DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

[roastedtomatoes]

I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

Meh. The luxury goods firms pay the wages of designers and crafts people and marketing teams... I can't get worked up about it (I mean I too would get more " feel good" from a chunky charitable donation than a designer handbag, but I don't see they are doing any real harm)

Walk around with cat ears as well, that will really wind him up.

‘Spending £85 on a tiny bag because of its name is obscene.‘

Your clear inverse snobbery is blinding you to alternative explanations. Maybe OP liked the style. The colour. The pockets. Why on earth do you presume she liked the ‘name’. Fwiw it’s hardly a designer/glamorous/influencer brand anyway.

This bag does not appeal to me. But to imply that is is an ‘obscene’ choice is ridiculous.

Is he aware thisis the current clutch bag going round socials as the thing to have.i think he should sit down!😳😊

That's a bag?!

It is.it is hahaha.the wing opens out! It's a fucking clutch bag.and She is not the only one who owns this now.

It's gruesome. You can imagine her pulling the head off to access her lipstick 😁

Your welcome every body.isnt your day and life so much better now.

It looks a great bag, especially in the yellow colour

It's a bit loud for me personally, but I think it's a lovely jolly bag. If you like it then use it. Your DH is just being a prick. If my DH commented on a bag that I was using in the same way he'd get a 🤨 from me.

I’m 36 and collect Loungefly bags. I took a little mermaid bag to my Xmas work do, I use a Jurassic park lunch bag and wear hello kitty hair bobbles. I couldn’t give a shit if people think it’s childish. It makes me happy and that’s all that matters!

No, because I love her, respect her, want her to be happy - and saying no to a shirt is a such an insignificant matter and creates greater harmony. You make it sound as though relationships should be warfare. I don't.

The cheek of a man wearing five toed shoes (most horrific clothing item EVER designed!) complaining about a jaunty backpack.

Euwwh

Nothing showy about it. A boring rucksack

Sorry, it's awful for £85

I'm guessing he's "embarrassed" by the rainbow handles; he's afraid to be seen out with you and the bag in case people might think one or both of you are on the LGBTQ+ spectrum.

How very childish of him.

Not warfare at all. Most of us don’t predicate our happiness on our partner’s garments. DH and I love and respect each other. Him buying a shirt I don’t particularly like (or vice versa) would have exactly zero impact on the harmony of our marriage. None. Zilch. The idea that it might is madness to me.

I think it’s lovely.

My husband and I both have Kånken bags that we use all the time. I’ve also bought the Kånken mini for my boy.

Your partner is the one who is silly!

I love it @roastedtomatoes and am thinking I may have to buy one. The yellow one is great!

$890?!

I’d want it to shit on the coats of my enemies and steal their chips for that price.

A relationship where your harmony depends on you not wearing a shirt she dislikes, is really not one I aspire to.

OP I bloody love the yellow bag

It is childish looking but I would be made up carrying that around

IMO your DH needs to calm down, it's just a bag!

Disappointed they are so expensive or I would definitely buy one

are you the poster who had a hissy fit about people putting rainbows in their windows during covid?

“hissy fit”
Nice bit of misogyny, right there.

It’s ok as long as you don’t go anywhere nice or formal. For what you describe it is acceptable, better than a Radley bag with a picture on it any day!