To this this is odd..

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I've been seeing a guy a couple of months. He's 34, lives with his mum which isn't an issue for me. He has one night a week which is "his and his mums night" in which he doesn't go out. I've purposely said I don't have the children tonight do you fancy going for a drink and he's said no, it's always been this way we all stay in on this night.

Is this weird? Or am I just being a bitch who comes from a family that aren't close? At 34 my mum doesn't know what I'm doing most of the time never mind dictating a night a week I stay in?

Not weird crikey it's family if your close to family treasure it because it seems to mean not much these days to a lot if people. Me and my siblings all in our 30s all have an afternoon or evening with our parents not to mention in-between flying visits. Wouldn't change a thing and we all 4 only moved out recently aswell. We love and adore our parents who arent going to be here forever. I'm well impressed your man has this love of family and you should be proud he does. You got a good man there 🙂

You are fine with him living at home with his mum but not spending a day with her. I

It is a bit odd and in my opinion a red flag. My dh still disappears every couple of weeks to stay with his dm, not caring about me or his dc. This has been going on since i’ve know him, including when dc have been ill, when they’re newborns etc. Nothing comes between the demands of his dm. Would give a wide birth if i were you.

It's not weird... they've just designated that as their family night. In my family we all go back to my mom's on Sunday. We arrive after 4pm and stay until around 8 or 9pm. This happens weekly and we always plan around it.

Designated family night is fine. My in-laws used to do it. Friday night dinner at theirs for whoever was around.
But a grown man being told he can't go out in the afternoon and evening and having to report in from a hotel...that's quite awful. He has no adult autonomy. I bet there is all sorts of other ways he is controlled that you don't even know about yet. Run.