Valentines

[Aquarius1234]

To not understand this day?
Why do all the men rush into supermarket s buying cards and flowers. But most of look like they are miserable as hell..
Yes I'm single but I don't really get why Valentines day exists?

Married 36 years and DH happens to be off today. We're going out for lunch as it's VD.

Swapped cards and he got me some daffodils, my favourite flowers that I had in my wedding bouquet?

What do you find embarrassing about the above?

DH and I don't celebrate it but it's my dogs' birthday so he got a special birthday breakfast

We use it as an excuse to take a day off - in this case we're going to a hotel for a night

For me it's 30 hours without work - and I basically hardly ever get 30 hours off

30 hours?

Roses, card, lunch out….no need to be embarrassed for us! We’re in our 60’s and have always celebrated! It’s lovely! ❤️

No your right it was intended for people to send a card to someone they fancied but the card companies twisted it all for profit.

You don't have to understand, it's just a nice day for many. I'm bit sick of all these "we should show each other love all year round, not only on valentine's day blah blah blah". We do it, but we still like to celebrate this day.

Same here😊

How old are you? It happens every year. This seems quite a bizarre thing to say :/

I think of 14th Feb the same as 31st December. Your not necessarily going to have a good time.
Surely it depends on your mood, plans, work, life in general, current relationship status etc etc.

Even those with great lives relationships etc.
Might get given a card and flowers that they dislike. Rubbish card no thought etc.
Some crappy cheesy cards and chocolates around.

Our tradition is to sit in our PJ's, watch the most awful cheesy horror movie we can find, and eat dim sum. Don't do cards or presents as I always thought Valentine's day was supposed to be the day you secretly let someone know you fancy them, rather than already established couples buying shite for eachother, but I don't resent anyone else's way of celebrating.

My DD went purple when she got a card through the post this morning, we think from the young lad across the road. It's very cute. It's just a sweet, silly holiday.

Can't really see why it bothers you so much. It's just a day.

You've got it all wrong OP, today is the day to go to the supermarket to see lots of men worriedly browsing the by now almost empty flower stand, hoping one of the cards that's left will do. 😂
While you're there, pick up on one of the decent things about this day - the various Valentine's meal deals! DP and I don't exchange tat, but some of the food they bring out is actually really good, and saves us cooking for a night!

It's a "holiday" to make money out of people, but then again most holidays are commercialised. It doesn't matter if others are celebrating it, don't feel embarrassed about going out. I've been with DP for years, have kids together and I only remembered what day it is because of MN. He probably hasn't realised yet. 😂

I'd prefer to go out for dinner or takeaway.
But seriously it's not a bank holiday. Its a normal day of the week. Am I supposed to act differently or something. Or not leave the house as its valentines and I'm single.

Don't be daft. Do what you want. Do you see other people 'acting differently'? Why wouldn't you leave the house? Nobody knows or cares whether you're single. It isn't compulsory for anyone to celebrate or take any notice of Valentine's Day, whether they are single or not. Dh and I get each other a nice card. That's it.

So imo it ruins a normal evening of potentially going out or doing something with a friend or relatives.

Oh no!!! If only there were 364 other days of the year when you could go out without worrying about this non-problem Oh, hang on...

Lovely! 💐💕Congratulations.

I'm going to take the kids to the supermarket later on, let them choose me a bouquet of flowers (hopefully reduced price) and we will arrange them at home. Maybe the younger ones can make some petal pictures or petal perfume.

DH is on a long shift, which he booked by accident and was really sorry about it. I'm not even bothered, I don't celebrate Valentine's day, as another poster said, I only celebrate myself or my marriage.
He bought a meal deal from Tesco last night and heated it up in the oven after a long shift with kids dancing about and served it to me before he got his own plate and said that was his offering. Some people would be horrified but for me that's love.
We don't buy cards even on birthdays because we don't see the point (cost lots and thrown in bin). We are kind to each other all year round, Feb 14th I think is too much unnecessary pressure.

How would you know about the cheesy cards? You don't get one? Do you spend time perusing them?

Even those with great lives relationships etc. Might get given a card and flowers that they dislike. Rubbish card no thought etc. Some crappy cheesy cards and chocolates around.

You're really scraping the barrel for sources of misery and annoyance here, OP Somebody with a great life and a great relationship has to suffer the terrible indignity of getting a cheesy card and some non-posh chocolates once a year? Stop it... you're going to make me cry!

Enjoy 😊

You're overthinking stuff that doesn't relate to you way too much

This happens every year 😆 so much grumpiness over other people enjoying themselves! How dare they!

Funny that nobody says this about Christmas ("you can buy presents for your kids any day of the year, you can make a roast dinner whenever you want, celebrating it on the day is just a bit cringey").

I like sending and receiving cards. Christmas, birthdays, thank-yous, Valentines. In a world of emails and WhatApp, there’s something quite nice about specifically choosing a physical card to send a nice message in to somebody you love.

I think you’re overthinking it.

I shop at all times of the day, there's lots of 'scruffy' men shopping. However there'd be more in areas were there are building sites because at 5.30 they are coming from work.

It’s just a day, enjoy it and do something or don’t, not sure what all the hand wringing is about. I got my boyfriend a card, he said he was going to? It’s a bit of bloody cardboard. He’s annoyed me all morning tbh so am off out with the kids this afternoon on my own as he wants to study. Hopefully he’ll be in a better mood later. We find time to celebrate in other ways just in our own way sometimes we will do something for valentines sometimes not.

DH usually buys flowers for me the day before, so I've got them all day. He willingly does it. However, he's usually doing it on the way home about 11 hours after he left home and hasn't eaten for six hours, so he could well look miserable because he's tired and hungry.

We've been together 28 years and it's something we want to celebrate and have a nice time doing so together. We're all different though.