To be a bit narked that my neighbour has asked....

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If she can borrow some money off me.

I only know her to say hi to, she seems like a nice enough person but she has just asked to borrow a couple of hundred quid from me. Although I have the money saved away I don't particularly want to loan it to someone I hardly know.

I lied and told her I didn't have to money to lend, then I could have kicked myself for saying that as there was a £20 note on the coffee table for a takeaway for DH and I tonight.
She said well I'll just take that 20 quid then I lied again and said that it's to buy some nappies and formula for DD. We use washable nappies and DD is BF, but she didn't know that.

So AIBU to not lend her some money.

BTW, Dh and I are certainly not flushed with money, the majority of any left over cash after bill have been paid goes in to savings. If we are lucky we will have a bit to treat ourselves to a takeaway once in a while.

YANBU. I'd never lend money except to people I wouldn't mind never getting it back from (like really close friends and family).

YANBU!!! Cheeky mare - "I'll just take that £20 then" Good for you. Did she tell you what she wanted it for?

Christ, not unreasonable at all!! Especially if you don't know her other than saying hi!

Of course YANBU. She's got enough front for Westminster Abbey!

she is an addict of some sort i think
you are mad to lend her

not way are you being unreasonable. dont feel the need to lie next time either.

YANBU

at her wanting the 20 quid!!

No no no-what a cheek-how dare she say she will take your £20.00. the raelity is that you will be chasing her forever more for the money back-and if you lend it to her she will no doubt ask for more. You saved this money no doubt by being careful-why should she benefit?

A friend of mine once asked to borrow £2,000 from me-we knew each other through work-I had already lent him £50.00 once and never saw that again. I said no and have never seen this friend again.

Please don't allow her to think that you are an interest free bank

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I would be quite freaked out by the "I'll just take the 20 quid" comment

You are kidding me, what a cheeky cow.

The cheek of her! You were right not lending her any money.

you are kidding? a virtual stranger asks to borrow £200 off you, and then tries to take the £20 off you, that is for your dinner, and you feel that YABU..

no way

if it was someone i knew very well, and i knew it was dire straits, i.e no money for food, or heating, then yes...

i have a friend who lent someone she knew through her work £80 just before Xmas, and she has still not got it back, and the woman she lent it to is avoiding her.. and she feels bad asking for it back !

if she needed food or nappies, i;d let her go through my freezer and cupboards or buy her some nappies, but i would not give a lump of cash to someone i didn;t know very , very well

YANBU. I think she has some cheek. I did lend some money to a good friend of mine to buy a car once. In the days when I could do that. I was 100% confidence that I would get it back, but it was still a bit uncomfortable as it wasn't the sort of money I could afford to lose. Felt quite antsy until I had the cheque in my hand, and felt embarrassed about feeling that way.

I won't lend again and certainly not to an almost stranger.

be careful about having her in your house too not being judgemental but someone who can behave like that may well case your house up for future money maikng jollies

I didn't think I was BU, thanks.

I phoned Dh at work to tell him and he said to tell her to f*k ff , ever the diplomat my DH.

She said that her electrics have broken and she needs to get a leccy in to deal with it. To my mind you gonna need more than a couple of hundred quid for a leccy to sort that out.

YANBU. Oh no, no, no, not one bit.

Good for you standing up for yourself, btw. She sounds like a real user. Hopefully she'll have realised that you aren't prepared to be a victim.

I would hate to be put in that position - it's very upsetting. I'd be apologetic and query if she couldn't ask someone else like family perhapsand when she says no or comes out with some sob story just say Oh I am sorry I can't help. It's just awful. I probably wouldn't know what to do in that situation - I know I wouldn't see her walk out the door with the money but crikey - the nerve of some people is incredible.

ynbu
we lent a neighbour money a couple of times to top up her metre. she was VERY pregnant and her dh was away fighting.(army)
but i drew the line at the knobhead down the road asking to borrow £50 that are what banks are for.

OMG you all type so quick, I'm typing one handed trying to get DD to sleep!!!!

I've lent money before but only to my best friend and my brother, but it would never bother me if I didn't get it back from them. Although I did.

I wont invite her in next time, talk to her on the doorstep only me thinks.

"I'll just take that £20 then" ....???? Cheeky cow.

Christ, that's not normal behaviour is it? I'll just take that £20?? And it sounds like a load of bullshit re the electric problem.

Agree with cod that sounds like for drugs or something, she would have to be desperate to have the effrontery to ask for money like that.

Don't feel guilty! I am on your husband's side with this one, tell her to f* off indeed!

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