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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

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GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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alanabennett · 15/02/2023 23:39

I actually have some compassion for them both. While this is an extreme example, that aren't the first people to get shitfaced and behave appallingly. Grim as it is, this should never have been shared publicly. They'll never live it down and that moment of madness will likely color every relationship they have (including with parents, friends, etc.)

I just cannot imagine being in either of their shoes, as it were.

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 23:58

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BadNomad · 15/02/2023 23:58

How lovely for his kids to go in to school knowing classmates have seen images of daddy licking some lady down an alley with his pants down.

Aurorabored · 16/02/2023 00:01

What kind of person films that and then distributes it?

Cam22 · 16/02/2023 00:04

What kind of person BEHAVES like the rugby player and the pathetic woman?

ReneBumsWombats · 16/02/2023 00:08

alanabennett · 15/02/2023 23:39

I actually have some compassion for them both. While this is an extreme example, that aren't the first people to get shitfaced and behave appallingly. Grim as it is, this should never have been shared publicly. They'll never live it down and that moment of madness will likely color every relationship they have (including with parents, friends, etc.)

I just cannot imagine being in either of their shoes, as it were.

I do too. Obviously they've done something terrible and I feel more sorry for their families, especially the kids. And if you're going to do something like this in public, people might see you. Still, it does seem a very extreme consequence, far worse than just news of an affair breaking. People take their own lives over this sort of thing.

Surplus2requirements · 16/02/2023 00:09

I must say I am surprised at seeing such misogynistic phrases such as tramp stamp here

Aurorabored · 16/02/2023 00:16

Cam22 · 16/02/2023 00:04

What kind of person BEHAVES like the rugby player and the pathetic woman?

Lots of very drunk people do. I was unlucky enough to walk past an alley in a city centre and see a couple going at it in broad daylight. I carried on walking. I didn’t stop and film it because who does that?

Aurorabored · 16/02/2023 00:19

As for what the man who filmed them said, the last time I saw that phrase it was in a report of a rape trial.

THEDEACON · 16/02/2023 00:45

In private bring it on in these circumstances no thanks

Ziggyzagg · 16/02/2023 00:55

This is really tragic but I can’t help laughing at the comments here. How does anyone end up in that situation? Imagine facing your kids and wife/husband / parents after that? I’d be so embarrassed , not that I can ever imagine getting into that situation!

I do feel a bit sorry for them tbh. It’s not fair for the families involved for the person to have shared this publicly.

SammyScrounge · 16/02/2023 01:23

Devoutspoken · 15/02/2023 23:00

'Tramp stamp'? So what do we call men with tattoos on their back, or is it just women who deserve the pejorative term

Neither of them is worth.defending.

Bansheed · 16/02/2023 02:53

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That is one of the most smug, unpleasant comments I have ever read on here.

Bansheed · 16/02/2023 03:04

The person who filmed and shared that, is repulsive. Yes, the man and woman fucked up, big time, but the sharing of the film has made it a huge stain of shame for everybody, all their families etc Just look at the tone of some of posters on here.

Very sad situation and I feel every single person involved; spouses, children, family. In fact, more than that i particularly feel for the woman, as our society typically will judge her the worse, and she has no media protection. She made a terrible.drunken error and will pay an awful, awful.price for it.

StandALot · 16/02/2023 03:17

Imagine the conversation prior to them leaving the pub?
Her..I could just eat a Greggs sausage roll.
Him. I'll take you up the back passage and see what I can do.
Random man. Ere, can I have a go?
Him... Butt out.
Her... cheeky!

I feel sorry for both their families.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/02/2023 04:12

I haven't seen the video, and don't intend to. It sounds grim. But I don't think the fact that they were doing this in public makes it OK for the video to be put on social media.

I feel desperately sorry for the partners and children of these two idiots. The humiliation for them must be dreadful. I have no sympathy for the adulterous couple whatsoever.

Quirrelsotherface · 16/02/2023 04:12

And after all that he wasn't even hard was he when he stood up. what a stud.

JMSA · 16/02/2023 04:15

Brown sauce with your sausage roll? 🤢

Trez1510 · 16/02/2023 04:25

I don't know how either of them can come back from this.

The humiliation and shame will be unbearable.

As others have said, this sort of public humiliation causes people to take their own lives.

I completely agree the actions of both were stupid, selfish and sordid.

The creature who filmed and released it is much, much worse than them imo.

Lucylock · 16/02/2023 04:33

I've just read an article by his wife. She said her 14 year old daughter is repeatedly being added to a snapchat groups with the video, and her 9 year old has been messaged with links to it as well. Absolutely awful.. The person who videoed this should be ashamed, what a terrible thing to do. Yes the man and woman were wrong, but it should not have been videoed.

JMSA · 16/02/2023 04:39

Lucylock · 16/02/2023 04:33

I've just read an article by his wife. She said her 14 year old daughter is repeatedly being added to a snapchat groups with the video, and her 9 year old has been messaged with links to it as well. Absolutely awful.. The person who videoed this should be ashamed, what a terrible thing to do. Yes the man and woman were wrong, but it should not have been videoed.

That's absolutely dreadful. Poor kids.

JMSA · 16/02/2023 04:39

And wife Sad

EmmaGrundyForPM · 16/02/2023 04:55

I read somewhere that his wife is a teacher. Can you imagine facing a class of teenagers after this? Or, if it's primary teaching, facing the parents. She has done nothing wrong, but the humiliation.

Trez1510 · 16/02/2023 05:04

Lucylock · 16/02/2023 04:33

I've just read an article by his wife. She said her 14 year old daughter is repeatedly being added to a snapchat groups with the video, and her 9 year old has been messaged with links to it as well. Absolutely awful.. The person who videoed this should be ashamed, what a terrible thing to do. Yes the man and woman were wrong, but it should not have been videoed.

What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

What sort of brain allows that thought (including a 14yo in such a group)?

And, then, follows that thought through?

As sordid as what her father did is in terms of cheating etc., those doing this are beyond sick and perverse. I genuinely hope there is an offence with which they can be, and are, charged.

Sick fuckers.

aonbharr · 16/02/2023 05:06

Christ, it was fair disgusting, I don't know how I'd be seen again in public after that. That is all they will ever be known for. Pure example of karma for them; eternally worse is what they have allowed their children to be exposed to.

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