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To think that MNHQ shouldn't let a thread full of men asking for sex chat PMs stand?

280 replies

Getir · 10/02/2023 21:38

I know I can hide the sex topic, but that doesn't make the thread go away.

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Getir · 15/02/2023 19:29

Surplus2requirements · 15/02/2023 19:18

Fair enough, my mistake. Its something that obviously needs close policing, nobody should receive unwanted sexual PMs but from what I've seen the norm is for men to say PM me if you wish.

Sex is a big deal for many people and raises many questions and worries that aren't always easy to talk about irl.

Scrapping the whole sex board would be a mistake imo

I think the sex chat thread should be scrapped. I'm not fussed about the rest of the sex board. TMI comments for trolls to wank over are not my thing but others seem to like it.

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Judeisnotobscure · 15/02/2023 19:30

@mamabear715 the sex board isn’t ewwww! It’s fun, always something new to learn!

everywhichway · 15/02/2023 19:33

mamabear715 · 15/02/2023 19:24

My immediate reaction was the same as @Butchyrestingface - on MUMSNET?
I clutched so hard that my pearls broke! Seriously.. eww.. well, you know.. if that's your thing, fine.. I'll stick to AIBU & chat!

Absolutely the right attitude! If it's not your thing, just give it a miss. But for info, the sexchat has proved to be a hugely popular thread - with men and women alike - over the months it's been running and was in fact, started by a woman. Yes, there are some sleazy individuals on there from time to time, but they are fairly easily ignored, reported or blocked. The vast majority of visitors to the thread are respectful, normal people.

Getir · 15/02/2023 19:37

everywhichway · 15/02/2023 19:33

Absolutely the right attitude! If it's not your thing, just give it a miss. But for info, the sexchat has proved to be a hugely popular thread - with men and women alike - over the months it's been running and was in fact, started by a woman. Yes, there are some sleazy individuals on there from time to time, but they are fairly easily ignored, reported or blocked. The vast majority of visitors to the thread are respectful, normal people.

The fact it attracts sleazy individuals is enough reason for it not to be on MN.

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everywhichway · 15/02/2023 19:43

Oh get over yourself - there's unpleasant and offensive people on many MN threads. Just block or report them if they start to bother you.

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:45

You're wasting your time. If women, single or otherwise want to virtually wank off poor sex starved married men then they should crack on. As long as they know some find it properly creepy. They should really take it off mumsnet though.

I don't agree in closing the sex board, they might spread.

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:46

@Getir what is your problem? Stay away from the sex topic and leave others to enjoy! I'm female and posted willingly. I ask men if there single, if so we have a chat if not we don't.
You sound like a massive busybody who always has there nose in others business.
Time to get a hobby.

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:47

I ask men if there single, if so we have a chat if not we don't

Made me properly laugh that Grin

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:49

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:47

I ask men if there single, if so we have a chat if not we don't

Made me properly laugh that Grin

Same as real life, I can't guarantee if they are or not. I'm not a detective nor choose to be.

Getir · 15/02/2023 19:49

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:47

I ask men if there single, if so we have a chat if not we don't

Made me properly laugh that Grin

Same 🤣

OP posts:
Judeisnotobscure · 15/02/2023 19:49

I don't agree in closing the sex board, they might spread.

Why so hateful?!

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:52

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:49

Same as real life, I can't guarantee if they are or not. I'm not a detective nor choose to be.

Why would you care if they're married or attached. It's all just scratching an itch, fair game.

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:52

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thedogsmababy · 15/02/2023 19:54

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That's a really horrible thing to say.

gamerchick · 15/02/2023 19:54

Why do you care? We're strangers on the Internet. Just get on with it.

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:55

@gamerchick because as said earlier in this thread, if I was married I'd be devastated if my husband was chatting to other women. So I ask. I'd say the majority do tell me there married, I say no thanks, they say np. Easy

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:58

@thedogsmababy really?? More horrible than the other slings said on this thread. No it wasn't. The way OP has such a problem with a group of people legally chatting about sex is ridiculous. The way people are describing men on that post is shameful. If they spoke about women like that she'd be flamed.

Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2023 19:58

The Sex Topic was started in 2015, I remember leading up to it there were loads of requests for one to be started to get all the threads about sex into one place and you had to have been on MN for 90 days to post in it (to prevent pervy trolls).
When did the requirement change to 7 days?

Getir · 15/02/2023 19:59

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:58

@thedogsmababy really?? More horrible than the other slings said on this thread. No it wasn't. The way OP has such a problem with a group of people legally chatting about sex is ridiculous. The way people are describing men on that post is shameful. If they spoke about women like that she'd be flamed.

Most of the men on there are sleazy pervs. HTH

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Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 20:00

@Getir how would you know that?? Do share. Is your husband on there?Smile

thedogsmababy · 15/02/2023 20:01

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 19:58

@thedogsmababy really?? More horrible than the other slings said on this thread. No it wasn't. The way OP has such a problem with a group of people legally chatting about sex is ridiculous. The way people are describing men on that post is shameful. If they spoke about women like that she'd be flamed.

You suggested people be rammed up the arse with a broom to loosen up their anus.

I'd say that's pretty horrible.

Fivetoomany · 15/02/2023 20:02

@thedogsmababy I suggested they loosen the stick that was already in their arse actually.

FriendOfTheNight · 15/02/2023 20:11

Pondering what the underlying reason is for OP's post. We are surrounded to stuff that doesn't please us but why such a strong reaction. What bee is actually under the bonnet. Strikes me hard as an unhappy and crumpled individual.

Also, suspect the sex chatters posting here are feeding the monster.

Sparklingbrook · 15/02/2023 20:12

Another thread today querying why the Sex Topic is suddenly appearing in Active.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4743656-why-is-sex-topic-now-in-active

CinnamonCoffee · 15/02/2023 20:15

Tbf women cheating are twats too!
What gets me is it's so public! Aren't you embarrassed about the cringe of it all?
That's why fab etc works better! It's more private.