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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

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GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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lovemyflipflops · 17/02/2023 13:52

LadyPenelope68 · 17/02/2023 07:47

@lovemyflipflops
What on earth has the fact she’s a “pretty blonde” and “has a really good job got to do with it?? You almost sound sorry for her!

Shes as much to blame as he is, they’ve both ruined the lives of two families because they fancied a bit of arse licking.

As for the ideological being in line, good, it means they were caught out and it will haunt them forever. No sympathy for either of them, my sympathy lies with their families.

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Yes. what they BOTH. did was wrong - but how many people commit adultery every day - and never get caught out - I do feel slightly sorry for her TBH - being filmed having such a sex act upon her - and for all the world to see - losing everything over this - she will never recover from this - I think if you do not have any compassion for this woman - then that's up to you. It's a shame she will never get over.

Jimboscott0115 · 17/02/2023 14:02

Littleloveydovey · 17/02/2023 09:53

I don’t think it’s relevant if rimming is normal or not. What is relevant is it is not remotely normal to be drunkenly rimming in a public place, particularly with your mates spouse. That’s why the public outcry.

Exactly this, the situation, participants and location are the issue here - the act itself is neither here nor there.

GetOffMyDoorJack · 17/02/2023 14:26

Jimboscott0115 · 17/02/2023 14:02

Exactly this, the situation, participants and location are the issue here - the act itself is neither here nor there.

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It's an interesting one isn't it, because on this thread there has been a lot of discussion about rimming and how normal/common it is. I wonder if the thread would still be running or interest so high on Twitter if she had been filmed giving him a blow job?

KattyKattyKatz · 17/02/2023 14:35

No one can see this woman's face in the video allegedly , so how come people are naming this woman? She could be anyone.

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:46

Littleloveydovey · 17/02/2023 12:21

This is mind boggling. Where are you finding these strangers to sext, some fetish site? 😂

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"strangers to text". ? He is not a stranger. I am dating him.

No I didn't find him on a fetish site. We met at a book club actually . We were discussing books. Then he asked me out.

Arrrrrrragghhh · 17/02/2023 14:46

GetOffMyDoorJack · 17/02/2023 14:26

It's an interesting one isn't it, because on this thread there has been a lot of discussion about rimming and how normal/common it is. I wonder if the thread would still be running or interest so high on Twitter if she had been filmed giving him a blow job?

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I think it’s the act itself and the fact it’s him doing it to her that’s made this so shared.
If it was her giving him a bow job I’m sure the narrative would be very different. I’m not sure it would be so talked about aside from the cheating aspect. A blow job in a alley isn’t unknown. I’m pretty sure the woman involved would have got a much harder time than Joe.

Cuppasoupmonster · 17/02/2023 14:48

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:46

"strangers to text". ? He is not a stranger. I am dating him.

No I didn't find him on a fetish site. We met at a book club actually . We were discussing books. Then he asked me out.

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To Greggs?

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:49

GoingOnce · 17/02/2023 12:59

Are you a sex worker? I can well imagine men who use prostitutes ask for things their partners won’t do.

Wow what a horrible and crazy post. I said men that I've dated have asked me to do things, and instead of saying anything at all about the men:

You called me a prostitute.

What a strange and nasty thing to say. Jesus women can be evil. No I'm not a prostitute.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/02/2023 14:52

At a book club? What did he say shall we read Howards End then go for a spot of rimming

TheCatWithGreenEyes · 17/02/2023 14:53

Surely it's not that rare! Is anal rare on here too? I thought it was perfectly normal part of foreplay before a bit of anal. Looks like I'm in the minority

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 17/02/2023 14:54

Bookish men often have lots of kinks.

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:58

TheCatWithGreenEyes · 17/02/2023 14:53

Surely it's not that rare! Is anal rare on here too? I thought it was perfectly normal part of foreplay before a bit of anal. Looks like I'm in the minority

Yeah I thought It was very normal too! Every man has said it it me. I'm surprised that women are surprised on here.

The men don't normally say "I want to do rimming". They just say something like I want to lick you all over , I want to lick every inch of your body etc, fairly early on

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:59

Cuppasoupmonster · 17/02/2023 14:48

To Greggs?

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Haha. I don't like Gregg's at the best of times.

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:00

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/02/2023 14:52

At a book club? What did he say shall we read Howards End then go for a spot of rimming

Haha. These are making me laugh.

"Let's read our classical book, then we can go for a jolly spot of rimming". A nice afternoon date

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:01

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 17/02/2023 14:54

Bookish men often have lots of kinks.

True! It's the quiet intellectual ones that have surprised me sometimes

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:01

Gregg's will be getting great free publicity out of this.

"Do you want to go for a crusty roll at Greggs"

ImAvingOops · 17/02/2023 15:03

Dunno about great publicity - puts you right off the idea of a sausage roll!

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/02/2023 15:06

Well I haven't seen the video but from what I have heard my Greggs vegan sausage roll is meatier than his todger

ArseInTheDogBowl · 17/02/2023 15:07

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:01

Gregg's will be getting great free publicity out of this.

"Do you want to go for a crusty roll at Greggs"

Chocolate donut @Mooshamoo 😂

pristinesurfacesGBTD · 17/02/2023 15:19

Bansheed · 17/02/2023 13:16

How rude! And purient

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I wondered the same thing.

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:29

pristinesurfacesGBTD · 17/02/2023 15:19

I wondered the same thing.

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Why? Why on earth would you jump to the conclusion that I'm a prostitute? I think thats disgusting of you to be honest.

Other women have said on here that they think that rimming is a common sex act, do you think that they are all prostitutes too?

What really annoys me about this, is that it is the MEN who have asked me to do rimming, I have said no to them, and yet I am called a prostitute.

That is disgusting to be honest. It is women blaming and judging women.

I can confirm that I have not and have never been a prostitute. Such a bizarre thing to call someone.

FawnFrenchieMum · 17/02/2023 15:30

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 14:58

Yeah I thought It was very normal too! Every man has said it it me. I'm surprised that women are surprised on here.

The men don't normally say "I want to do rimming". They just say something like I want to lick you all over , I want to lick every inch of your body etc, fairly early on

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I tell my DH I want kiss / touch him all over but I don’t actually mean including his arse hole / bum crack! I think you are reading too much into that statement.
He says the same to me, or I tell him I want kissing all over, again, he’s never kissed / liked my arse hole.

Mooshamoo · 17/02/2023 15:35

FawnFrenchieMum · 17/02/2023 15:30

I tell my DH I want kiss / touch him all over but I don’t actually mean including his arse hole / bum crack! I think you are reading too much into that statement.
He says the same to me, or I tell him I want kissing all over, again, he’s never kissed / liked my arse hole.

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No I meant: they will start by texting "I want to lick you all over".

That is just the start.

Then they will go on to text me

"I want to lick your ass".

Again, I have heard it so many times, and I think it is so extremely common, that I really cannot understand people being surprised about it .

It's so so common. I just asked my friend there, we talk to each other about everything.

And she said that the men she dates all ask her to do this too.

See the difference with you @FawnFrenchieMum is that you are married, so as you are only with one man, you don't get to talk to a lot of men.

So how could you know what the dating scene is like these days?

Tratjymp · 17/02/2023 15:35

TheCatWithGreenEyes · 17/02/2023 14:53

Surely it's not that rare! Is anal rare on here too? I thought it was perfectly normal part of foreplay before a bit of anal. Looks like I'm in the minority

Is this Friday already!

LaurieFairyCake · 17/02/2023 15:38

Both Anal and Rimming are obviously much rarer than Vaginal and Oral

Only 35% of people have even tried Anal in the Kinsey sex survey

Whenever I hear people say 'oh it's really common' I just cynically think that's basically what men want you to think so you'll do it....

I'm a therapist who have had probably 800 people talk about sex over the last 20 years, literally heard people talk about anal a handful of times and even rarer talk about rimming

I've not seen the video people are talking about - whenever I do a search for it I can't find it online, must be getting deleted a LOT Grin