To write a social media post about how proud I am of DD?

[MrsTickle123]

She was picked for the netball team and they won their tournament. I want her to know how proud I am of her and for her to feel special.

Sorry this post is why social media can be so pathetic ! FFS just say well done sweetheart, I am so proud of you.

WhatsApp/text the people who will be pleased for her? Family/close friends etc?

Start a family WhatsApp group and put it in there.
Absolutely no one outside your immediate circle will care about this.
Social media should not be used to build a child's self esteem.

No don't do it tell her instead ffs

No. Don't teach your daughter that your actions must be validated on social media.

Of course you're not being unreasonable. I like to hear about kids doing well and so will any genuine friends of yours.

Why on earth are you teaching her to seek validation from social media. This is a bad idea normally, let alone for a child with low self esteem. The whole world doesn't need to validate her accomplishments nor do they need to know she's got low self esteem. It sounds like you have some insecurities around her accomplishments.

I'm far too old to have been bragged about by my mother on social media. I was aware she banged on about my academic and subsequent career achievements to anyone she could pin down, however and it embarrassed me massively.

She never once - in the 59 years I knew her - told me she was proud of me. Not once. I would have liked that.

But is she on social media? And what SM do you mean? Facebook? Twitter? TikTok? Insta?

How will she get praise and feedback from your post?

I think there comes a time when children need to asked if it's okay to write stuff about them on social media, rather than just assume you can ( as a parent.)

I think you sound as if you need a bit of hep yourself, OP, if you have to ask this.

If you expect your SM post to be seen by your daughter, and get 'likes' or whatever, that is a very poor example IMO.

Have you missed all the MH problems that have been caused in young people by SM when they dont get the affirmation they crave?

Not a good example for her.

I have three real life and FB friends who do this and I always either like it or post congratulations because I feel I should but inside I am just thinking "what attention seeking bollocks". They are all lovely people with equally lovely kids and it's beyond me why they do it. Same with birthday wishes "love you lots" to People they either live with or see every day.

Personally I don't do stuff like this but I think it's fine. Your posts kind of sound like you've already done it and have had a bad reaction though?

I never understood this thing. Just tell her or do something special for her.

Tell her, tell her grandparents etc. But I forgot we live in a world if it’s not on social media it didn’t happen

I want her to know how proud I am of her and for her to feel special.

To be honest, it sounds more that you want to show off. If this was your real motive it would be achieved very easily by telling her and mentioning to family when you spoke with them.

That's on of the reasons I like looking at my friends' posts on SM, to find out what's going on with their kids. I'm always really pleased to see that someone's been picked or done well or whatever. It's nice.

No it just sounds smug and about you.You being proud.
Plus with the way things are,I wouldn't highlight a young girl on social media it's not safe imo.
The people who mean the most to her are the ones who will matter to her and help improve her confidence because it comes from the heart and will be a source of constant support.
It will only take a few nasty jealous comments on line or at school because parents have told their own dc about your boast to ruin things for her.
Keep it off social media.

Better to praise effort than achievement generally. Look that up.

Personally, I wouldn't and never have done. I would do something as a surprise - do something nice together - something simiand affordable - go to a cafe, a film, a take away - something she will enjoy and just tell her you are enjoying her doing so well - I think that's all it needs - I don't think telling anyone else will make the slightest bit of difference to her.

If you aren't a serial 'check out my amazing DC' poster (especially when it isn't for actual achievements) or imply others are lesser as a result, then I'd go for it OP. I love seeing these kinds of posts, and they come across as proud rather than boastful to me. I usually say a 'well done for X! I saw a lovely photo your mum posted of you with your certificate/medal/trophy!' to the DC when I see them next. I only have FB friends who I actually like, so it makes me happy when they share that they or their DCs are doing well.

If you want to share her achievements go for it. I love it when my friends post about their children’s sporting wins/loses, scouting, DofE even if they’ve made some cakes. It will be lovely for you in the future when it comes back on memories too.

Please don’t do this. Why do YOU want to do this?

Family whatsapp groups are good for sharing achievements with the rest of the family.

We have his close, mine close, and wide (including cousins etc). It's fab, like the old family telegraph where someone would tell Aunt Edie and she'd tell the world...just a smidge quicker nowadays, not much...

I agree. I love hearing about other people's kids achievements and never judge anyone badly for it.

I share my kids too because they make me so proud. My 17 year old knows I post stuff on FB about them and says Mum's are cringe but in a good natured way, he hasn't asked me not to so I'll carry on until any of them do!

I would tread carefully about making a huge deal out of SM posts in general though incase she feels she always will need that validation if she lacks self esteem. My 8 year old tells me to post some stuff about her and I will but only tell her a few comments. She could possibly be described as over confident at times and don't want her ego getting any bigger 😅

I understand why you'd post something like this on social media, OP. I love seeing Facebook memories about things like this, and am always pleased to read about my friends' kids' achievements or new activities. I tend to use my privacy settings to share stuff like this to a very restricted audience (immediate family and godparents) to avoid the kind of backlash you're seeing here.

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