People who have no social media

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I find it intriguing.

Just started working for someone new, was having a nosey looking for them on social media. The man isn’t on it at all, can’t be found, zero when typed into Google, the woman has a Fb profile that looks like from a long time ago, with 29 friends…that’s it, nothing else.
Does anyone find that unusual, or if you’re like this, why?
They are youngish, late 30’s, professional, good looking etc..these type of people usually have the lot on Sm.

I just find it intriguing

I’m more surprised that people in their 30s are so invested in it. A lot of it reeks of desperation and/or narcissism.

I’d have thought it far more cool to actually have a private life and friends and occasions in real life than played out to some abstract idea of virtual ‘fans’ who are following every selfie, cocktail-cheers and shrimp pasta you post!

If you looked me up you’d find absolutely nothing, not even a photo on someone else’s SM (I don’t do photos - ever). I’m disabled due to being violently attacked years ago, my personal life is completely locked down now. Not that I was ever a big SM user to begin with, I’ve always been quite a private person, and my life’s not that interesting 🤷‍♀️

I'm on mumsnet, Instagram and Twitter. I use Instagram and Twitter for inspiration and information but have never posted a thing.

No SM here.
Have an old FB page but haven't posted for years. About twenty FB "friends" still showing but I believe at least two of them have since passed away.

I don't have any social media because I simply don't care what people who I'm vaguely acquainted with are doing, and I don't care at all about telling them what I am doing. If we're friends then we'll catch up by text or in person. If we're not, then I don't want to know your business or have you know mine.

From a practical perspective, I think opening yourself up to people "having a nosey" is far more harmful than beneficial. I don't want someone to pass me over for job interview because of an ill expresses opinion from 2015, or for a potential new friend to decide I'm not their type because of photos of me doing activities they personally wouldn't choose, or whatever. The reverse never happens though, you never look at a photo and think what a great person - it anything those types of photos make you think, "fake".

I ditched all social media six years ago. I'm invisible on Google now. It's great!

34 and only have Instagram for my small buisiness which I update once a week xD I’m not a big fan of social media. Too many gloaters.

I have social media but not with my work or real name. Husband doesn't have any.

I deleted all my SM accounts in my early 30s and haven’t missed them once! It’s mostly insecurity and narcissism - no thanks.

More and more people I know who are my age (late 30s) are deleting their social media.

I don't have any SM accounts and can't be found on Google either. I don't feel I'm missing out at all.

I got rid of my SM because a nosey work colleague just wouldn't leave it alone with searching for me and trying to add me on everything and send me messages. The biggest put off Ive been aware of for others as well is nosey people, a bit like yourself who can't just leave other people alone on SM.

I’m late 30’s and have no SM
I don’t feel like I’m missing anything

I know lots of people without social media but they are on What's App.

I don’t think it’s unusual at all. I deleted FB years ago, have a twitter account
But never use it and there’s no tweets on my feed. I do use instagram but it’s private and strictly only for family and close friends. I ignore friend requests from colleagues who I don’t consider a friend.

The only SM platform I have a public profile on is LinkedIn as it would be expected of me given my role but I rarely use it.

it didn’t exist in 2000 so that’s unlikely

Dh and I are in our early 50s
Neither of us have anything at all social media wise
If someone Google’s my name only the odd planning application pops up. Just with my name on
Apart from that no one can find out anything about us
Which is how we like it
2 of my 3 sons are the same ages 19 to 23
The other has social media presence but only for his photography website

We do this because we don’t want people / strangers knowing anything about us.
Our lives are our business

I know a lot of people under 50 on fb

I've recently deleted LinkedIn. It was utter shit and mainly selfies of men playing golf and doing "business". Or #bossbabes and their over filtered selfies.

It was so unprofessional and boring.

FB: have it but never update.
Instagram: use it very rarely.

I have no social media, had Facebook and Instagram but deleted them both 2 years ago. I read an article where someone described having it as being stuck in a secondary school popularity contest and realised that was exactly how it made me feel. Life is wonderful without it and I’d recommend leaving it to anyone :)

I'm only on twitter but under a different name so not easily identifiable.
Don't have Instagram and definitely not Facebook. Our Fakebook as I call it. Much happier without. Don't need the hassle of it all.

Maybe they are just trying to avoid weirdos who start stalking through social media to find out about them, when they have just met them ?

You do realise plenty of people use different names on social media just for those reasons ?

@OldTinHat ...I'm invisible on Google now. It's great!

I've been vanishing. If you aren't posting much or being posted about you fade away.

Most of my peers (early 30s) have been drifting away from social media so far as I can tell. I post to a couple of boards, have an anonymous Twitter and an account on a site in another language. That's it now. Ten years ago, with the SM of the time, I was far more findable. This drift away isn't to cover tracks, more just disengaging.

My FB name doesn't use my surname as I don't want colleagues finding it. My IG is totally locked and private so only friends can see it. Perhaps they have private profiles under altar egos.