DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

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I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

I like those bags and I am very tempted to buy one. If only one of my numerous bags would have a tragic accident so I’d be justified in getting another.

Except you don't police how people spend their money, so whilst you might enjoy eating stale bread and wearing rags to feel virtuous, most of us don't, and we don't care, either.

He's worried people will think you're one of those full-on justice warriors who talk nonsense, OP. That's why he hates it. And that's nothing to do with his sexuality! Whoever said that is a fool.

OP, your partner sounds like a dreary creature. As long as you like it, it's OK.

Does neither of you already own anything in a bright colour?

Why do you need to take a rucksack when you go out for coffee?

This right here is your answer OP. This is the answer.

Firstly, unless you live in some sort of parochial hinterland, it’s highly unlikely that anyone notices or cares what bag another adult is carrying.

Secondly, again unless you’re in the middle of nowhere, that is a VERY common bag. It’s unlikely to raise an eyebrow. As illustrated by all but a vanishingly small minority of comments on this thread.

So, I’ll keep saying ‘so, what?’

I like it and would buy it/use it if that helps <shrugs>

Yes and that’s absolutely your right. Just know that many people you are trying to impress think your crass, cheap and obvious. And before you say you don’t give a fuck what people think- that’s completely the opposite of how designer labels work. You’re not fooling anyone 🤣

You can say it all you please, op's bag has already attracted strong opinions quite close to home 😂
That's what. It wouldn't bother you; it appears to be bothering her...

I don't believe in God. You're a bit dramatic.

Oh. I have a bright yellow one.

Not a real one, a 12.99 knock off from ebay.

I just like yellow.

I’m not zany. I’m a very depressed 43 year old.

Everyone has these where I live. Mine's green with pink straps. To be fair once I had a daughter I gave it to her for nursery. As you've said they last years and they're based on kids schoolbags anyway. Buy and wear what you like.

it’s highly unlikely that anyone notices or cares what bag another adult is carrying
I dare you to post that on the Style and Beauty board 😂
Of course people notice what others are wearing/carrying, there are constant threads on here asking what's acceptable to wear on the school run, ffs!
You don't care, I don't care (much), but it's a fact nonetheless.

I can and I shall. For the reasons stated. 😁

And, having read her comments, OP doesn’t appear particularly bothered. More amused by the fact her husband was being very silly about something, which got resolved about 200 comments ago.

which got resolved about 200 comments ago
Yet here you still are...

As am I, to be strictly fair 😁

You think the expression ‘God help you’ hinges on the belief in a deity? Lots of obvious things appear to be unclear to you.

Resolved for the OP (as that was in response to you claiming she was bothered). I’m here because I find it entertaining.

Gorgeous bag, keep it and ditch the idiot!

‘We are comfortably off but I would never touch designer or an £85 bag. There are just as good bags for £40 and you can give the remaining money to a food bank for people who in dire need.‘

Why is a £20 bag not good enough? Or a £5 one from a market? There are also £1000 + ones available. How odd that you have decided that £40 is the ideal amount.

And the foodbank comment is just cringe.
You are ‘comfortably off’. Why not give most of your money to a foodbank and be less well-off? People are in dire need don’t you know?

Yes! Love that the poster would 'never touch an £85 bag' but £40 is fine! How random 😀

If I go on car forums, people are talking about cars. If I go on skincare forums, people are talking about skincare. Doesn’t mean the average person gives a toss about anyone else’s skincare or notices the finer points of their automobile.

You're saying increasingly silly things.

It’s pretty depressing that people think that adult women cannot wear/carry bright colours. In many Asian and African cultures, women wear all sorts of bright saris and dresses and head wraps, whatever their age. Yet here, over-18s have to stick to muted hues or they look like children or kids’ TV presenters apparently Sod that.

Wonder what they would think of a bag that cost £41.50. Or that was £55 but discounted to £40. So many questions.

I don’t think there is anything remotely silly to say people notice what others are wearing or carrying? Of course people notice, how can you not notice.