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To go to Australia for 3 weeks of no stings sex?

122 replies

Menomaddness · 14/02/2023 17:51

I'm a menopausal woman who for various very sad reasons hasn't had sex in far too long.

This morning an old school friend messaged me. I haven't seen him in 3 decades and he's lived in Australia for at least one of those. We're FB friends but I've never heard directly from him before.

From his FB, he's loving life with a different woman every weekend. He's either on the beach or in the pub dancing to live music or both.

Anyway we chatted back and forth for a while, he told me he's currently single and for a minute it really did seem like a realistic idea to suggest going out there for a few weeks of fun.

There are men more locally, but they all come with "complications". I also accept I'm being very presumptive in expecting him to be up for the idea 😆

I've never had any hankering to go to Aus!

OP posts:
Original poster
Menomaddness · 14/02/2023 17:52

Well hopefully no stings either, but I mean strings obviously.

OP posts:
harrassedmumto3 · 14/02/2023 17:54

Grin Darn, you beat me to it!

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 14/02/2023 17:54

I wouldn’t go for sex with stings personally, so you’re definitely NBU to want ‘no stings’…

But seriously, why not go for the Shirley Valentine thing if no one’s going to get hurt? However, if you haven’t seen each other for three decades, there’s a lot of assuming going on to jump from that straight into sex.

maddy68 · 14/02/2023 17:54

Why not ?

KimberleyClark · 14/02/2023 17:56

There may be no chemistry between you at all when you actually meet.

wildseas · 14/02/2023 17:58

If you are old school friends you know him well enough to know if there’s unresolved tension which will turn into 3 weeks lovely sex or not.
Book quickly before he gets a girlfriend!

throwingandcatching · 14/02/2023 17:58

you don’t know that he’s even interested in shagging you. it’s a bit…desperate to fly to Oz for sex and that’s before you admitted you’d had no signals from him!

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/02/2023 18:06

Helluva long way and a lot of money for a shag. Plus who wants to queue with all the other women he's working his way through?

EyesOnThePies · 14/02/2023 18:07

What will you do for the remaining 2.5 weeks?

Tricky as he doesn’t seem to keep his interest going from one weekend to the next. Or if you got quick ick.

Tres awks if you would be staying with him?

iklboo · 14/02/2023 18:09

From his FB, he's loving life with a different woman every weekend. He's either on the beach or in the pub dancing to live music or both.

Well he's not going to be posting pics of him cleaning his gutters and going to work, is he? I'd also be wondering whether the women in the photos know they're being used for (possibly fake) notches on a FB bedpost.

iklboo · 14/02/2023 18:11

Wait. He messaged you THIS MORNING and you're thinking of flying to the other side of the world for a shag - based on FB posts and (unverified) accounts of his life?

pussycatinfluffyslippers · 14/02/2023 18:11

So long as it doesn't sting, go for it. Grin

Paq · 14/02/2023 18:12

YANBU. Go for it. Just use a condom.

PacificallyRequested · 14/02/2023 18:12

God no. Think of the emissions. I mean carbon emissions of course. Wink

Choconut · 14/02/2023 18:34

I'd test the water and say something like 'sounds like a lot of fun out there, I might come out for a few weeks as I could could do with a bit of that 😂' and just see how he responds.

namechangetheworld · 14/02/2023 18:41

It does seem a bit desperate to travel to Oz for a shag, sorry OP. And not exactly sensible either - you haven't seen the bloke thirty years. He could have turned into a right weirdo (or worse) and you would be stuck on the other side of the world with him. Why not just go on Tinder or pick someone up at a bar?

Blanca87 · 14/02/2023 18:44

Did it in my early 20’s and it was great fun. You would be going for an experience not just getting your end away. Go on enjoy yourself it’s later than you think. 😘

Testina · 14/02/2023 18:44

So how much money for the flight, how many hours, and what’s the odds of you fancying him and him being good at sex?
Slim I would guess.
Get yourself a Tinder one night stand.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 14/02/2023 18:45

Go! And have fun!

pilates · 14/02/2023 18:45

Has he invited you or are you inviting yourself?

ThisIsNotThePostYourLookingFor · 14/02/2023 18:45

Life is too short not too. You’ll regret it if you don’t plus it’s a chance to have a holiday in a lovely place

OnlyFannys · 14/02/2023 18:46

Dear god you dont need to go all the way to oz for sex, go on tinder the are plenty of randoms looking for no strings sex

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 14/02/2023 18:49

What does he do?

Is he something big down under? 😁

VanillaSox · 14/02/2023 18:49

Go go go!
worst case you travel round Oz and have a few weeks of sunshine

AllWorkYoPlait · 14/02/2023 18:49

It's not worth the jetlag or the airfare. Find a fling closer to home.