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School toast

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Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:12

Today I forgot to pay my 6 year olds toast money which they have at morning break. They gave every single child a slice of toast besides my daughter.

I have never forgotten before. Could they not have just put a note in her book bag as a reminder? Or sent a text.

You pay online for the term so I have paid it now (20p per day) including todays… even though she didn’t get any.

Should primary schools be more understanding? It’s not the child’s fault, it was mine.

Is it fair to single them out ? Toast for you, toast for you, NO toast for you , toast for you….

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Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:31

VirtualRealitee · 20/02/2023 14:28

Toast for you, toast for you, NO toast for you , toast for you….

Yes, I'm sure most of us could've visualised how it might have happened OP 😂

As it was the start of term, perhaps they thought you'd decided not to participate anymore?

😂 … Id like to think that is their rationale but she’s had it since day1 so surely they could just give her a slice and then ask if I want to continue. I wonder if they have the same view on school dinners x

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ijustneedanamefgs · 20/02/2023 14:31

I hate this, children should never be excluded regardless, it’s awful. Our old primary school was awful for it. Only happened my child once (as I had sent money for both via the older child as requested but no one bothered to check). I was raging. It was to watch a show that wouldn’t have cost them any more to let my child watch.
My youngest child has ended up in a different school due to sen and they are much better at this sort of thing.

EmmaDilemma5 · 20/02/2023 14:32

YANBU. That seems very insensitive of them.

Also, 20p for a single slice of toast? It's 80p for a loaf at Tesco (or 40p for the cheapest).

Are they profiting off it?

I've never known a school to make toast at break. The school I work at, kids bring their own snack if wanted and then they all get a free piece of fruit as part of the government scheme (not the best quality fruit but hey, it's free).

redskydelight · 20/02/2023 14:32

Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:26

They went back today?!

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It's not a new term now though ... it's the same term it's been since January.

But I assume you meant the toast payment is actually half-termly.

Multipleexclamationmarks · 20/02/2023 14:32

They probably thought you didn't want school snack this term. I work in school and around half of all classes bring their own snack. They probably assumed as you hadn't paid for the start of term you were doing this.

toomuchlaundry · 20/02/2023 14:32

It's a snack not a meal. I assume if parent hadn't paid for a meal then they would cobble something together so child wouldn't go without.

I assume not all parents want their child having a toast snack

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Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:33

redskydelight · 20/02/2023 14:32

It's not a new term now though ... it's the same term it's been since January.

But I assume you meant the toast payment is actually half-termly.

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Oh sorry. Yes half termly. X

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Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:36

EmmaDilemma5 · 20/02/2023 14:32

YANBU. That seems very insensitive of them.

Also, 20p for a single slice of toast? It's 80p for a loaf at Tesco (or 40p for the cheapest).

Are they profiting off it?

I've never known a school to make toast at break. The school I work at, kids bring their own snack if wanted and then they all get a free piece of fruit as part of the government scheme (not the best quality fruit but hey, it's free).

They are 100% making profit. It used to be 20p toast or 30p a crumpet.

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CrabDuckDuckCrab · 20/02/2023 14:37

So you can't even pay for the half term minus the toast she didn't get today? That annoys me on principle, that you have to pay for I received goods.

CrabDuckDuckCrab · 20/02/2023 14:37

Unreceived - stupid autocorrect Hmm

toomuchlaundry · 20/02/2023 14:38

Who sorts out the toast?

dakel · 20/02/2023 14:39

We always give kids free toast at the school I work at if they have no money on their account

ilovesooty · 20/02/2023 14:43

Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:36

They are 100% making profit. It used to be 20p toast or 30p a crumpet.

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You're paying for the service as well as for the slice of toast.

cocksstrideintheevening · 20/02/2023 14:52

What a massive pain in the arse to make
Toast for a school full of kids at break!

They should have given her the toast.

afinishedkiss · 20/02/2023 14:52

I cannot believe they passed over a child and not gave her a slice of lousy toast. Christ on a bike.

LynneBenfield · 20/02/2023 14:55

30p a crumpet! Bloody hell

BellatrixLestrangesHeatedCurlers · 20/02/2023 15:19

I fancy some toast now...

ouch321 · 20/02/2023 15:22

The error was yours so if you want to be irritated, be irritated at yourself.

LynetteScavo · 20/02/2023 15:25

FFS - I'd ask for my DC to have two slices tomorrow, now you've paid for it.

MelaniesFlowers · 20/02/2023 15:27

You may only have forgotten once, but there would be many parents who would take the piss if they knew they didn’t have to pay as their kid would get toast anyway.

Guess it’s a lesson not to forget.

arethereanyleftatall · 20/02/2023 15:29

Tbh it wouldn't be particularly unusual to have the following complaint on mn 'I don't want my dc to have toast at school because it's not high nutritional value. Aibu to be absolutely furious that they gave her some anyway even though I hadn't paid for it so clearly did not want her to have it'?

noblegiraffe · 20/02/2023 15:35

So you’re changing the task for the kitchen from “make and give toast to everyone on the list” to “make and give toast to everyone on the list and then check the list compared to last term’s list and any discrepancies (but only those who always pay on time), make them toast too, just in case, then chase up payment”?

Sugargliderwombat · 20/02/2023 15:57

I really doubt every single child got it. Not every child will be signed up and if it works like milk the teacher will get a list in the register saying who is signed up for it and they just hand it out. I've never got a clue who is on the milk list I just have my list that I get given to go on. Remember some will have allergies so not be signed up! We also have a surprising number of people who would complain if, shocker, their child was given bread 🤪.

Sugargliderwombat · 20/02/2023 15:59

Fairycake89 · 20/02/2023 14:24

I was shocked! Head teacher sees no wrong. X

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You went to the headteacher? 🤣🤣🤣

SleepingStandingUp · 20/02/2023 16:00

What do they do if you don't pay lunch money??

Our kids get fed and you get a note sent home. I imagine if it happened a few times the head would be causing you at drop off or pick up to see what the issue was but I can't imagine our head directing anyone to leave the kids hungry

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