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To go to Australia for 3 weeks of no stings sex?

122 replies

Menomaddness · 14/02/2023 17:51

I'm a menopausal woman who for various very sad reasons hasn't had sex in far too long.

This morning an old school friend messaged me. I haven't seen him in 3 decades and he's lived in Australia for at least one of those. We're FB friends but I've never heard directly from him before.

From his FB, he's loving life with a different woman every weekend. He's either on the beach or in the pub dancing to live music or both.

Anyway we chatted back and forth for a while, he told me he's currently single and for a minute it really did seem like a realistic idea to suggest going out there for a few weeks of fun.

There are men more locally, but they all come with "complications". I also accept I'm being very presumptive in expecting him to be up for the idea 😆

I've never had any hankering to go to Aus!

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 14/02/2023 19:41

Dontsayyouloveme · 14/02/2023 19:35

He’s with a different woman every weekend…? 🫤If you do go and sleep with him, please take precautions! 😬

Allegedly. On FB though 🙄which might not be the reality. He sounds a bit seedy to me, frankly.

EmmaDilemma5 · 14/02/2023 19:43

What if the sex is shit? It's a big risk.

Deadringer · 14/02/2023 19:44

I would definitely find someone to shag closer to home. Of course his fb looks like he has a great life, isn't that what fb is for?

Carouselfish · 14/02/2023 19:53

Hell yes op. Yanbu

considerablycuntierthanyou · 14/02/2023 19:53

It's a bit early days to plan something like that! At least message for a week or so before asking.

Cocobutt · 14/02/2023 19:53

Why this man and not a different man?

QuietlyConfident · 14/02/2023 19:58

What if you get there and he's got chronic halitosis?

Queryer · 14/02/2023 20:03

YABU - Australia has a lot of crazy spiders 🕷️ and insects 🐜 !!

echt · 14/02/2023 20:10

Where does this chap live? This could have a bearing on other activities.

TrishM80 · 14/02/2023 20:13

Terrible idea.

MrsMikeDrop · 14/02/2023 20:18

Go for it, life is short. Have a back up plan if the sex thing doesn't work out, could be a fun holiday anyway!

Mamette · 14/02/2023 20:18

Three weeks is ages. I don’t think I’d want to go on holiday with DH for three weeks let alone be stuck with some random.

and I sure as hell wouldn’t want someone landing on me for 3 weeks. No offence OP.

One date maybe but Australia is too far to go for one date.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 14/02/2023 20:25

Pack a bag and go!

neverbeenskiing · 14/02/2023 20:35

If someone I hadn't seen for 30 years told me they were seriously considering flying across the world to see me, off the back of one Facebook message, I'd be getting a restraining order!

IJustHadToLookHavingReadTheBook · 14/02/2023 20:43

Do it. If I was in your position and had the money, why not? Go out there, enjoy the sun and sea and booze and potentially get railed for three weeks. Heaven.

TwoPointFourCatsAndDogs · 14/02/2023 20:47

Go! If he’s a crap shag go sight seeing, Australia is fab.

AllWorkYoPlait · 14/02/2023 20:56

I'm surprised so many people are encouraging this.

She's not seen the man for 30 years, seemingly has no idea if he's interested and he's supposedly a play boy.

Why would he want to entertain OP for 3 weeks?

He might be riddled with all sorts if he really is shagging about so much.

If OP were already planning to go to Aus and had her eye on a weekend of shenanigans, then by all means, but to fly 24 hours at great cost, for a shag with what is essentially a stranger, is madness.

SummerWinds · 14/02/2023 21:07

It is madness and those egging her on wouldn't do it themselves in RL, or if they did they'd be stupid.
He could turn out to be a right weirdo.

VanillaSox · 14/02/2023 21:09

I actually would!
If she won't...

gettingalifttothestation · 14/02/2023 21:14

I think this is just a fantasy to be honest. Your thinking of inviting yourself to his for 3 weeks ? He might not want you.

JamSandle · 14/02/2023 21:14

I totally would!

BlluePeril · 14/02/2023 21:24

Testina · 14/02/2023 18:44

So how much money for the flight, how many hours, and what’s the odds of you fancying him and him being good at sex?
Slim I would guess.
Get yourself a Tinder one night stand.

This.

delayedtrauma · 14/02/2023 21:36

He sounds like an std's dream

MumOf2workOptions · 14/02/2023 21:39

This is crazy and desperate it's thousands of miles away and you've not seen him for years

enweto · 14/02/2023 21:40

sounds like a good way to pick up a nasty infection.

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