To enjoy a really boring life

[merciboocoo]

Just that really. Since having my second baby I feel like I've got very boring. But I'm ok with it. I wfh so rarely see colleagues. I meet up with friends once in a blue moon which I always enjoy but am happy to get home. My life is a series of routines...school runs, work, clubs, evening meal, bed repeat. At weekends it's usually the kids commitments (sports, parties etc) followed by downtime like swimming, pub lunches or walks. We rarely go far.

I walk daily and get immense peace from just being outdoors in nature with my music on. I can't be arsed with other people and their dramas. I love reading and just being at home with my family. Does this sound like a really boring depressing life? At one time I would have thought so.

I do stand by the point that being around people often increases drama. People bring drama. Even my very best friends get on my nerves if I see them too much and vice versa.

perhaps I thought this when I was 15

but now? No I don’t equate people with drama

So what you have said is that when you worked in an office it was drama and back biting.

you have had toxic friendships

You best friends have annoyed you when you have spent too much time with them

It would seem your life before now wasn’t exactly a bundle of joy Op so I’m not surprised that you’re feeling happier now

I'm very similar but I have quite a bit of cognitive dissonance around it.

I love the simplicity of my life. I love being anchored and having a really set routine. It has allowed me to make some serious changes for my mental health.

But I feel bored and boring. I feel like I should be doing more (mainly more for / with the kids). I could scream at the monotony of life that keeps me on an even keel. 🙃

@merciboocoo

Well hear hear to being more assertive and having good boundaries. I think your experiences with your friendships are specific to those friends as opposed to being inherent to "being around people" and I think it's a mistake to think that having friendships will always bring drama.

Often having a young family means you are naturally less available to those friends who previously relied heavily on you and while that's bound to cause some resentment it's part and parcel of growing up. As you get older you are bound to gravitate towards friendships with people at a similar life stage as you and that's all good. As long as you remain open to the potential for other friends to come into your life and don't assume you can get all the support you need from your immediate family because this is a dangerous road.

Anyway I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying a quiet and family-oriented life.

There’s nothing else I’d aspire for. I don’t think your life is boring. You might have a slightly toned down social life but other than that it sounds pretty busy and wholesome x

This is beautiful. I spent my childhood in a boarding school. All i ever wanted though , was to be at home. Now I am at home and this is my happy place

Sounds bliss.

I love a boring life too. I get stressed out by plans and love a clear weekend.

That said, now my kids are a bit older I’d like to occasionally start seeing live music again. Not clubbing!

In some ways OP, you describe be my own life with 2DC, but your description sounds much more peaceful, relaxed and contented than mine. I have a similar daily routine (though work in the office most days) but I find it quite stressful chivvying the kids along to get ready for school, and it's hectic running them around to clubs etc, plus with work on top...

I'm curious as to your setup - do you work part time? Do you have a stressful job or have you consciously chosen something that you can switch off from? Do your kids do lots of clubs or just a couple? Is there anything in life that you are working towards (career/house/family) or are you happy to just be as you are?