DP thinks my bag is 'childish and showy'

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I'm originally from Sweden and back home people of all ages carry these bags. Last week, I decided to purchase a new Kånken to replace the one I've had for 10 years. Picked this colour (www.fjallraven.com/uk/en-gb/bags-gear/kanken/kanken-bags/kanken-rainbow-mini?v=F23621%3a%3a7323450792466) this time around to replace the black one I had, and DH absolutely hates it. I use it primarily for dog walks and trips to the local cafe/shops and he thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together.

AIBU to think that it's just a bag? It's not that bad, is it?

It is a child's bag 😂. They do an adult range as well.

Good lord, do not dare to express yourself through the clothes, forbid, forbid!😄😄🙈🙈

Can a rainbow not just be a rainbow anymore? What a depressing thought

Of course everyone has likes and dislikes. That’s fine. When people suggest she should not carry the bag out of consideration for his feelings, it makes me roll my eyes so much.

Because it's weird, controlling, unkind and judgemental

Well, exactly. But it isn't.

CrunchyCarrot · Today 09:32

My ex-H used to do much the same with me, if I wore a skirt he didn't like, he would refuse to go out with me.

He must have had a sad, lonely existence, moping around the house, feeling sorry for himself that you were out on the razz without him!

Agree that the bag looks a little childish for my tastes, however it irritates me beyond belief when DH thinks he can dictate what I wear. Absolutely none of his business.

So what, though? That’s what I’m asking. It’s a receptacle to put things in. If she likes it, so what if it’s a child’s bag?

That's why we have the saying "It's not my bag." It's literally not his bag. Therefore no problem.

The OP said her partner thought the bag was "childish". It was originally designed for children so he's not wrong is he?

Not sure why I'm the stupid one?

Don’t have a problem with any style or colour. I do have a problem with anyone spending £85 on a tiny backpack.
Consumerism at its finest and just looks pretentious. But then I hate anything designer - just so crass and desperate screaming look at me, I can afford this.
We are comfortably off but I would never touch designer or an £85 bag. There are just as good bags for £40 and you can give the remaining money to a food bank for people who in dire need.

Your husband is weird. Embarrassed because of a bag? Perfectly normal bag. I really don´t see what the issue is.

Ffs. Alright , explain why you're 'well off' if surely, you buy the cheap version of everything and donate the rest.

She likes a bag. She uses said bag. Her partner, on whom this has no impact whatsoever thinks it's too showy/childish and feels 'embarrassed' when I take it with me when we go out for coffee together

You think ‘he’s not wrong because it was designed for children’ addresses the issues here? You’re not seeing how that’s both irrelevant and stupid? God help us.

More likely he is uncomfortable with his sexuality and what the rainbow might signify. And a rainbow is a rainbow, anyone can wear one, I've worn and owned items with rainbows on long before they were anything to do with Pride. People can read what they bloody well like into my wearing one, I'll wear one if I like it and I don't give a flying monkey arse what someone thinks it signifies.

it does look like something i would buy for a 6 year old. Sorry

I would think it was childish but so what!
If you like it wear it.

I regularly wear childrens bags and clothes like Disney, Harry Potter, SpongeBob, the Simpson’s etc - yes it’s childish but I don’t care.

Life is for having fun and enjoying yourself, not for buying a bag that blends in just so no one thinks you are different.

I think the price of that tiny bag is extortionate though and no way would I pay it and therefore I absolutely wouldn’t buy it.

Your DP is allowed to wear what he wants too.
Although the idea of toe shoes makes me feel queasy. But I can imagine they’re much better for you though.

Well nothing, I suppose, beyond the fact that it really looks like one.
People will have an opinion on an adult carrying a bag that looks like it's only missing a picture of the Teletubbies, though , no matter how many times you ask "So what?"
Op doesn't have to care what people think, of course.

I love these bags. My mum was Danish and wore one for as long as I can remember. Its in photos from me as a baby 40 years ago and she wore it til the day she went to the hospice.

It used to be a way of spotting other Scandinavian folks and she would have a good natter.

Mum passed away a few years ago and I love seeing them around more and more often as they remind me of her. DH got me my very own one for Christmas, it's bright BRIGHT pink and I adore it. It's my own connection to my mum and my heritage and it is in such a happy colour.

Wear it if you love it and tell your DH to sod off.

Don’t have a problem with any style or colour. I do have a problem with anyone spending £85 on a tiny backpack.

they are extremely well made (i don't like them, not enough pockets. I am all about the pockets with backpacks, and comfort, these aren't comfortable to carry, I've used one) and they aren't (afaik) made in sweatshop conditions. I bought my DC the one made with reclaimed sea plastic a few years ago, eye wateringly expensive, but as i said well made and a Good Thing. But all black because, goths. (wannabe goths)
If people buy these things from Primark they get knocked, and if they spend money on a good brand they get knocked which is why this isn't

Consumerism at its finest

at all

and this bit

just looks pretentious.

Why? what does "pretentious" mean in this context? that they are buying a relatively expensive bag from a good brand? where does that leave people with the LV handbags?

You like it = you like it.

You're the one using it and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I can't stand others trying to stifle other peoples personalities, feelings or belongings.

I like a rucksack because it frees you your hands that even one on the shoulder doesn't seem too! Nothing wrong with that
Looks ok to me!

My Kipling one is great , roomy and practical

No, not when you're an LGB person. I'm not joking. It's a very political symbol these days and it no longer means what many people think it means.