To think that MNHQ shouldn't let a thread full of men asking for sex chat PMs stand?

[Getir]

I know I can hide the sex topic, but that doesn't make the thread go away.

Having read threads concerning ‘dead bedrooms’ I can see this is often a complex scenario, rather than black and white I’m afraid.

I'm just seeing the fierce protection of the right to give men virtual wanks. It doesn't matter if it's lonely woman doing it, it's still a fact. I couldn't give a toss if it's not black or white or not. I'd like to hear from the spouses and how they feel about it tbh.

Seriously crack on with your seedy thread. But accept that people think it's shocking that people come here to cheat on their spouse's. Simples.

Why would you assume that everyone on there is cheating on their spouse? And that it is all men wanting a wank..?
Talk about stereotyping!

I'm a single female in my 40s. Intelligent professional with two children. I enjoy sex! I like chatting and meeting new people (of both sexes). I've been on the sex chat thread from the start. Yes, there's the odd sleazy bloke who sends a pervy DM - they're gross, I delete them. But most of the people on there, male and female, have been polite and respectful of others. I wish the same could be said for this thread.

@gamerchick i am a woman close to menopause and I read with interest the opinions of women already there. I see over and over that women are commenting that they can’t be bothered with sex anymore, it’s become a chore etc. So they are essentially forcing celibacy on their partners. And the partner then becomes the bad guy, cheating, breaking up the family, just because his libido hasn’t gone. The scenario can also be applied to men with erectile dysfunction, but I haven’t been following those threads so closely.

What I find shocking is the pity party about not being able to have a shag. Is it justification for the cheating part? Because of course there's no other options. I mean it's not like you can separate. But of course will someone think of the kids!!!
The summary I get is it's ok to cheat because it's my god given right to have sex and fuck everyone who doesn't agree and thinks it's seedy!!

I guess that’s the lens I’m viewing this with tbh. Sex and intimacy have always been an integral element of our relationship, we would both be devastated if either partner removed it due to hormones or whatever. To us it is our right to enjoy sex, it always has been!

But it doesn't matter if you think it's seedy. No one is asking for anyone's approval. If you don't like it don't read it. It's none of your business what goes on in other people's relationships and doesn't affect you in any way, so why get so worked up?

I guess because honesty, integrity and morals are important to me! Cheating is a huge betrayal and a characteristic flaw!
I did read the thread very briefly and then hide it! I'm posting on this thread! But likewise why post here if you don't like it? All those saying so don't look at the thread and defending the seed feast then posting here! Aren't you being rather hypocritical?

Apologies then. Some of us saw the title of this thread and thought you might be trying to get the very popular sexchat thread removed from MN. I'm sorry if we misunderstood.

I read the same threads and it's said it's not fair to force celibacy on their partners. They are advised to either open up the marriage or let them go. Cheating is not acceptable. Put the work in and split up so people can find happiness again, don't take the lazy and seedy way out just to scratch an itch

Exactly. What happens though when the low libido partner doesn’t open up the marriage or let them go? Why is it then up to the high libido partner? They haven’t changed or done anything wrong. Why is wanting regular sex considered to be ‘scratching an itch’? It sounds so inconsequential.

Wait ... there's a sex board? On here?

Indeed there is. Grown up people have sex. Whatever next!

Guaranteed a pervy PM if you post on it.

Only if you’re lucky.

I'll be right back.

Yes unsolicited pervy PMs are what MN is all about these days.

But it's a thread SOLICITING PMs is it not?

The PP was asking about the sex board. Not the sleazy sex chat thread.

I am back. But I will never be the same again.

You will be fine after a dettol bath.

Fair enough, my mistake. Its something that obviously needs close policing, nobody should receive unwanted sexual PMs but from what I've seen the norm is for men to say PM me if you wish.

Sex is a big deal for many people and raises many questions and worries that aren't always easy to talk about irl.

Scrapping the whole sex board would be a mistake imo

Scrapping the whole sex board would be a mistake imo

im not sure that many (or any) posters have said the sex board should be scrapped….i don’t think it should be scrapped

My immediate reaction was the same as @Butchyrestingface - on MUMSNET?
I clutched so hard that my pearls broke! Seriously.. eww.. well, you know.. if that's your thing, fine.. I'll stick to AIBU & chat!

I took @Getir to mean the sex board was the cause of unsolicited pervy PMs across MN