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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

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GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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Pirateships · 15/02/2023 21:39

Thankfully I haven't seen the video but can gather what's happening by these comments! Personally if both parties are consenting adults then if they enjoy licking arse who cares; but cheating and sexual acts in public are abhorrent.

TrishM80 · 15/02/2023 21:40

GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 20:06

Apparently his club are sending him out to give talks about the dangers of alcohol to young people… can you imagine facing a group of teens who have seen this video??

Is licking women's arseholes down dark alleyways one of the "dangers" of alcohol?

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:41

TrishM80 · 15/02/2023 21:40

Is licking women's arseholes down dark alleyways one of the "dangers" of alcohol?

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Apparently.

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:41

TrishM80 · 15/02/2023 21:40

Is licking women's arseholes down dark alleyways one of the "dangers" of alcohol?

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It’s just the same old tired excuse that lets men off the hook for virtually everything. It’s an attempt to turn it into a quasi MH/addiction issue to garner sympathy.

squtable · 15/02/2023 21:42

I live in the area. She isn’t really. He is all over news. All the jokes are about him. No one is talking about her locally either.

I'm surprised she hasn't got much slack, she hid his best mates wife, that's mean!

squtable · 15/02/2023 21:43

Is licking women's arseholes down dark alleyways one of the "dangers" of alcohol?

I've been guilty of licking a kebab when drunk, never an a-hole!

RotundRuby · 15/02/2023 21:44

To answer the actual OP question, I'd have said it's a pretty normal sex act for both men and women. I tend to think I mix in pretty vanilla circles but I've definitely been aware of people doing this before, although I've never encountered a man who doesn't do standard oral so maybe my life has been spicier than I previously thought...

Location and their personal circumstances are gross of course but I don't find rimming surprising, more that was their first choice. Presumably the prelude to sex or anal.

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:45

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:41

It’s just the same old tired excuse that lets men off the hook for virtually everything. It’s an attempt to turn it into a quasi MH/addiction issue to garner sympathy.

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I do wonder if a compulsion to do this in public does indicate some sort of mental health issue, tbh. Doesn't excuse it in any way, but surely it suggests you aren't of sound mind.

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:46

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:45

I do wonder if a compulsion to do this in public does indicate some sort of mental health issue, tbh. Doesn't excuse it in any way, but surely it suggests you aren't of sound mind.

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Why?

squtable · 15/02/2023 21:48

To answer the actual OP question, I'd have said it's a pretty normal sex act for both men and women.

I really don't think it's that normal but perhaps I'm sheltered.

Mooshamoo · 15/02/2023 21:48

This is embarrassing to write. But I kissed a man once and I got extremely extremely sick after. I have never felt as sick in my life. I was sick for two weeks, feverish, I'll, coughing, cold symptoms. But with a very ver high fever I had never experienced before. I texted him and asked him did he have a cold, as I got really sick after I kissed him .
He told me that he had rimmed someone the day before and he was sorry he thought that was might have made me ill. True story.

It might seem like just a sex act. But Very dangerous bacteria can be passed on by rimming.

Qwayserdeyas · 15/02/2023 21:48

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ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:51

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:46

Why?

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Why do I think feeling a compulsion to rim someone in a public place might be a sign that you aren't mentally balanced?

Arrrrrrragghhh · 15/02/2023 21:51

Its pretty intimate though and as a woman, head down arse in the air, you’d have to be fairly trusting.
I been on the fairly spicy rugby nights out ( thankfully before camera phones) and that doesn’t look as much fun as it could have been.

Zanatdy · 15/02/2023 21:52

Many people enjoy it - obviously in the privacy of their own home, not down an alleyway. In February too.

BettyB0Op · 15/02/2023 21:52

I’ve seen it, obviously we all know it’s wrong and families would have been deeply hurt on both sides. The worst part is two marriages and families torn apart over what looks to be the worst kind of sex you can have, blind drink, neither look to be enjoying it and he isn’t even hard and quite frankly I wouldn’t get any pleasure out of being bent in half having my bum licked behind a Greggs…

You can forgive a bit of disco minge (fanny at the end of a night out) but disco arse has to be grim!!!

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Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:52

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:51

Why do I think feeling a compulsion to rim someone in a public place might be a sign that you aren't mentally balanced?

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It just makes you filthy, not mentally ill.

No such thing as ARD (Alleyway-Rimjob Disorder) as far as I’m aware.

Mooshamoo · 15/02/2023 21:53

It looks very animalistic

DarkNecessities · 15/02/2023 21:53

She kicked him out

Sensible

eighteenthirteen1 · 15/02/2023 21:55

A bloke walks up the alley with his phone videoing saying Westermann is down there. He lets the camera run on and then says 'Can I have a go?' Westerman looks up and stands up exposing himself and sort of steps back looking drunk and starts to pull his pants up as if he's giving the bloke 'a go'.

No he doesn't. He just looks up shocked and tries to pull his trousers back up

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:56

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 21:52

It just makes you filthy, not mentally ill.

No such thing as ARD (Alleyway-Rimjob Disorder) as far as I’m aware.

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Well, the directory of recognised disorders is continuously being updated.

Particularly risky or out of character sexual activity can be a sign of mental illness. Doesn't excuse it, doesn't make it OK, but if he were diagnosed with some sort of illness after doing something this stupid and classless, it would go some way to explaining it.

At any rate, I think they're both headed for a mental breakdown now.

Summerfun54321 · 15/02/2023 21:56

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:45

I do wonder if a compulsion to do this in public does indicate some sort of mental health issue, tbh. Doesn't excuse it in any way, but surely it suggests you aren't of sound mind.

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It's indicative of an exceptionally low IQ that's all.

MrWhippersnapper · 15/02/2023 21:57

Just shows they thought they’d get away with it

Florenz · 15/02/2023 21:57

I doubt she expected him to do that, she was so surprised she nearly dropped her sausage bean and cheese melt.