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To think having children brings status?

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OutofEverything · 22/02/2023 15:45

I should add this only happens if you are the "right" kind of mother. 17 year old with a baby does not gain status from having a baby, quite the reverse. But for most mothers having children brings an increase in status. Suddenly you are a "proper" adult.

You still get discriminated against as a mother, get judged, and pigeonholed. But that does not take away from the increase in status.

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declutteringmymind · 22/02/2023 23:27

Frumpy status!

12345onceicaughtafishalive678910 · 22/02/2023 23:27

Not on Tinder it doesn't!

SweetSenorita · 23/02/2023 00:13

OutofEverything · 22/02/2023 15:51

I agree money brings status. But a rich single woman has less status than a rich married woman with children.

No. I completely disagree. I see the exact opposite 😚

JudgeRudy · 23/02/2023 00:23

I was a bit confused by this post but after reading the responses I'm even more confused. Are you equating 'status' with 'respect' and saying that being a parent is somehow seen as 'better'? Some have talked about others views towards them but is there anyone who actually believes parents are somehow better/more worthy (or whatever) than others? Who are these people that think this way?

OutofEverything · 23/02/2023 00:53

I think some people are using respect for the same thing that I mean by status.

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Liorae · 23/02/2023 01:40

OutofEverything · 22/02/2023 23:07

you think a primary school teacher does not know who the children live with?

I'm not a teacher, so I don't know. Does every teacher that takes a class have access to that information?

xJoy · 23/02/2023 17:10

SweetSenorita · 23/02/2023 00:13

No. I completely disagree. I see the exact opposite 😚

Y3s, if it's HER OWN MONEY she has more status than a stay at home mother married ro a man with roughly the same income.
Always better to have your own income and not to have to share it out!

I think the school gates is the most under the microscope I ever felt though.
Now my dc are 20 and 17 nearly and I have my own job, house, pension, nobody at work thinks less of me because I'm single. I don't think. I only ever felt that when my dc were small. Now it is probably coming across more independent than "ah blessssss"
I used to see the heads tilt in pity for me at one point!

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