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To write a social media post about how proud I am of DD?

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MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:05

She was picked for the netball team and they won their tournament. I want her to know how proud I am of her and for her to feel special.

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drumandthebass · 12/02/2023 19:25

I just don't know where to start with this. What is wrong with people these days. Why the need to tell the world how proud you are? Just tell your daughter you are proud and leave it at that. People don't know the meaning of modesty anymore and are creating a generation of needy and attention seeking people. TBH honest other people don't give a shit

itsjustnotok · 12/02/2023 19:32

@MrsTickle123 tbh I PM those who matter, eg grandparents, aunts etc. I dont plaster it on SM. The validation of her family is what matters. Unless she in on SM what are you going to do? Show her the post so she can see all the likes and comments? Personally I think that’s an unhealthy thing to start. Too many of DD’s friends think that lack of likes means they didn’t do well enough. I would leave out a general SM post. Tell those close to you and tell your DD yourself! Don’t let her think SM likes are what matters.

buildingourdreams · 12/02/2023 19:38

cstx89 · 12/02/2023 16:33

A lovely news.
Take her out for a nice mum and daughter day. Take a selfie of u both and post saying "celebrating with my baby getting into the netball team"

🤣🤣🤣

DeadbeatYoda · 12/02/2023 19:47

Just tell her you're proud of her. This whole 'it's not real unless I plaster it all over SM is warped.

7spanishangels · 12/02/2023 20:05

My youngest DS has just got his dream job. He has a number of physical disabilities and was written off by so many people. He now has a masters degree and the job he wanted from the time he was 10. Do I want to shout it to the rooftops and let the whole world know of course I do.
would I post a gushing post on social media no def not. Why ? Because anyone who needed to know I would of already contacted and my son would be mortified at my bragging

LikeAStar1994 · 12/02/2023 20:38

Only on Mumsnet it's "virtue signalling" and "attention seeking" to post on Facebook about how proud you are of your children or how proud you are of yourself etc.

People on here are miserycunts.

DuplicateUserName · 12/02/2023 20:42

LikeAStar1994 · 12/02/2023 20:38

Only on Mumsnet it's "virtue signalling" and "attention seeking" to post on Facebook about how proud you are of your children or how proud you are of yourself etc.

People on here are miserycunts.

I'm not sure that's true.

Lots of people see this sort of thing as attention seeking/boasting. Not just on Mumsnet.

2Rebecca · 12/02/2023 20:46

In my family boasting about kids' achievements is called a " my baby farted" post. Tell her you are proud. It looks like you are trying to get proxy glory boasting about her achievements in your social media. Posting in family WhatsApp is fine

AaaaaandBreathe · 12/02/2023 21:31

Confusion101 · 12/02/2023 17:55

If you want to update people I'd probably share a picture of her winning with a short caption "super proud of DD and her team for winning X".

I wouldn't do a long post. Chances are she isn't on social media and won't see it so I don't see the point of pouring your heart into a post about her. I think writing her a card with those words in it would be lovely.

Yes, this is what I usually do. Not a long, gushy sort of post.

newwings · 12/02/2023 21:44

Start her lust for "likes" nice and young.

I would ring family members and share the good news and make a fuss at home and do something a little special like a small treat.

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MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

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gemloving · 12/02/2023 22:06

Don't. The power of social media is bad enough as it is. Don't teach your child that social media matters.

SunshineAndFizz · 12/02/2023 22:09

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

78% of people thought you were unreasonable.

Ah, do it anyway 😂

JudgeRudy · 12/02/2023 22:09

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:08

She is 10, in Year 6. I’m doing it for her as want others to know about her achievements too.

Are you really doing it for her? If you're so sure she'd love it why are you asking? I'll assume you'll show her your post but other than that what are you hoping for...lots of 'well done Beth' and likes from your mates or auntie Sue? People will probably be polite and kind but not that impressed/interested.
She's your daughter, I guess you know her best. Personally I'd prefer a trip to cinema or a takeaway celebration with immediate family.

SnackSizeRaisin · 12/02/2023 22:12

I think this is modern life to an extent. Back in the day we'd have written to our grandmas every couple of weeks and told them about the achievement in that week's letter, we'd probably get a card and cheque in return.

I don't think it's boastful to celebrate your daughter's success in this way.

I'm not sure about the validation by facebook "likes" that seems a bit of an unhealthy message to me. Messages from people she knows are nice.

SnackSizeRaisin · 12/02/2023 22:15

LikeAStar1994 · 12/02/2023 20:38

Only on Mumsnet it's "virtue signalling" and "attention seeking" to post on Facebook about how proud you are of your children or how proud you are of yourself etc.

People on here are miserycunts.

Virtue signalling is something completely different. That's more like when you post that you've given money to charity or bought a coffee for a homeless person

GinIronic · 12/02/2023 22:18

Your poor daughter. How to make her achievement all about you.

IWonderWhyIBother · 12/02/2023 22:18

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

People are commenting, telling you to speak with her like it’s either/or. Weird that people don’t think that you’ll do both.

Snowdropsarelovely · 12/02/2023 22:25

Post it ! I'm always happy to hear good things about my friends children, and I will sometimes post about my own as well. Congratulations to your daughter

Ronhill · 12/02/2023 22:33

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

😕 well done you. Get your daughter expecting 'likes' nice and young...

itsjustnotok · 12/02/2023 22:38

@MrsTickle123 thats it OP you show her it matters because people liked it online.

watchfulwishes · 12/02/2023 22:38

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

This is going to contribute to the low self-esteem you said you were worried about, it shouldn't matter about likes. You're fuelling the problem.

Nevermindthesquirrels · 12/02/2023 22:39

Well done, make sure you emphasise how many like she gets so next time she gets less she can feel nice and crap. Never too early to learn likes= self worth. Obviously the achievement doesn't count if she has no likes and comments. You're an irresponsible fool.

Nevermindthesquirrels · 12/02/2023 22:40

@watchfulwishes exactly. The OP has made it pretty obvious why this child has self esteem issues. What a world. Poor girl.

Testina · 12/02/2023 22:44

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 22:01

Well I did it and it’s got 78 likes and 27 congratulatory comments already. Will show her in the morning.

<shakes head>

It’s really sad that the pleasure of winning and a proud mum isn’t enough for either of you.