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To write a social media post about how proud I am of DD?

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MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:05

She was picked for the netball team and they won their tournament. I want her to know how proud I am of her and for her to feel special.

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MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:14

will it sound boastful though? Do you think others would take it that way or just be pleased for us and her. Surely we’re all grown-ups.

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Hellocatshome · 12/02/2023 16:14

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:12

She has low self-esteem and I want others to be proud of her too. I just don’t want to sound boastful or upset others who weren’t picked for the team.

Why would you upset others who weren't picked? They are 10 they already know they weren't picked you doing a post about your daughter being picked will mean nothing to them especially as they shouldn't even see it.

SagittariusDwarf · 12/02/2023 16:14

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:14

will it sound boastful though? Do you think others would take it that way or just be pleased for us and her. Surely we’re all grown-ups.

Yes, it will look like you are showing off on her behalf.

Pirateships · 12/02/2023 16:15

Honestly the best thing you can do for her is teaching her how to be proud of herself without the need for outside recognition. Then it becomes celebrating these achievements with others rather than relying on them for a boost. Personally I'd write a lovely card that she can keep and cherish that's from the heart.

Notimeforaname · 12/02/2023 16:15

It does sound boastful. Dont teach her that its important everyone know your achievements and congratulations you accordingly. She should he proud of herself and not needing others validation.

Cant she just txt/call friends and relatives to tell them the good news instead of presumably using online likes and comments to build her self esteem?

Holiday1999 · 12/02/2023 16:15

If others didn’t get picked (and if that could cause any stress) then I personally wouldn’t. I totally understand being proud of your dd though.

TakeNoTweetsGiveNoQuacks · 12/02/2023 16:15

I wouldn't as I don't like SM (except Mumsnet if that counts)! But it would not be a post which would bother me at all if I saw it. It's a lovely thing and it's lovely you're so proud. I would be too (I just personally wouldn't do the sm post)

buildingourdreams · 12/02/2023 16:15

It's great that you're so proud and she's done amazing but No to the sm post 😬😳

OhClunge · 12/02/2023 16:15

I wouldn't but I think rather than single her out praise the achievement of the whole team
Less cringy IMO

rothbury · 12/02/2023 16:15

Is this a reverse?

leafittome · 12/02/2023 16:15

Maybe focus on improving her self esteem without needing validation from others? I personally wouldn't go down the social media route if her self esteem needs a boost- social media not known for helping that!

saraclara · 12/02/2023 16:16

ShesThunderstorms · 12/02/2023 16:11

If you want to tell others you could just put "DD was picked for the netball team and they won their tournament, yay!" but it's a bit cringe to put anymore I think.
I think I'd probably get her a little treat and tell her just how proud of her I was to her face.

Yep, that would be a lot better than what your OP implied you might say.

Keep it light as it should work, but...
"I am so so proud of tickle 456! She was picked for the netball team and they won the tournament! Love you so much tickle 456, you're amazing!!!"
...would be a bit cringey and open her up to teasing.

Asterales · 12/02/2023 16:16

If she has low self esteem, the very last thing you should be doing is linking her self esteem to the external validation of social media feedback, in my view.

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Jacksfesteringresentment · 12/02/2023 16:17

It won't sound boastful. You're proud of her, let people know!
I would say what a previous pp wrote, that she made to netball team and they won and you're very proud of her.

Don't address it to her, I find that a bit cringy.

If people roll their eyes and think you're boastful, that's their issue, not yours.

Spectre8 · 12/02/2023 16:17

Asterales · 12/02/2023 16:16

If she has low self esteem, the very last thing you should be doing is linking her self esteem to the external validation of social media feedback, in my view.

100% teach her she doesn't need validation external. Its great if it comes but shouldn't be the main source.

megacat · 12/02/2023 16:17

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:14

will it sound boastful though? Do you think others would take it that way or just be pleased for us and her. Surely we’re all grown-ups.

Neither. It's boring. No one cares about your kids achievements except yourself and perhaps close family. Like parents evening or kids football team posts, it's dull.

MrNook · 12/02/2023 16:17

You're overthinking this

MiddleParking · 12/02/2023 16:18

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:12

She has low self-esteem and I want others to be proud of her too. I just don’t want to sound boastful or upset others who weren’t picked for the team.

Well yes, if that’s a risk (and only you can judge that depending on who’s on your social media) then don’t do it. This does sort of make it sound like you would be posting it with parents of kids who didn’t get picked in mind, and want to pre-emptively defend that decision. Which is pointless because if they think you’re being a twat they’re not going to give you a right of response. So best use your own judgement about what you post and who you post it to.

mummabubs · 12/02/2023 16:18

You do you OP, but honestly this sort of stuff makes me cringe. Tell her you're proud of her, if you want a memento take a photo for an album or something. It is an achievement, but it's one thing telling close family who are likely to want to share in her successes, but feels show-offy to want to share it with everyone you know on Facebook. I don't think I fully understand the question posed by the title, but is it essentially 'How do I create a post to get the most likes/ most validation of how amazing I am as a parent?' (Not directed at you per se but it's the thought that springs to my head whenever I see similar posts on social media). If it's really just about telling her how proud you are of her, then just do that.

saraclara · 12/02/2023 16:18

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:14

will it sound boastful though? Do you think others would take it that way or just be pleased for us and her. Surely we’re all grown-ups.

It depends entirely on who your friends are. If you've just got family on there, fine. If you've got loads of local friends and acquaintances (including parents of her school friends) tread carefully.

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Nanny0gg · 12/02/2023 16:20

MrsTickle123 · 12/02/2023 16:08

She is 10, in Year 6. I’m doing it for her as want others to know about her achievements too.

You mean you want to brag.

If that's your thing, fill your boots.

Nanny0gg · 12/02/2023 16:21

Can you just WhatsApp all those that would be pleased for her?