Valentines

[Aquarius1234]

To not understand this day?
Why do all the men rush into supermarket s buying cards and flowers. But most of look like they are miserable as hell..
Yes I'm single but I don't really get why Valentines day exists?

It's like you're looking for reasons for it to be crap when that's not the case for many of us.

Card, chocolate, flowers and a bottle of bubbly here today, and steak for dinner - what's not to like!?

What's not to like!?

The fact that your miserable husband had to get up at 5.30am and you possibly might not be happy with his choice!!!😂

Here you go OP - bit of education for you
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Valentine

Someone mentioned today being for kids.
This is not in response to them directly, but to that point. It's the most fun for businesses! I think it used to be a genuine thing. Then it became monetised. Nowadays, it plays into the insecurity of single people and those in toxic, unhealthy or weak relationships whether married or not. The guilt of men in relationships as well. Most men think it's a waste of time and money. It's usually people who enjoy social media challenges and who buy into 'fitting into society' markers like going on about Elf on a Shelf at Christmas who can't get enough of today. They love Validation Day. Ops, I mean Valentine's Day of course. There are certainly a small pocket of people who are happily married, coupled, or just in love who get the most out of today. They probably don't buy into VDay every year, but occasionally do something for the fun of it. They have an intimate day and it's between them. No pressure, no insecurity, no guilt and that's just fine. As for the types who post on social media about what they got or how much hubby loves wifey on their cab home from the restaurant, then I'm not so convinced there's any love. Businesses win today not couples.

Valentine's Day is tacky. I don't need a shite card, chocolates or a rose and neither does my husband. Probably suitable for teenagers though.

We aren't massively into it, although we did make each other a card. That's it.
But what's with all the bitchiness on here? It happens every year!

Are people threatened by it in some way? Because if you really, really didn't care then you wouldn't come on these threads and slag it off left right and centre? So, I think there's a bit 'doth protest too much' going on

Neve seen so many posts about Valentine’s Day from folk who can’t stand Valentine’s Day! It’s kinda bizarre. More folk posting about ignoring it/hating it/being above it etc than there are folk posting about celebrating it. It’s not compulsory to bother with it and no need to get bent out of shape about those who do.

I don't get it, but some people like it. Some people liking it is basically the answer to most questions of this nature, really. Different strokes for different folks etc.

I never really get why some people get their knickers in a twist over Valetines day. We exchange cards, sometimes a token gift and usually have a nice dinner. I don't judge anyone who chooses not to celebrate it, everyone is different. But the amount of people who feel they need to justify not doing anything by knocking those that do is unreal. It's not a thing for you, fine! Just don't try to pop my heart shaped balloon with scorn.

This! And I’m not exactly living the Valentine’s Day dream right now so there’s no smugness here but jeez, there’s an obsession with hating Valentine’s Day!

I have a very young new work experience colleague and she's enlightened me yesterday about Galentines Day which is apparently when you send a token of appreciation to your girl mates. Apparently in her Uni, Galentines is bigger than Valentines. Who knew?

OP, every thread you start is terminally miserable and pissed off at everyone around you.

That's some serious dedication to being miserable, getting up at 5.30am just to make sure you get your partner a crap gift 😂

I can't stand it. I asked DH to not celebrate it the first year we dated (he brought me a card and flowers the first year). I had an ex who said I obviously don't like it cause no one had done anything for me before but that wasn't the case either...I just don't see why we should show love and gratitude to our partners once a year. It should be continuous.

Haha, you really have to hate your partner to do it 😂

I just don't see why we should show love and gratitude to our partners once a year. It should be continuous

what an insightful and unique opinion…. Newsflash! It can be both (although I don’t think a little reminder once a year hurts).But if you don’t want to do it don’t do it. Do you all get bent out of shape about Mothering Sunday or is it just this date you consider “embarrassing” and “cringe”?

Even more cringe than couples who celebrate v day (not IMO but it has been called cringy on here a few times) is the people bending over backwards to have their sly little digs about how it's soooo beneath them and taking the piss out of people. V cringe.

Totally agree!

I do card and chocolates for him and he does card and flowers for me.

M&S dine in for 2 when DS has gone to bed.

It's cute and I like it.

I don't do it myself. Had one boyfriend who did send me flowers and we went out for dinner. I was young, it was nice and after being single until my late 20s I enjoyed it being me for once.

But now I'm old and cynical. All those men looking like rabbits in headlights worried about not being romantic enough.

If you feel obliged, it isn't romantic!

Married 20 Years - We don't buy each other a present or a card but he's cooking me a nice dinner, with wine and spending the evening on our own together.

They were at 5 30pm earlier near me.
Funny how you also see scruffy men that probably I'm guessing never go into supermarkets regularly . 🙄
I had no idea it would be so busy... Will avoid in future

I agree - went to Asda around 5.30pm yesterday and dh commented about the unusual number of white vans in the car park. Very puzzling - until we noticed an almost constant stream of men in work gear coming out clutching bunches of flowers. It was almost comical.

Ha yeah I don't get it either. DH and I fling cards at each other in the morning rush and then get on with our day!

I like it... We celebrate it privately (as in, no social media posts etc). We swapped cards this morning. After work, we'll order in sushi and play a new board game that we picked out together. Of course nobody needs a specific day to show their love, but life is sooo busy, it can be nice to have days set apart to slow down.