For wanting to get to know my little girl after sharing her for the first two weeks with everyone and their dog??????

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I am two minds whether to broach this with my dh, who is a very understanding and caring husband, but will he understand as it is more his family than mine???

We were blessed with the birth of our lo on 23rd Jan and spent the two weeks of my dh patenity leave having visitors, we had 47 seperate visitors during this time and some of those came more than once, my carpet has a permament tread now!!! But I feel that I have paid my debt during that two weeks, bearing mind I had a bad laceration down there, I spent most of the time making cups of tea with my dh while all the visitors played pass the parcel with our little girl until her skin was red!

And now my mother in law is driving me round the bend, for example today she called me, it is the second day my dh has been back at work and I am trying to get my life into some sort of order and she is aware of this from previous conversations, and then came round, she then complained that grandad hasn't seen the lo for a week, nor has her daughter, one of her friends daughter s wants to see her and the great grandparents are getting withdrawal, I am struggling to spread myself this thin, I have finally given in to spending Sunday round at their house so everyone can see the lo again, but it is eating inot the time with my dh, he needs to bond with his little girl and the weekends are a perfect time for that.

My family don't moan, nor do my friends, and because of that I haven't seen my friends since the birth and I feel like I have to hide the fact that I have seen my own mother from the in laws.

I don't know what to do because my dh will fiercely protect me and I don't want to drive a wedge between him and his family, but seriously I am on the verge of a melt down and I am getting upset writing it all down, I am definitely going to discuss it with the hv on Monday. I find it so hard to be diplomatic because I have let it get to the point where I could eaily turn round and tell them all to f**K off!!!

Pleas help me xx

cant you get them to have her on a weekday morning? or does feeding ake that a no go.

or move

or pretend to be out and turn phone off

Only read your OP but I am cross on your behalf. Any visitor to your house should be making the fecking tea (not you), probably should come with a casserole they have cooked for you, should offer to run the hoover around and stack the dishwasher and should not outstay their welcome

i had the same thing! For dd1 i was 18 yrs old and still lived with mum and dad. i had dd at 4pm on a friday and went by 9pm. that night alone 3 families visited and the next day was spent with people constantly arriving to see and hold the new baby. between my mum,dad,nan,grandad,sister,her boyfriend, her boyf's whole family, mums work mates, dads works mates, old family friends the list goes on... i didn't get to hold my new baby girl for the first two weeks (or so it felt!) i feel so angry now about it because i ended up not bonding with her and didn't bond properly until she was about 6 months old. (i suffered postnatal depression)
tell them to leave you alone for a week, to just enjoy this new experience, bugger there feelings because you never get the chance to repeat this time with your new baby.
i'm expecting dd2 in 7 weeks time and i've already said no visitors for the first week except grandparents. i'm puting my foot down this time!!

oh you poor thing i completely understand tho, dd3 born two days ago and only came home from hospital last night but our house has been full too. its exhausting! but at least your in laws want to see you, dp is devastated as his parents have told him they cant come and visit yet as they have noone to look after their dogs! i know its not our first or anything but its really upset him.