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Valentines

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Aquarius1234 · 13/02/2023 23:32

To not understand this day?
Why do all the men rush into supermarket s buying cards and flowers. But most of look like they are miserable as hell..
Yes I'm single but I don't really get why Valentines day exists?

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PartridgeInAChair · 14/02/2023 14:24

Some crappy cheesy cards and chocolates around

Ooh I picked up a bargain in Aldi.

mydogisthebest · 14/02/2023 14:24

ITotallyPaused · 14/02/2023 11:12

Valentine's Day is tacky. I don't need a shite card, chocolates or a rose and neither does my husband. Probably suitable for teenagers though.

It's not compulsory to buy chocolates or roses to celebrate Valentines.

I bought DH Abba tickets which he is over the moon about and he bought me a book he knew I wanted and an animal experience in a local wildlife park which I am also very happy with.

We bought each other a card and they certainly are not shite ones.

tuvamoodyson · 14/02/2023 16:59

xogossipgirlxo · 14/02/2023 10:43

Same here😊

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Hope you had a lovely day!

QuizzlyBears · 14/02/2023 17:29

ITotallyPaused · 14/02/2023 11:12

Valentine's Day is tacky. I don't need a shite card, chocolates or a rose and neither does my husband. Probably suitable for teenagers though.

Posts like this have a definite air of pretending not to be bothered. There’s no rule that says Valentines gifts can only be chocolates or flowers you know.

Ilovemycatalot · 14/02/2023 17:39

I’m single to op and just grateful I don’t have the pressure of buying someone a gift or pretend to be excited about receiving an over priced bunch of flowers!

KimberleyClark · 14/02/2023 17:45

DH and I love Valentines Day. We buy each other non tacky cards and thoughtful gifts. I was a bit annoyed that my card to DH contained an inappropriate line about “our beautiful family” - we are childless. (It was cellophane wrapped and I didn’t notice until I opened the card to write in it.). DH said “never mind, we are a beautiful family of two”.

FunkyMonks · 14/02/2023 17:48

No me and DH never bother with valentines for us birthdays and wedding anniversary are far more special and those days deserve to be treated as such not a day that businesses push on people to
Spend silly amount of money to prove they love someone.

But I guess each to own...

mydogisthebest · 14/02/2023 17:52

FunkyMonks · 14/02/2023 17:48

No me and DH never bother with valentines for us birthdays and wedding anniversary are far more special and those days deserve to be treated as such not a day that businesses push on people to
Spend silly amount of money to prove they love someone.

But I guess each to own...

No one has to spend silly amounts of money. A gift can cost £1 or £100 whatever you want it to.

We also think our birthdays and wedding anniversary are more special but no reason not to celebrate Valentines too.

We don't do it to prove we love each other - we both know that we do

OfTheNight · 14/02/2023 17:58

If it gives people some joy to celebrate then I don’t think it’s stupid.

I love Halloween and get a lot of joy from decorating my house and garden and dressing up. Some people think that’s stupid. But life is short and can be tough so I think you should celebrate things that give you joy. I don’t see the problem.

Always4Brenner · 14/02/2023 20:16

Hated it as a teen there always the braggers biggest card look what I’ve got etc, never had a card in my teens. My first ex never bothered so I felt hurt he never did cards full stop said it was his eye sight rubbish my friends did and they had bad eyes. 2nd ex much better card and chocs so I loved that.

tuvamoodyson · 14/02/2023 20:26

Doowop1919 · 14/02/2023 11:43

I can't stand it. I asked DH to not celebrate it the first year we dated (he brought me a card and flowers the first year). I had an ex who said I obviously don't like it cause no one had done anything for me before but that wasn't the case either...I just don't see why we should show love and gratitude to our partners once a year. It should be continuous.

What makes you think it isn’t continuous for lots of couples?? Can’t we show love and gratitude AS WELL as celebrating the Valentine’s Day? Why do you imagine we can’t do both??

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Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 21:46

So I had major train delays and bus replacement service on way home.
Had to sit behind a young couple kissing all the time lol
Then had to walk all through the town as ended up in another station..
It was slightly weird and funny seeing everyone out and about. It didn't matter that I was walking alone.

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Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 22:04

soundsystem · 14/02/2023 12:05

Ha yeah I don't get it either. DH and I fling cards at each other in the morning rush and then get on with our day!

Yeh I don't get the nice dinners.
You can have steak or something nice any day if the week. Makes me wonder what people eat for thr rest of the time lol
I want a nice dinner at least 5 days a week!

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PartridgeInAChair · 14/02/2023 22:25

Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 22:04

Yeh I don't get the nice dinners.
You can have steak or something nice any day if the week. Makes me wonder what people eat for thr rest of the time lol
I want a nice dinner at least 5 days a week!

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You sound boring.

Why are you so upset that people like to celebrate it? Jealous?

We don't do the card or gift but we do other things to mark it.

He does tell me every day he loves me.

Blossomtoes · 14/02/2023 22:35

Well I got a card, a bunch of red tulips and a promise of a posh lunch tomorrow. It works for me, as does us telling one another how much we love each other every single day. There are some bitter and twisted people on this thread.

Imthegingerbreadwoman · 14/02/2023 22:54

It's a silly day imo. If dh wants to buy me flowers he can do it when he wants to not when the rest of the world is doing it. Not very special to me. But if he bought some randomly as a nice gesture or because I had a particular bad time for example, I would appreciate it more. And no we don't do valentines gifts. Waste of money in my opinion

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Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 23:26

There's definitely women that feel the need to cook a nice dinner. Yet they just get a crappy card in return.
The sort of women that do all the house and put out even when they aren't in the mood.

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Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 23:26

House work!

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KimberleyClark · 14/02/2023 23:33

Blossomtoes · 14/02/2023 22:35

Well I got a card, a bunch of red tulips and a promise of a posh lunch tomorrow. It works for me, as does us telling one another how much we love each other every single day. There are some bitter and twisted people on this thread.

Absolutely.

xogossipgirlxo · 14/02/2023 23:35

FunkyMonks · 14/02/2023 17:48

No me and DH never bother with valentines for us birthdays and wedding anniversary are far more special and those days deserve to be treated as such not a day that businesses push on people to
Spend silly amount of money to prove they love someone.

But I guess each to own...

I spent less than 20 quid, it’s hardly silly amount of money

xogossipgirlxo · 14/02/2023 23:36

Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2023 23:26

There's definitely women that feel the need to cook a nice dinner. Yet they just get a crappy card in return.
The sort of women that do all the house and put out even when they aren't in the mood.

What a weird conclusion to make

Theimpossiblegirl · 14/02/2023 23:42

Dh is on nights this week but still managed a card and flowers. Tulips because he knows I'm not a fan of red roses.
I got him a card weeks ago that I knew would mean something to him and signed it from the dog too.
Small acts of thoughtfulness. No grand gestures but we're good.

midnightblue12 · 14/02/2023 23:53

The only time I've ever really enjoyed valentines was when I was younger and there was A valentines disco at school and I would be excited thinking if I was going to get a card etc.
As I've got older I've completely turned my back in it.
It's just become another excuse for the social media show offs to write a massive paragraph and post staged photos. I even saw someone this year with her husband and kids in matching valentines pjs 😵‍💫
It's not for me. It's not what I thought it was when I enjoyed it - it's just another chance for people to show off.

StandALot · 14/02/2023 23:53

Some people love it, some don't.
its up to the couple themselves if they want to celebrate it or not.
why would what another couple do on valentine's impact on anyone else?

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Aquarius1234 · 15/02/2023 00:19

StandALot · 14/02/2023 23:53

Some people love it, some don't.
its up to the couple themselves if they want to celebrate it or not.
why would what another couple do on valentine's impact on anyone else?

Because some people show off and are smug about it. Don't know why they need to prove themselves.

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