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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

881 replies

GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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user1465390476 · 16/02/2023 08:34

I haven’t seen the text messages but I think the wife has a free pass on the basis she probably doesn’t have a clear head at the moment.

AsMyGranWouldSay · 16/02/2023 08:34

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2023 20:30

I wonder if you're more likely to get sick from the beer, Greggs or the arse. <ponders>

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

This

user1465390476 · 16/02/2023 08:35

Totally agree @AsMyGranWouldSay

ImAvingOops · 16/02/2023 08:35

It's wrong that a person can lose their job because some gobshite filmed a video with their consent and showed it to the world. Will said gobshite lose their job? Because I wouldn't want them working for me!

squtable · 16/02/2023 08:35

@TimeForMeToF1y oh i misunderstood, i've not watched it. I thought some of the arguing was about consent to the actual act.

Museya15 · 16/02/2023 08:35

TheNoonBell · 16/02/2023 08:28

When you can't win the debate you go after the debater.

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Yep, firing low.

sammylady37 · 16/02/2023 08:36

TrinnySmith · 16/02/2023 08:31

Well there’s public interest in what he was happy to do despite being married and having dependents.

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Knowing that is not ‘in the public interest’, despite some of the public being interested in it.

squtable · 16/02/2023 08:37

It's wrong that a person can lose their job because some gobshite filmed a video with their consent and showed it to the world. Will said gobshite lose their job? Because I wouldn't want them working for me!

That's a grey area though, what about when this LI or BB contestants have footage of them appear years ago saying something sexist, racist, offensive etc. are the people who shared that wrong?

lovemyflipflops · 16/02/2023 08:38

The guy who filmed and posted this has to be accountable for ruining potentially 4 lives and 2 marriages - yes the sex act was gross, but filming it was also in poor taste (pardon the pun)

Cuppasoupmonster · 16/02/2023 08:38

In my opinion if you do something in public you kind of forfeit the right to privacy.

squtable · 16/02/2023 08:39

I haven’t seen the text messages but I think the wife has a free pass on the basis she probably doesn’t have a clear head at the moment.

I agree but just wondering about the privacy & consent issue.

squtable · 16/02/2023 08:40

The guy who filmed and posted this has to be accountable for ruining potentially 4 lives and 2 marriages - yes the sex act was gross, but filming it was also in poor taste (pardon the pun)

is filming it the problem or sharing it on SM? if sharing it is bad why are the SM companies not responsible & what about all the "voyeurs" who watch it?

squtable · 16/02/2023 08:41

Are we wrong to discuss it on this thread?

Moveoverdarlin · 16/02/2023 08:43

I can’t see how anyone could say she wasn’t consenting. She can stand up and walk away. He looks far more worse for wear than she does. Bending over and putting my hands on the ground is not something I could do after a few drinks. And secondly she may have lost her job because employers (especially small companies like an estate agents) don’t like their employees bare asses going viral around the world. Come on! Of course she’s sacked. Give it another week, and he will be too. These few minutes of drunken madness will change their lives forever.

Littleloveydovey · 16/02/2023 08:44

lovemyflipflops · 16/02/2023 08:38

The guy who filmed and posted this has to be accountable for ruining potentially 4 lives and 2 marriages - yes the sex act was gross, but filming it was also in poor taste (pardon the pun)

Do you know who he was? Becsyde who ever did this clearly knew they were down there getting dirty with it and may have had very good reason to film and release it and not just send it to their spouses privately. It may even have been her husband or a close friend of his.

So no he isn’t accountable. The only people accountable are him and that woman.

and for my money, I will bet hard that wasn’t the first time they were together, I’d assume an affair. Because ain’t no one publicly rimming down an alley way the first time they get it on.

shooting the messenger is shit. It isn’t the messengers fault. It isn’t on them to protect this man and woman.

NicolaSturGONE · 16/02/2023 08:47

The poor kids :(

Littleloveydovey · 16/02/2023 08:48

ImAvingOops · 16/02/2023 08:35

It's wrong that a person can lose their job because some gobshite filmed a video with their consent and showed it to the world. Will said gobshite lose their job? Because I wouldn't want them working for me!

If you bring a company into disrepute then yes. And she is clearly known locally that it’s her.

and in my view if you decide to have an affair. Cheat. Have sex in a public place, her your arse out and be fucking rimmed in public where anyone could see you then I’d take the gobshite over the pair of them.

eighteenthirteen1 · 16/02/2023 08:50

TheNoonBell · 16/02/2023 06:27

@BatshitBanshee You are really living up to your moniker.

  • Humour is subjective
  • All parties appeared to be consenting

And the guy said it jokingly, I very much doubt he actually wanted a go.

(I agree he's a scumbag for releasing the video though)

WilsonMilson · 16/02/2023 08:53

Vile. If you do something like that, which is lewd and libidinous conduct and against the law, then you forfeit the right to privacy in my opinion.

His teenage daughter has seen it online, which is just disgusting. Can you even imagine the horror and revulsion?

Disgusting pig, he deserves all he gets.

BeeDavis · 16/02/2023 08:54

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:06

He’s always been a bit of a knob, but he’s outdone himself this time. His poor kids and wife

His team is opening their season against his former team at the weekend - he is in for a tough night as rugby league fans can be very creative with songs and chants

good job he isn’t playing then!

Littleloveydovey · 16/02/2023 08:55

eighteenthirteen1 · 16/02/2023 08:50

And the guy said it jokingly, I very much doubt he actually wanted a go.

(I agree he's a scumbag for releasing the video though)

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thr man who took it clearly wasn’t wishing to have a go. It was someone who knew him and her. And as we don’t know who he is. And why he released it, it could even have been the husband or the husbands friend, who knows, but until you know who it was and why, then it’s not ok to hurl abuse at him.

as said, the only people responsible are the pair of them.

ilovebrie8 · 16/02/2023 08:55

Oh my that’s gross! Who is she? He’s been named everywhere ...Imagine positioning yourself like that in public 🤮holy moly !

ReneBumsWombats · 16/02/2023 08:56

WilsonMilson · 16/02/2023 08:53

Vile. If you do something like that, which is lewd and libidinous conduct and against the law, then you forfeit the right to privacy in my opinion.

His teenage daughter has seen it online, which is just disgusting. Can you even imagine the horror and revulsion?

Disgusting pig, he deserves all he gets.

If you do something like that, which is lewd and libidinous conduct and against the law, then you forfeit the right to privacy in my opinion. His teenage daughter has seen it online, which is just disgusting. Can you even imagine the horror and revulsion?

If his privacy had been respected, his daughter would not have seen it.

Which do you want?

eighteenthirteen1 · 16/02/2023 08:57

Perhaps you can answer as no one else is, how is it obvious

Because she's standing still rather than walking away.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 16/02/2023 08:58

ImAvingOops · 16/02/2023 08:35

It's wrong that a person can lose their job because some gobshite filmed a video with their consent and showed it to the world. Will said gobshite lose their job? Because I wouldn't want them working for me!

No sympathy for her. I'd prefer someone who exposes cheaters to work for me than a cheat who gets on all fours down an alleyway.