go to the wrong person 😂"
Or even confirm plans with him "meeting at 7 aren't we, did you see my photo so you know what I look like? "

Surely something like "thanks for the photos, looking forward to seeing you in real life" would do? Just an acknowledgement would seem reasonable.

If you want to know what he thought of your pictures you could ask!

If I was in your position and he didn't acknowledge them I'd be thinking he mustn't have liked what he seen. I'd be paranoid. But that would just be my way of thinking.

What a weird approach. I can’t believe anyone swipes yes to someone without seeing a photo of them.