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To enjoy a really boring life

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merciboocoo · 18/02/2023 22:03

Just that really. Since having my second baby I feel like I've got very boring. But I'm ok with it. I wfh so rarely see colleagues. I meet up with friends once in a blue moon which I always enjoy but am happy to get home. My life is a series of routines...school runs, work, clubs, evening meal, bed repeat. At weekends it's usually the kids commitments (sports, parties etc) followed by downtime like swimming, pub lunches or walks. We rarely go far.

I walk daily and get immense peace from just being outdoors in nature with my music on. I can't be arsed with other people and their dramas. I love reading and just being at home with my family. Does this sound like a really boring depressing life? At one time I would have thought so.

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shell856 · 18/02/2023 22:06

I'm the same now, never used to be pre-kids, I love it!

BCBird · 18/02/2023 22:10

I sounds lovely
I don't have children,never been bothered but can appreciate you enjoying your life. I like a quiet peaceful life. Peace is undervalued. Often we don't realise how important it is until it's gone.

snazzychair · 18/02/2023 22:11

Sounds good to me! But it's probably a phase like most things in life. I went through similar and now I want a little more (just a little more!) fun in my life that doesn't revolve around the children.

TrishM80 · 18/02/2023 22:12

I can relate. Kids' activities take over your life and it's difficult to find the time and energy to do anything else. Sometimes I think "should I be rock climbing or fucking bungee jumping or something at the weekends" but I don't have the slightest desire to do so even if I had the time!

JamSandle · 18/02/2023 22:13

If you're not bored, it's not boring! Sounds like you're life brings you immense joy and pleasure.

MellowMelly · 18/02/2023 22:13

I love it too! I’ve had some dramas with men. I’m over that. My daughter has moved out and is happy and doing well so it’s just the dog and me. If people want to call that boring then they can. I see my family, I have neighbours that are also friends and I have some very close best friends. I’ve experienced many things and I have had many highs and lows in my life and I’m happy with my lot now.

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merciboocoo · 18/02/2023 22:15

snazzychair · 18/02/2023 22:11

Sounds good to me! But it's probably a phase like most things in life. I went through similar and now I want a little more (just a little more!) fun in my life that doesn't revolve around the children.

Yeah I'm sure it's just a season and once the dc are more independent things will change again. I feel certain that I never want to go back to hectic, overstimulating weekends filled with booze and socialising though. I value quiet time alone so much more now. Little comforts like a coffee and a book or sitting in front of the fire with a really good film.

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Mollyplop999 · 18/02/2023 22:15

If you're boring then I am too. I socialise less and less. Quite happy with my garden, immediate family and ponies.

Abba123 · 18/02/2023 22:19

Sorry but you’re basically describing any women with young children, especially if more than one.

Wait for the “boring” morphing into emptiness and irrelevance once they’re at school full time and you’re hopping between one kids social to another.

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merciboocoo · 18/02/2023 22:22

Abba123 · 18/02/2023 22:19

Sorry but you’re basically describing any women with young children, especially if more than one.

Wait for the “boring” morphing into emptiness and irrelevance once they’re at school full time and you’re hopping between one kids social to another.

Well that's a positive outlook 😂
It's not so much about the dc. Obviously life has to change when I had them. I couldn't be out socialising every weekend. What I'm saying is that I don't miss it and have learnt to take joy out of much simpler things in life: walks, music, reading, nature. And yes being with my dc. But I know they won't be little forever and I will probably want to do more as they become more independent.

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IDontWantToBeAPie · 18/02/2023 22:23

If you love it you love it.

I feel like I'd want to take a short walk off a long pier... but I haven't had kids yet 😂 So check in on me in 5 years

3rdtimemomma · 18/02/2023 22:23

It sounds fantastic :)

Abouttimemum · 18/02/2023 22:24

It’s not boring if you’re happy. I’m the same. Life is too short to do the things you don’t want to do.

IDontWantToBeAPie · 18/02/2023 22:24

Long walk off a short pier even

ohfibonacci · 18/02/2023 22:26

Being content is a real gift. Enjoy it. 💗 Modern life is always striving for the next thing. To just be happy in the moment and enjoy the simple things is wonderful.

ohfibonacci · 18/02/2023 22:28

And of course things will change as your children get older but it sounds like you recognise that. I think it’s good for the kids too, to just have time to be.

daffodilandtulip · 18/02/2023 22:40

Abba123 · 18/02/2023 22:19

Sorry but you’re basically describing any women with young children, especially if more than one.

Wait for the “boring” morphing into emptiness and irrelevance once they’re at school full time and you’re hopping between one kids social to another.

My kids are teenagers and I basically drive them from one social to another. But it doesn't feel irrelevant. I love nothing more than a peaceful dog walk or a nice coffee with a new book.

I think lockdown did this to a lot of people. Life slowed down and I learnt to find the pleasure in the small things. Then realised I didn't want any of the drama and busyness back.

StuartBroadBarmyArmy · 18/02/2023 22:44

Heaven ❤️

LolaMoon · 18/02/2023 22:46

If it doesn’t bore you then it’s not boring is it?! I used to love clubbing when I was younger but now I can’t think of anything more boring or tedious than spending an evening with random drunk people slurring loudly at me telling me the same repetitive stories over and over again. Hangovers are also incredibly boring because you waste half the weekend. Therefore, “boring” is completely subjective.

Some may find your lifestyle boring but it really doesn’t matter- you’d probably find theirs boring too! Life is short so spend it in ways that bring you joy.

Crimeismymiddlename · 18/02/2023 22:50

I live an incredibly boring life and it is so enjoyable, the routine and lack of stress after decades of living in self created drama and chaos the pleasure in never getting stressed is priceless.
I do go out fairly often, but my friends are like me!

DulcetTones · 18/02/2023 22:51

No kids here, but that's how I've always been. Even when I was young, energetic, and interested in travel, part of me was glad to return home, and now I'm much happier in my off-time to allow myself to become absorbed in my hobbies and interests, most of which happen right at home. I like to feather my nest and then just stay there for a good long while!

It's not being boring; it's being your own person with your own likes and dislikes. You don't have to conform to the norm. If your life works for you and your family, that's really all that matters. I'd ignore anyone who says otherwise.

Bingoflings · 18/02/2023 22:55

100% with you OP.

Starcircle · 18/02/2023 22:56

I’m like this too. I enjoyed this article: “What if all I want is a mediocre life?” abcnews.go.com/amp/Lifestyle/mediocre-life/story?id=46349052

Mimi123456 · 18/02/2023 22:58

It sounds like you are one of the very few people to truly appreciate and enjoy your lovely life. Nothing about this sounds boring. Any kind of drama is mentally and often physically draining.. you are choosing to steer well clear of anything like this to ensure you're as present as possible for your very lucky and I'm sure, wonderful, children. So many people are constantly yearning for the 'next thing' and so, spend the majority of their lives miserable. You, are truly content with what you have. One of my favourites sayings, which your post made me think of, is: 'The secret to having it all, is knowing you already do'.

I just had to comment on this response too....

**"Sorry but you’re basically describing any women with young children, especially if more than one.

Wait for the “boring” morphing into emptiness and irrelevance once they’re at school full time and you’re hopping between one kids social to another.**

This is absolutely not how the vast majority of mother's feel. Most mothers I know feel extremely overwhelmed with motherhood, long for company other than their children's and find the day-to-day routine and relentlessness mundane and exhausting. The fact that you are able to experience such pleasure doing some of life's most simple things demonstrates, to me anyway, that you are unlikely to find many things in life boring.

I wish you continued peace, appreciation and happiness in what sounds like a gorgeous life with your family xx

MintJulia · 18/02/2023 22:58

I'm like you OP. My ds is a teen now, so I'm hardly tied to the house, but I have what I like here. Woods & fields for running, a house with a garden & plenty of space, village pub, a few friends, all the shopping I will ever need about 5 miles away.

Someone was describing taking their family to EuroDisney for half term and I thought how I'd rather poke sticks in my eyes. 😁

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